Still in School?

[mmmsarah3]

Are you still in school? of going back for classes? I am and my parents are giving me a really hard time about it. Im 22, and should be finished with school but unfourtunatley I am not. I have been working full time through college and it is taking longer, not to mention I changed my major. Anyway my mom is really frustrating me telling me I need to finish school and that I should wait 2 years to get married (as opposed to only 14 months.) and I still have every intention to. I dont know what the difference would be if I was married or not. So my question is anyone else still in school?

 

[BubMunkeyBles]

I'm in college and getting married, but I graduate a week before the wedding date. College is important. You can go to school and be married, I know lots of people who do. Follow your dreams and follow your heart. I'm on the 5 year plan, lol. It's all good... Tell your Mom its your life.

 

[tink774]

I'm still in college, so is my DBF. We both live at home, and don't plan on getting officially engaged until about a year before graduation (he's a double major, so we might graduate at the same time because he's a year ahead of me) and won't get married until after we both graduate. I'm planning on transferring in a year while he'll probably stay here so we want to wait until after that to get married. We're both hoping to go to grad school, so that will be in the making around the same time as the wedding. Hopefully all will go well!!

 

[misscmac]

I'm still in school and so is my DF. We're hoping to graduate next May and then get married about a year or so after that. We need that time to save up some money (I'm broke right now! )

 

[Pomlover2586]

My DBF and I are planning to get engaged soon [as in the next month or so] DBF is no longer in school, but I am and still have quite a ways to go...I took a year and a half off when I graduated HS in 04. So were planning a 2 yr engagement and are hoping to get married in June of 09. I will probobly be close to graduating when we get married but i'm not sure if i'll be quite done. The way I look at it is getting married is not going to stop me from completing my goals in life, and college is important to me. Good luck with your DBF and your mom......and I agree that it's your life, do what is best for you!

 

[hisprincess]

I am still in school also. I will graduate in December and get married in March. Not to mention that I have a state boards test to take in Februaryish. DF never went, but he talks about going and I have every intention in going to get my masters. It's not impossible or abnormal to be married and go to school. I know a lot of people that are married and going to school.

 

[stitchfan18]

DF and I are both still in school and will have 2 years each left after we are married. I don't think it'll be a problem to be married while we are still in school. We're both going to finish, even if I have to take a semester off to work before I start nursing school in the fall of '08. I've been so impressed with how my parents haven't even complained about our age or not waiting till we get out of school, but then again, they did the same thing we are doing...

 

[stitchfan18]

I am still in school also. I will graduate in December and get married in March. Not to mention that I have a state boards test to take in Februaryish. DF never went, but he talks about going and I have every intention in going to get my masters. It's not impossible or abnormal to be married and go to school. I know a lot of people that are married and going to school.

I agree, i'm taking a couple classes online this summer and most of the people said they were married in their introductions. I know a lot of people do it.

 

[hisprincess]

Yea, your going to nursing school? How exciting, thats what I'm doing right now.

 

[TexasCourt]

Another nurse here! I graduate with my BSN in December!!! I can't wait!!!!!!!!!!

 

[dmslush]

Well, I'm 34 years old, in school working on my MA in counseling and working full time. DF is a full time student just starting out in a prelaw program. Now, that said, we have been together for 11 years, so it really doesn't matter.

If you are married, you will become independent (if you are still young enough that you are considered your parent's dependent on your financial aid), and therefore responsible for your own educational costs.

 

[nicolita3]

I have been married for 2.5 years and I just went back to school in may for nursing. I have been working part time while DH works full time, so far it has been going well. DH is glad that I have decided to go back.

 

[hisprincess]

Another nurse here! I graduate with my BSN in December!!! I can't wait!!!!!!!!!!

Wow, I graduate December 14! I can't wait either!!!

 

[RangerPooh]

DH and I are both still in school. We were married prior to the start of our senior year of college. Both of us have had to work while in school and DH actually returned to school after taking a few years off, so we are both older (in our late 20s). However, I am in my last semester of grad. school and will have my Masters in Elementary Education [fully certified] in December as well as my Special Education endorsement this spring. DH is working on his PhD in Cultural Studies and Education.

I did take a year off as we have two DDs. I was actually in classes until the afternoon that labor was enduced with both DDs. Then I was back in class the following Monday as you don't get maternity leave as a student. But DH and I weren't going to wait to start a family until we were in our 30s and done with school.

 

[tink774]

I've been so impressed with how my parents haven't even complained about our age or not waiting till we get out of school, but then again, they did the same thing we are doing...

Lucky! My parents get nervous every time I mention getting married. They didn't meet/get married until they were both in their late 20s, so they don't like that I want to get married not long after college and before/during grad school. But that's just who I am, I've always wanted to marry young. They just don't understand Any time I bring up marriage or a wedding my mom starts to freak out, "You're not engaged yet, are you?!" Like I wouldn't be broadcasting it as soon as it happens!

