Spin-Off of Today's Poll: Do You and Your SO Sleep in the Same Bed?

[ronandannette]

Slo's poll today turned up several posts describing how SO's have very different levels of comfortable conditions for sleeping. If you have an SO, do you sleep in the same bed? Have separate beds in the same room? Have separate bedrooms for sleeping?

DH and I do, and always have, share a queen-size bed. It is an absolute treat to stay in a hotel with two queens; we always sleep separately then. I would absolutely LOVE to have separate beds but our bedroom at home really isn't large enough to accommodate them. Separate rooms seem too wonderful to even hope for but it would at least be a possibility if DS ever moves out.

 

[disneychrista]

I have to say, I have discovered that I prefer to sleep alone. I always thought it would be so great to have someone to snuggle up with in bed. But found that I sleep so much better when I am alone.

 

[kymom99]

I have to say, I have discovered that I prefer to sleep alone. I always thought it would be so great to have someone to snuggle up with in bed. But found that I sleep so much better when I am alone.

I can’t sleep with kids. I don’t like getting a foot in my back in the middle of the night.

 

[mumto3girls]

DH and I have been sleeping in a queen sized bed for our entire marriage. Our nest is beginning to empty though (one away almost year round at college and one leaving this month) and I have floated the idea of separate bedrooms. He seems to be totally against it. Our issues are that I am a night owl and he is early to bed and early to rise. In addition, I like falling asleep to the TV and he despises it. We make it work though. It helps that he travels quite a bit so I often get a week or so at a time that I can do whatever I want and I absolutely love those weeks (I actually feel a bit bad admitting that).

Growing up I thought separate beds were for old people as both sets of grandparents slept separately and I didn’t know anyone else who did. My parents slept in the same bed until my mom went into a nursing home. My in laws had separate bedrooms as soon as there were spare bedrooms. It still feels to me like something old people do (even though I am somewhat interested).

Our bedroom is not large enough, but a king sized bed would be nice. We have DVC and enjoy those pretty regularly on vacation. Doesn’t solve the TV and mismatched schedule issues but it is definitely nice to spread out.

 

[tvguy]

DW and I have been sleeping in a Queen size bed for all 40 years of our marriage, no reason to change now. Plenty of room. And I'm 6'2" and my wife is 5'7" so we aren't little people. Stayed in a hotel week before last with a King size bed, we both felt lost in it. We have a couple of friends whose houses we stay at that have Full size beds, we fit in those beds fine too.

 

[disykat]

We had a double until I was nearing the end of my first pregnancy. I insisted on getting a queen. We still have a queen but enjoy a king when we get one on vacations.

For us, it's mainly our very nervous elderly dog. Our previous dog always slept in her crate or under our bed. This dog has always slept at the end of our bed or on her dogbed in the corner of our room. As she is aging, she gets scared and starts climbing all over us. In order to stop this, we've placed her "spot," which is a little round dogbed with edges to snuggle against in the middle of the end of our bed. It's annoying, but it's better than waking up with her trying to wedge herself between our heads and the headboard. A king would certainly be nice right now but we don't live in a home that has room for one.

 

[Buzz Rules]

I’m Catholic, so when I go on vacation with a girlfriend, I sleep in a separate bed (since we wouldn’t be married). I think my past girlfriends appreciated it because they knew I wanted to spend time with them and focus on doing vacation things instead of other things.

 

[Disney_Alli]

Husband and I sleep in separate rooms and have our entire marriage (7 year anniversary coming up). He snores and refuses to get a cpap despite the doctor suggesting one. We also work/sleep almost completely opposite schedules. We only regularly share a bed on vacation when I’m usually too tired to be bothered as much.

 

[Luv Bunnies]

DH and I shared a queen-sized bed for 32 years. When we moved into our townhouse a few years ago, we finally had a big enough bedroom to get a king. We love it! We even got an adjustable base which makes it even better. We had a queen last year on a vacation and both remarked how much we missed our king.

 

[superme80]

We sleep in a Cal King bed, but have separate comforters. When we go on vacation, we usually sleep in different beds.

 

[bcwife76]

Yes, I find it very difficult to fall asleep if my husband is not in bed beside me. We have a queen and up until 8 years ago, we had a double! A king is nice on vacation (a rarity though as we travel with two kids so it's usually two queens) but my husband hates that it's 'too much space' so refuses to upgrade to a King at home

 

[Elle23]

We’ve been married for 31 years and haven’t shared a bed in…a long time (I can’t remember it’s been so long). My husband sleeps in his man cave on a cot (totally his choice!) and I sleep on the king size bed in my/ our room. I work nights so we wouldn’t really sleep together anyway if he did migrate back to the bed.

We shared a queen at ASMo for 10 nights in June and survived!

I don’t know why sharing a bed to sleep is such a big deal. You’re literally unconscious when you’re sleeping! Who cares who is/ isn’t there.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

DH and I sleep in the same bed.

My ex-husband and I had separate rooms... it started off as a scheduling thing, but I grew to cherish the time away from him.

 

[PollyannaMom]

DH and I share, but we have a king. (And he has a CPAP, so he stays on his side once he puts it on.)

I tend to go to bed much earlier, so I'm used to falling asleep on my own, and do fine when he occasionally travels for work. - In fact, I think I actually sleep a little better, but not enough to switch to separate rooms on a normal basis.

 

[Frozen Canuck]

We have always slept in the same room in either a queen (in the past) or king-sized bed (current). That was, until my husband had to start doing several business trips more recently for work, for the first time in nearly three years. This resulted in us sequestering him in our bedroom upon his return (where there is a TV, separate bathroom, etc.) and me moving to the guest room. I feel like I can get used to having the whole bed to myself, despite not moving around much at night and it is so much quieter.

 

[Kitty 34]

DH and I sleep in separate rooms and have for years and years. At the beginning it was because of our jobs. I had to get up early (to teach) and his job had him home late at night. Over the years and with his loud snoring it just continued to be a good idea to sleep this way. We've been together now and probably more content since '84.

 

[AppleDumpling]

DH and I have always slept together in a queen size bed. When we stay in a hotel, we’ll get a king if it’s available. When he had Covid earlier this year, I slept in a different room (DS’ old room) to isolate, and that was the first time in 32 years.

 

[Princesca]

My wife and I have always slept in the same bed, and we usually fall asleep holding hands or at least touching fingertips. However, when we travel with our son, one of us usually sleeps with him in one queen-size and the other takes the other queen, and we swap off each night so that at least one of us gets to sleep. LOL.

 

[Disneylover99]

We’ve had a King over 16 years now. I don’t even know he’s beside me.

 

[slo]

Before my DH got his CPAP he was going to get banished to the tree house he built for my kids when they were little - LOL! I laugh now, but I assure you I wasn’t laughing then

We sleep in a king size bed and we have very different preferences to our cover arrangements. I can only sleep with a sheet and light blanket and sometimes a comforter in the winter. He likes more warmth and weight, so I bought him a twin size electric blanket for his side of the bed (winter only) and he uses the comforter all year (I fold my side over so there’s like a wall between us - LOL). The arrangement works well for us