Something About Nothing.......part 2 (please join us)

[JawsCPA]

Thanks for the wake up call Fletch. Evidently here at the hotel, I set the alarm for pm instead of am. Glad I had you as my backup.

Barb, when I get back tonight, I expect to read about your last day of HH work.

Marcie - some sympathy for you and the boy's grades. Our school system has "Edline" network. This allows the teachers to post the grades and parents/students to check them. This is much better than only the 9weeks report card. This is our first full year with this. Of course, some teachers are better at keeping current than others. Well, last night, I checked to see if anything new was posted. And we checked out science. Are you ready - 56 "F". There are only about 6 assignments, but still???? I am sure the science book will now be trotted home EVERY night. I talked to him last night - he had no idea!! He hasn't brought any science home to study, etc. all year. There will be some changes in the Jaws household!!!

Marcie - just to let you know, we all have "woes" with the kids. It's called the Joy of Parenting.

Well - need to get ready for work.

Jennifer

 

[tlinus]

Marcie - some sympathy for you and the boy's grades. Our school system has "Edline" network. This allows the teachers to post the grades and parents/students to check them. This is much better than only the 9weeks report card. This is our first full year with this. Of course, some teachers are better at keeping current than others. Well, last night, I checked to see if anything new was posted. And we checked out science. Are you ready - 56 "F". There are only about 6 assignments, but still???? I am sure the science book will now be trotted home EVERY night. I talked to him last night - he had no idea!! He hasn't brought any science home to study, etc. all year. There will be some changes in the Jaws household!!!

Marcie - just to let you know, we all have "woes" with the kids. It's called the Joy of Parenting.

Well - need to get ready for work.

Jennifer

We have it too.....called the power portal. BEST.INVENTION.EVER. This allows me to find any missing homework/classwork as well and drill her about it

as our Middle School has a zero tolerance policy for late assignments. You don't hand it in on time, you get a 0. Absent students have one day (from the return date of absence) to complete the assignments and turn them in - most of Kbean's homework is posted on the staff eBoards, so there is no reason to miss anything, except if she doesn't have the book home.

ahhhh......the Joys of Parenting (especially to teenagers

)

 

[tlinus]

Good morning!

GOOD MORNING TO YOU TOO!!!!!

 

[ky07]

Morning homies ,
Just wanted to let you guys know that I won't be posting hear for awhile due to what I think is an unfair infraction for just joking around on another part of the board and if ya get attacked and can't defend yourself without getting infractions for it then its just not worth it cause they have freedom of speech and I don't but anyway you homies are great.
So I guess its later Gators and Barb, Mac and the rest I hope to be able to meet you guys at Universal and love all you homies.

 

[keishashadow]

Isn't that a Pokemon?

who u calling fat?

 

[keishashadow]

Morning homies ,
Just wanted to let you guys know that I won't be posting hear for awhile due to what I think is an unfair infraction for just joking around on another part of the board and if ya get attacked and can't defend yourself without getting infractions for it then its just not worth it cause they have freedom of speech and I don't but anyway you homies are great.
So I guess its later Gators and Barb, Mac and the rest I hope to be able to meet you guys at Universal and love all you homies.

we'll miss u, come back soon

 

[tlinus]

Morning all!!!

Warning – very long, post/rant/pass the bad mommy award over ahead!!
ketchup at this point is not going to happen

- I am so far behind, so forgive me ??? Thanks!!!

I do know that I need to tell janet that I am so very, very sorry about your losses - hugs and prayers for you and yours.

