Spin Off of "Are we being punished..."

[CathrynRose]

Exactly. If they extend insurance benefits to you, then they would have to extend them to all people who just live together. What is the difference?

I appreciate all the comments and negativity towards MY relationship! Thanks!

I posed a question spin-off another...

I get it - Im not married, I live in sin, want benefits I do not deserve, taking the easy way out etc...


I got it - thanks!

 

[dcgrumpy]

I appreciate all the comments and negativity towards MY relationship! Thanks!

I posed a question spin-off another...

I get it - Im not married, I live in sin, want benefits I do not deserve, taking the easy way out etc...


I got it - thanks!

alrighty then

 

[Charade]

Exactly. If they extend insurance benefits to you, then they would have to extend them to all people who just live together. What is the difference?

I found out that my company offers benefits to opposite sex "live togethers" as long as they meet certain requirements like living together for 6 months or more and both contribute to the household expenditures.

 

[lil mermaid]

I appreciate all the comments and negativity towards MY relationship! Thanks!

I posed a question spin-off another...

I get it - Im not married, I live in sin, want benefits I do not deserve, taking the easy way out etc...


I got it - thanks!

Oh come on, you are being silly.

As I stated in my earlier post, there are MANY companies who would offer insurance coverage to your boyfriend. Why don't you go work for one of them?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I appreciate all the comments and negativity towards MY relationship! Thanks!

I posed a question spin-off another...

I get it - Im not married, I live in sin, want benefits I do not deserve, taking the easy way out etc...


I got it - thanks!

Noone is saying you are living in sin--I know I could care less.

You asked if you are being punished--the answer is no you are not being punished for your relationship.

You want the benefits that are guaranteed to those who are one legal entity and you cannot get them and are whining about it.

This has nothing to do with whether or not we believe your relationship isn't real, is sinful, yadda yadda yadda. You do not have a legal arrangement and yoru company is not obligated to do a darn thing for your partner.

So don't twist everyone's opinions.

You are not being punished at all. You are just not getting a benefit that you think you deserve. Benefits are privileges and not rights. You don't like not having that benefit--find a company that does, or get married.

I hope you and your partner have your living will, powers of attorney, and estates in order....without being married and without those documents--you don't have legal entitlement to anything that you are not already in contract for. Not that this would happen--but it could...your next of kin is not your partner and you aren't his. Your family could easily block you....and no amount of begging could change that.

That "piece of paper"--puts the familiy second fiddle and your partner first! Without any extra legal hoops.

 

[JMD]

I found out that my company offers benefits to opposite sex "live togethers" as long as they meet certain requirements like living together for 6 months or more and both contribute to the household expenditures.

It really depends on the state. Every state has different insurance guidlines. Even the same company can offer different coverages in some states and not in others.

 

[Charade]

I appreciate all the comments and negativity toward MY relationship! Thanks!

I posed a question spin-off another...

I get it - I'm not married, I live in sin, want benefits I do not deserve, taking the easy way out etc...


I got it - thanks!

You only live in sin if you believe that living together is against *your* religious beliefs. The heck with others beliefs.

So, if you want to live together and one of you be on the others benefits plan, you have some choices available if you want health benefits.

You can get married at city hall and get your marriage license.

You or your SO can find another job that provides benefits to unmarried couples.

I don't think your situation is unfair or you're being punished. You have other choices you can make to get what you want.

 

[phorsenuf]

I appreciate all the comments and negativity towards MY relationship! Thanks!

I posed a question spin-off another...

I get it - Im not married, I live in sin, want benefits I do not deserve, taking the easy way out etc...


I got it - thanks!

Geee.....I didn't really read all that in those replies. You asked a question, got some answers that obviously were not what you were hoping to hear.
Maybe if you had more of a compelling argument of why not to get married than not believeing in a piece of paper it would have gone differently.

 

[luvmydogs]

I appreciate all the comments and negativity towards MY relationship! Thanks!

