Sometimes people are such slugs

[mrsltg]

I work in a small department of a large company. I found out today that two of my coworkers are having an affair - with each other. Now, here's the kicker-

- The man professes his love for his wife on a regular basis. He has discussed how he has remained faithful to her for their 20+ year marriage. Apparently this is a big deal because his first marriage failed over his infidelity. I have met his wife and we get along very well. To say this man has married up is no understatement - his wife is a wonderful person.

- The female is also married and has two small children. She took the opportunity at one group dinner to lecture everyone on the evils of Harry Potter and witchcraft while letting everyone know not to be surprised in 15 years when all of these kids are no longer Christian. Fine. Wanna be a holy-roller and cast stones? Maybe you should keep men you're not married to out of your bedroom!!!

Anyway, the whole situation has just made me sick. Speaking to these people is ridiculous - it's hard to professional when you have absolutely no respect for someone. Yes, I am certain this is true. I am also certain that 5 people now know about the tryst out of 25 of us. The couple was not discreet at a work off-site and were unfortunately located in the room next to someone else from the group. Apparently they were vocal. It's only a matter of time before everyone knows (no, I'm going no further with this information) and people get hurt.

Sometimes people really disappoint me.

 

[Deb in IA]

Ugh.

If is it one thing I can't stand, it is a hypocrite.

Sorry, mrsltg . . .

 

[Hedy]

Ugh. Their poor families.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

I can understand your feelings. It really is a shock to the system. And all you really want to do is walk up to them and tell them what slugs you think they really are and to keep the BS they spew to themselves.

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

I never realized how niave I was until I started working here-- 17 years ago!

I have seen more people do things around here than I care to admit. Infidelity is a very big issue here!

 

[Missy1961]

I can understand your feelings. It really is a shock to the system. And all you really want to do is walk up to them and tell them what slugs you think they really are and to keep the BS they spew to themselves.

Exactly. Especially since they are such hypocrites. Yeck.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

 

[mickeyboat]

What is wrong with people?

Denae

 

[General Xho]

I guess the hypocrisy is bad, but the infidelity would repulse me whether they were proud of it or not.

 

[JR6ooo4]

HEY! Quit badmouthing slugs. Have you ever seen a slug (snail) cheat on his wife?

I always thought that being a slug was just moving slowly, maybe leaving a slimy trail.

I think the couple should be referred to as "low-lifes" or something similar...

The preceding message was not endorsed in any way by IASA.

(international antidefimation of snails association)

Mikeeee

 

[Barbossa]

If I was in that situation, the urge to rat them out would be strong. I don't know if I'd do it (talking about opening up a larger can of worms), but the urge would be there.

 

[mrsltg]

If I was in that situation, the urge to rat them out would be strong. I don't know if I'd do it (talking about opening up a larger can of worms), but the urge would be there.

The urge to let his wife know is there, but how could anyone hurt her that way? Unfortunately this is one of those things I have to pretend I didn't hear and I don't know.

Thanks for the support from all. It's amazing how badly I feel about this when it has nothing to do with me other than sheer disappointment.

 

[General Xho]

Send her an anonymous email. That dude may be bringing home some STD's. Those hurt too.

 

[SplshMtn99]

Was this a one time thing at the off-site work event or has it been an ongoing affair?

Not that it makes a difference in the cheating dept, but it might in how I few what they used to preach. Were they preaching while they were cheating?

I've worked in SMALL offices. The stuff you learn about people. jeesh!

 

[mrsltg]

Was this a one time thing at the off-site work event or has it been an ongoing affair?

Not that it makes a difference in the cheating dept, but it might in how I few what they used to preach. Were they preaching while they were cheating?

I've worked in SMALL offices. The stuff you learn about people. jeesh!

I don't know. They travel - a lot - and often to the same places. It's not like I can say, "so xxx, how long have you been nailing the help?"

The preaching on her behalf was at the dinner that was apparently the prelude to the event... They were sitting together and across from me and the whole time they kept drinking - more and more and more. Being in no shape to drink, I had the fun of watching people and shake my head. They were flirtatious, but I never thought anything of it other than, "I guess they're having a good time."

He told me this other stuff before the event. I always thought it was a little weird to discuss with a colleague (me), but whatever. I am a friendly person and listen well so I figured he just wanted to talk.

As far as his wife is concerned, I have no way of contacting her other than calling the house and I am just not going to do that.

 

[disneyfan67]

To the OP, I have to give you credit for not getting in both of these peoples faces and letting them know that most everyone knows what they're doing and what pathetic hypocrites they are for doing it.

It gotten to the point of being absurd on how many of these so called religious people don't follow the same lifestyles they preach about. I have seen way too many, so called Christians pick and choose what they want to hear when it comes to the teachings of the Bible. It's only when it convenient to them, it seems.

You're far kinder than me. If that woman even so much uttered one word about being a Christian and made that hypocritical speech on how bad Harry Potter was, I would have asked her in front of everyone, isn't adultery a sin too? Would Jesus approve of two married adults carrying on an affair in the work place?

People, me included, are getting really tired of this hypocritical behavior from these types of "Holier than thou" people and politicians. It's gotten past the point of ridiculous. I would speak up and let the truth be known, but in a way that it doesn't affect your job. Maybe an anonymous letter or a call to the spouses of these two, will start the ball rolling.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

Well, at least you don't have to put up with the woman dissing Harry Potter anymore.

Oh, really? Witchcraft? You know what else I hear is bad? Adultery.

 

[Stitchfans]

From what I hear it isn't all that uncommon spouses cheating on each other. DH is a truck driver and he says plenty of the drivers brag about it.

 

[Galahad]

Well, at least you don't have to put up with the woman dissing Harry Potter anymore.

Oh, really? Witchcraft? You know what else I hear is bad? Adultery.

I read a quote once - something like "hypocrisy is the lip service we pay to having standards". Like another poster said - I'm much more bothered by the Adultery thing that the hypocrisy. We're all hypocrites in some small way or another eventually. But once I know about an affair I really have a hard time maintaining a normal discourse with the person.

 

[princesspiglet]

I feel for you. The same thing happened to me about 6 years ago and my second job out of college. I found out by accident that my direct boss (VP level) was having an affair with the manager. I had to do his expense reports and his receipts he gave me did not match up with the payment due on his card. Thinking someone had used his card I started digging a little deeper and found out he was sending flowers to this manager. I started paying closer attention to their interactions and noticed they were very friendly with each other. I finally got proof at our company Christmas party when I watched both of them sneak away 5 mins apart. I followed them and watched them walk into his hotel room together. I actually listened at the door! ( I was young, what can I say!)

I was really disapointed in him because he had a wonderful wife who was 6 months pregnant at the time with 3 other young kids. The manager was a ho and I could care less about her, but she was also married with small kids.

Anyway, I went into his office a week later and confronted him with my proof. He BEGGED me to not tell anyone else, especially his wife. He offered me a $10k raise and a promotion, but I turned him down. I definetly did not want to work for someone who would not only cheat on his pregnant wife but also bribe me to keep it a secret!

I quit 2 weeks later.