so the meeting at the middle school went well. kbean continues to improve in all classes and they made some interesting observations that she may need to be assessed for ADD/ADHD. See waaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyy back when she was 4 she was in preschool and the teacher noticed she was acting out (biting/hitting, etc) They wanted her seen by the intermediate unit for a possible learning disability. I take her and lo and behold, its not a negative disability, but a positive one (sounds weird....I know). She was 4 years old and at the reading level of a 6.5 year old or second half first grade student. She was comprehending what she was reading, her writing skills were overly impressive and her ability to articulate was way beyond that of a 4 year old. We knew she could read and write very well by 4 and you could hold a conversation with her and understand everything she said and vice versa. Here she was bored. They moved her up to the K class and all of the issues stopped. She excelled and did VERY well for the rest of the year. Upon entering K she was already well ahead of the rest of the class so the issues began again but there was really no opportunity to move her up to 1st grade. All of her grades were excellent, except for behavior which was ALWAYS "needs improvement". We put her in Catholic school for grades 1-3 and she sort of stagnated and, as is the case today, homework was a bear! She was climbing the freaking walls!!!! No extra push or challenge for her there at that particular school. In 4th grade we sent her back to the public school as they had a gifted program....she tested and her scores, while extremely high, were just shy of what was "required" to get in to the program. Now, at the time we were not in the best of school districts – kids were mean and always fighting. By mid year, we pulled kbean and put her back into the Catholic school and any thoughts of her being gifted were kind of put on the wayside and with that any thoughts of ADD/ADHD issues. That is my fault, I guess. I should have pushed a bit more asked more questions, because fast forward to today (meaning mid-year/7th grade) and her issues are getting progressively worse. She is not getting grades that would be consistent with the mental abilities she has. The psychologist asked me three questions and after my answers and talking with kbean for a bit HIGHLY recommends the testing for her……could make a world of difference for her. She asked me 1) Can you ask her to do 3 things and have her complete all three? No. One Two if we are lucky and the tasks are related to each other. 2) Is she impulsive? Um – yeah, very! 3) how organized is she? Not at all. She has absolutely NO organizational skills at all, whatsoever!! No matter how many times I set her up, organize her binders, whatever. So now I need to get this assessment/testing lined up. We need to help her out, because next year and through HS are going to be even more challenging for her as the coursework increases and gets harder. KWIM??

Wowzers …..sorry about the unloading, but I had to get it out!! Thanks for reading along. Its making me feel like a failure as a parent, but the psychologist told me that you would never think there is anything “off” about kbean, because she carries herself so well (her vocabulary use/skills and conversation abilities far exceed that of a 12 year old or 7th grader). So I guess that is a good thing, right?

Anyway, that is what I have been up to – among all of the other normal day-to-day crazy crap that I go through with the other beans and kids I pick up from school and whatnot.

I really, really, really, really need a vacation!! LOL!!

 

[t-and-a]

Mornin' Homies!
I found you!!! You may think I've not been around, but I have been in and out....just trying to read and "ketchup"....difficult task.....takes FOREVER!!! I guess you can say I've been in "lurk" mode....Too much going on to comment on everything, but wondering what in the world happened to Lawrence....did he get suspended from the DIS or something, but was allowed to come here and say goodbye..... I missed Marcie's post about grades, but we also have an online grade viewing system. We used to have Edline, but now we have Pinnacle. I have to agree with Jennifer and Tracie that it is a WONDERFUL tool that no parent should be without! Although I do wish that my kids work was posted like Tracie's Kbean's work is.....DS13 (soon to be 14) has one really good teacher in particular that will e-mail me when she sees a problem or when there is a VERY IMPORTANT assignment. Zack has some memory issues....forgets everything...and this teacher knows how he is. I don't know if you remember or not, but I told you guys about my last parent/teacher conference with her and she told me that Zack was "so blond....blonder than any girl" that this teacher knows!

Mac, you asked about February birthdays....my Zack (DS13) will be 14 on February 14.....Valentine's Day....now that's really something considering that Jacob (DS10) will be 11 on May 11, which happens to be Mother's Day this year and was also Mother's Day in 1997 when he was born....DH and I have said that if I hadn't gotten my tubes tied after Jacob, we would have probably had a Millenium baby.....

Well, I'm running late for work.... so I better get off here!!!! C-ya's later!

 

[tlinus]

Morning homies ,
Just wanted to let you guys know that I won't be posting hear for awhile due to what I think is an unfair infraction for just joking around on another part of the board and if ya get attacked and can't defend yourself without getting infractions for it then its just not worth it cause they have freedom of speech and I don't but anyway you homies are great.
So I guess its later Gators and Barb, Mac and the rest I hope to be able to meet you guys at Universal and love all you homies.

Awwwww. Lawrence - Don't let those others spoil your enjoyment here. Stay here and ONLY HERE!!!! But if you still decide to go - we'll leave the light on for you homie!!!

 

[keishashadow]

hi allison

tracie - imo u sound like you're on top of things when you described the 3 questions from the psychologist i couldn't help but think that it sounded exactly like ALL of my DSs @ that age.