I posed a question spin-off another...

I get it - Im not married, I live in sin, want benefits I do not deserve, taking the easy way out etc...


I got it - thanks!

I, for one, don't believe you 'live in sin', nor do I necessarily think that health benefits are not deserved in your circumstance. Actually, I was glad to read from other posters that certain benefits are being given to those who choose to live together in a committed relationship. Considering that there are many, many married couples who's marriages aren't the most loving and committed, I would never think of characterizing your relationship as not as valid just because you lack a marriage license. But that paper (which homosexual couples do not have the option of getting) does give you legal rights that allow you certain legal benefits.

That was your question, if I'm understanding correctly; and if I offended with my answer (and I don't really see where others came down harshly on you, either), I do apologize. I'm not into judgements or hurting feelings if I can help it.

 

[JMD]

I appreciate all the comments and negativity towards MY relationship! Thanks!

I posed a question spin-off another...

I get it - Im not married, I live in sin, want benefits I do not deserve, taking the easy way out etc...


I got it - thanks!

No need to get upset, I don't think anyone is implying that at all. No one is saying your relationship isn't valid.

You asked if you were being punished because your not married. I don't think so. I was speaking from a legal standpoint. Insurance is a legal contract that you sign. Marriage is legal contract as well. Insurance companies recognize the legal contract of marriage and provide coverage for it. Since most insurance companies view a married couple as one entity, they share in the liability. Their is no legally binding way for 2 people to share in the liability if they are just 2 people living together.

 

[lulugirl]

I appreciate all the comments and negativity towards MY relationship! Thanks!

I posed a question spin-off another...

I get it - Im not married, I live in sin, want benefits I do not deserve, taking the easy way out etc...


I got it - thanks!

I think everyone reponded to your question in a respectful manner, some of us just don't agree w/ you.
"living in sin?" I think you are the only one who said that, nobody else cares.
Yes, I do think you feel entitled to a benefit you don't deserve.
Your above post strikes me as rather childish.

 

[Deb in IA]

Marriage is a legally defined relationship. It is more than insurance benefits.

Have you ever thought about what would happen if your BF were to suddenly become incapacitated?

Who would be making the decisions on his medical care? Not you.
It would be his parents. And if you disagreed with them, as in the Terri Schiavo case, since you are not married, it would be the parents that would have the last word.

 

[Missy1961]

You only live in sin if you believe that living together is against *your* religious beliefs. The heck with others beliefs.

So, if you want to live together and one of you be on the others benefits plan, you have some choices available if you want health benefits.

You can get married at city hall and get your marriage license.

You or your SO can find another job that provides benefits to unmarried couples.

I don't think your situation is unfair or you're being punished. You have other choices you can make to get what you want.

Well said. Like so many other posts on this thread.

 

[Marseeya]

I don't think it's all that unfair.

What I do think is unfair are the couples who feel they have to get a divorce in order to be eligible for good medical care after retirement. I don't know all the details, but I've known a few elderly people who had to divorce just to get proper health care for themselves. It was heartbreaking.

 

[mickeyfan2]

If you want him covered, then get the piece of paper. No you are not being discriminated against. Any man and women can get that piece of paper. At this time, a man and man or a women and a women cannot get the piece of paper. Once they can, they will need the piece of paper too to get their SO covered.

Why not get the paper if you plan on being together forever? Could somebody please explain this to me?

 

[caitycaity]

No, I don't think you are being punished. With marriage comes benefits and risks, it sounds like you want the benefits w/ out the risks. JMO.

I AGREE!

 

[IceQueen777]

I appreciate all the comments and negativity towards MY relationship! Thanks!

I posed a question spin-off another...

I get it - Im not married, I live in sin, want benefits I do not deserve, taking the easy way out etc...


I got it - thanks!

Wow, what drama!

I agree with all of the other posters...you have options available to you (including getting the "little piece of paper"), while gay men and women do not have that option.

If you want the benefits, get the stupid piece of paper.