My oldest dd is a college sophomore. There are no ex's or stuff like that involved and it is still annoying, trust me.
He married her when the boy was 3, he never adopted him, he does not have his name, he just helped raise him. There never were any child support arrangements for him because he is not leagally his dad!!!
That is very kind of him. My first stepdad divorced my mom when I was 17 and about to go to college, and I never saw him again. This was even worse for my younger brother; he'd never had our dad in the home (dad was living away from home even during the time that brother was conceived) so this guy was his first DAD...if my mom hadn't found and married her childhood sweetheart quickly after that, my brother would be SO messed up... he really needed a father, and they just kept disappearing on him.
Now YOU need to act as kind towards this young man as your husband is.
She hasn't put a dime toward anything, but the dad has. OMG, you mean that this one time she could not do it all by herself? She said she had the money, she just didnt want to do it, she wants her ex(my husband) to to it. He told her no, she did not know what to say. She is the want that does not want to help out. She wants my husband to do it all. We are the ones that dont have the money like she does, we have to not pay one thing to do these things. She does not!!!
All of this would have been *fabulous* info to write calmly in the FIRST post. no one knew it until you said it. Well, those who recognize your story know it, but people like me (I try to not pay attention to the poster, just the post, so it takes a lot for me to start recognizing someone's stories) or new people don't have the background info.
But IMO it's still OK for her to consult with her son's father about these things.
Just because you have step parents don't mean anything, you can't really relate, since you are not a step parent yourself. And as far as me not using my regular name, I am not the only one on these post that does not use there regular name, I never post anything under my regular name, as I have be informed not to!!!
You've been told to not post under your regular name? But if you just post about your life and can be recognized, what's the difference?
I think it's sad that you want to discount the life-stories of step*children*...you're missing out on a huge portion of the whole reality if you dont listen to the kids/adult kids....
This is where you are wrong, his money in my money!!! My money is his money!!! We have a marriage, that is what you do in a marriage!!!
And he has previous financial obligations, which you actually have nothing to do with, as long as (IMO) it's not coming from your earnings.
If he really wanted to know if his dad would help out with the ring then why did he not just ask him like he did his mom and when it comes to him moving in, if he wanted to move in with his dad then why didn't he just ask him. That is between him and his mom and not any of his dad's business. It is between her and her now husband on if he lives there or not.
So now you're assuming that his mom talks to your husband because the son WANTS her to do so?
Why can't she want to talk to him? if your husband doesn't want this level of communication, HE needs to deal with it. Honestly if I were him I wouldn't even tell you about these conversations anymore.
She does not even like the fact that I except the boys as my sons. I may not have given birth to them but I do think of them as my children as well as my own two children. She has blocked the younger son from seeing my FB profle and my husbands (his dad). I am not the one that is jealous, or hateful. This is she. She only spoke to me the first time that I met her, since then she will not even talk to me, I have tried to text her about something when it comes to the younger son, and she will not respond, she has to call my husband, which if it was on the other foot I would respond to her. You guys just don't know the whole story.
Maybe she doesn't feel that you do feel that positively about her children. Maybe she doesn't feel that you think of them in that way.
I am not FB friends with my dad or stepmom, and wouldn't have been with my mom if she were alive...I don't see a problem with the kids not having access to FB profiles of you guys!
Don't talk to her about her son...you obviously have never had that sort of relationship. Talk to your husband and have him talk to her... If you had the sort of relationship where you could chat, you would know. So accept this and move on.
It should at least make you feel better, for your own kids (if you have any or do in the future with him) that he'll hopefully still want to be an involved Dad and willing to co-parent with you, if anything ever happens to your relationship.
Agreed.
She was the one that started the thread, and after her lie was exposed, she disappeared.
Glad I don't got me one of those!