But you are very fortunate to have such understanding parents. Lucky for me DBF's parents are like yours and understand our plans.

 

[PrincessLinds]

Well, I have to admit that I can understand your mom's concerns. I wonder if she is just worried that planning the wedding will take precedence over your school work. She may also be concerned about your age. 22 is very young to be engaged these days, and maybe she's worried that you're rushing into marriage. I'm sure she just wants to make sure that you have a chance to be independent. That said...

It is your life and you need to do what's right for you. And if you're sure it's right, and you really wanted to move forward with getting married (rather than just being together) then that's what you need to do. You're mom will come around.

 

[luv4mylittleones]

Well, I have to admit that I can understand your mom's concerns. I wonder if she is just worried that planning the wedding will take precedence over your school work. She may also be concerned about your age. 22 is very young to be engaged these days, and maybe she's worried that you're rushing into marriage. I'm sure she just wants to make sure that you have a chance to be independent. That said...

It is your life and you need to do what's right for you. And if you're sure it's right, and you really wanted to move forward with getting married (rather than just being together) then that's what you need to do. You're mom will come around.

I agree. I was 20 and in college when I got married. We had a baby and soon school was a thing of the past. This is every parents nightmare. I'm now divorced and have three kids. I've since returned to school and it took 4 years just to get my AA! I did however manage to graduate with highest honors, but it was the hardest thing I've ever done! I'm now working on my BA. I regret that I did not get an education first and this is what your mom is worried about. That being said, I'm sure you are a smart girl...and you're desicions are you're own. Please try to understand your mom's fears BUT you must do what you feel is right for you. You mom will come around and she will be there for you. You just need to reassure her that you a mature adult who has a solid life plan. She loves you and worries about you...and she always will.

 

[tink774]

Thanks for the advice, y'all! Yeah, I definitely understand where my mother is coming from. I agree with her that I need to establish myself independently first before getting married, and I told her I won't get married a minute before I know I'm ready for the responsibility and committment. I appreciate that she worries, I just want her to be aware of my opinions, too. My mother is very much against getting married at a young age; it's what her mother did and she's always hated that. She even gets upset when I mention anyone I know who is getting married, having a baby, etc. Rather than be happy for whomever it is, she worries it "puts ideas in my head." For example, she doesn't like that DBF's brother and his girlfriend are about to welcome a new baby. Every time it's mentioned, she says something to the effect of, "Well don't you go doing anything like that!" I guess she thinks I live by a "monkey see, monkey do" philosophy?

Anyway, I intend to take my time when it comes to getting married. Financial planning, long engagement, continuing education, everything. I want to be fully prepared, but on my own time. Parents don't always agree with us on when we're ready for responsibility. If it turns out that after college I want to wait longer before marriage, I will. It's a few years away, so you never know what's going to happen. But it will be interesting to see what unfolds, and hopefully in the end my parents will be supportive of whatever I decide. *crosses fingers for good luck*

 

[luv4mylittleones]

Thanks for the advice, y'all! Yeah, I definitely understand where my mother is coming from. I agree with her that I need to establish myself independently first before getting married, and I told her I won't get married a minute before I know I'm ready for the responsibility and committment. I appreciate that she worries, I just want her to be aware of my opinions, too. My mother is very much against getting married at a young age; it's what her mother did and she's always hated that. She even gets upset when I mention anyone I know who is getting married, having a baby, etc. Rather than be happy for whomever it is, she worries it "puts ideas in my head." For example, she doesn't like that DBF's brother and his girlfriend are about to welcome a new baby. Every time it's mentioned, she says something to the effect of, "Well don't you go doing anything like that!" I guess she thinks I live by a "monkey see, monkey do" philosophy?

Anyway, I intend to take my time when it comes to getting married. Financial planning, long engagement, continuing education, everything. I want to be fully prepared, but on my own time. Parents don't always agree with us on when we're ready for responsibility. If it turns out that after college I want to wait longer before marriage, I will. It's a few years away, so you never know what's going to happen. But it will be interesting to see what unfolds, and hopefully in the end my parents will be supportive of whatever I decide. *crosses fingers for good luck*

Oh...I don't think you need crossed fingers...you're going to be just fine! I only pray my daughter grows up as responsible as you! And I have to tell you...you are so adorable and everytime I see your sig pic I want to cry. You look SOOOO happy...You guys are going to have a wonderful life together!

 

[Silverraindrop84]

I'm in college too! I am graduating in December, and DF already graduated. So we are planning our wedding for next year. We decided that I shouldn't have to worry about planning a wedding during my last semester of school, so it won't be til the end of 2008