Sons 13th bday this weekend- would this irritate you? (NOT rsvp related)

[Mermaid02]

LOL!! People who know me know that I don't take hints very well. If someone brought me groceries, I'd be thinking how nice it was of them to help us out with our food budget rather than a statement about how I don't serve anything they like. If someone brought me perfume, I'd be thinking it was a gift rather than a statement that I stink.

Sometimes being autistic is a good thing! I'd never be able to navigate all the silly social rules people make about what we should be reading into other people's remarks or actions. I take things at face value and, more often than not, put a positive spin on it.

So if you think my cooking is bad, then either tell me how you like it (and I'll make it that way for you) or don't eat it. If I stink, pull me aside and be nice about telling me. If I ask for suggestions about how to improve that (because really, I don't intentionally want to offend people I like), please offer constructive suggestions.

Personally, I think 1:00 on a Saturday is lunch time. Especially if we had to drive any distance to the function.

Do you have PDD or Asperger's? My son has PDD- I worry about him, I'm always interested in hearing from adults with this condition!

 

[Carly_Roach]

Do you have PDD or Asperger's? My son has PDD- I worry about him, I'm always interested in hearing from adults with this condition!

I was diagnosed with Autism (highly functioning) in 1991 - very late in the game for me as I was 26 before I finally found out what was "wrong" with me. The conjecture was that it might have been caused by a lack of oxygen when I was born. My mother had a difficult labor with me. I haven't explored the "spectrum" because there's really no need to. I know what I got, I live with it, and it's a part of who I am.

I grew up being the kid who fidgetted too much, the borderline retard, the kid who no one could understand, the screw-up, the anti-social, the socially inept, the idiot, the weirdo. Name your label - I had it. I survived and, to tell you the truth, the survival made me a stronger and better person. I learned the hard way that not everyone is going to excuse you because you have a condition. Self-control is (and can be) learned. Controlling my tics is an issue I have to master every day.


DH says one of the things he loves about me is that he can tell me anything and I rarely get offended. We're a good match because I tell him everything and he rarely gets offended, too.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Stuff like that doesn't bother me. I look at it as more about them then me. It is a very freeing way to live. I don't live in the past.

I would just look at your dad and stepmom and insecure and then not give it a second thought.

Some people are blessed to do that. I unfortuantely am not and have spent years in therapy. I am miles ahead of where I used to be. I can at least stand up for myself now. But sometimes it isn't so easy to "free oneself" to do such things.

OP here is just venting--she didn't go off on her mommy like I never go off on my daddy.

 

[Bob NC]

I would thank her for bringing sandwiches.

 

[focusondisney]

Hi!! I think Emily Post & Miss Manners would say you are under no obligaton to serve food others bring to your event. Thank them for the "Hostess Gift", take it to the kitchen & save it for yourself. Lunch for the family tomarrow!!! LOL!!!!


Only kidding of course! Like most others I think 1 PM is lunch time. I would be happy to have someone else pay for lunch for 17 people while I do the munchies!! And if there's leftovers, you will have lunch the next day.

Op, glad you were just asking & not really upset. Happy Birthday to your DS. Hope he has a great party!