They had a difficult time transitioning from parochial school to public; so far ahead they figured they could coast & still get A's...only worked for a year & the whole new-found "freedom" didn't help any. IMO, some kids work best under a highly regimented structure.

wonder if your DD is just not being challenged enough to hold her interest in the 1st place. regardless, the testing should give you an idea of what course of action will best help her to succeed...don't give up - good luck

soon off to the dentist to finally get broken filling replaced - wonder if he misses me...has been nearly 2 months since we last met

 

[bubba's mom]

That's because my pic is on the DIS community photo page... and that is as tempermental as all the other boards on the DIS...

You don't use photobucket or online hosting site?

Checking in for the evening!

4 days of swimming left and counting!

YAY!!! We'll get our KFed back!

I took Daniel for his 6 month cleaning at the dentist this afternoon. He cooperated quite well and kept his mouth open the whole time.

Of course, he was screaming his bloody head off, so the open mouth was just a side effect.

Oh my....I feel so sorry for you...but, they got cleaned nonetheless He at least will sit there for you (maybe some "prize" incentives?)...a client of mine who's kid is in Kindergarten will NOT sit for the dentist....Heck, he only started 'sitting' for me THIS year to cut his hair Kids that age are extremely afraid of the unknown....and what they associate 'unknown' with is 'doctors' and THAT is NEVER a fun place

can you overdose on marshmallow?

oh nooooo Penny.....

Couple weeks ago I was with my dd20 and my grandson. We were at a grocery and some random lady walks past me, reaches out and touches my hair and walks on. My dd was like. . .omg, did that random lady just touch your hair. . . sick. . . maybe she wiped but didn't wash. I was like. . omg, YOU my dear, are sick (now I have to go home and wash my hair).

Everyone thinks long hair takes so much time, but I think shorter hair that requires lots of styling time takes so much time. My hair takes a long time in the shower. . . forever to rinse. . . but I can dry the front and pull it up in 5 minutes. I wash it every day too.

First, why did you not turn around and slap that lady?? That is just rude, ignorant and well, yuck! What is wrong with people???

But, you ARE correct, longer hair is easier to do than shorter....shorter you must style and 'attend' to each day...longer hair, not so much. When I had Bubba, everyone told me to cut my hair (which, was not too far past my shoulders at the time). Dunno why? Told them it was easier to just throw it up real quick when I needed to So, yes, I will agree longer IS easier.....but too long doesn't do a thing for most people....like Crystal Gayle....oh how I want her to cut it and DO something....anything....

Hey, I need some help from all you Southwest experts.

DM and Bev are correct...see their site: http://www.swamedia.com/help/boardingschool/index.html

(yes, DS15 holds on to clothes that SMELL like his girlfriend and won't let me wash them! Yeah, he's obsessed!).

So the rest of our day was OK but our DD 12 is punished I had to retrieve her cell phone from the dean of her JHS and well we are not happy with her so she will do without the phone for a month or so . I am really upset with her .

Welcome to the "Mean Mom" club Hope your daughter 'gets it' now that she lost her phone for a month....just don't forget to give it back! (Once, we grounded Ryan from internet games for 2 weeks.....after a month, we totally forgot we did that....till he had to come to the salon with me... [he will use my laptop and play internet games while I am working])

As far as 'saving clothes' for the 'girlfriend smell'.....buy him a bottle of her perfume...problem solved

 

[bubba's mom]

Can we share?

Lori....I don't know about 'sharing' the Mean Mom Award, but since Mary is also a 'mm', I've started a club. So, our member count is 3.....so far

Thanks for the wake up call Fletch. Evidently here at the hotel, I set the alarm for pm instead of am. Glad I had you as my backup.

Marcie - some sympathy for you and the boy's grades. Our school system has "Edline" network. This allows the teachers to post the grades and parents/students to check them.

Glad I'm not the ONLY one who mixes up 'a' and 'p' every once in a while

We also have an online system to check the kids grades and such. It's called "Lettergrade"...altho, I'm not sure why, cuz the elementary school uses numbers on their report cards, not letters? Hardly ever use it tho....

They had a difficult time transitioning from parochial school to public; so far ahead they figured they could coast & still get A's...only worked for a year & the whole new-found "freedom" didn't help any. IMO, some kids work best under a highly regimented structure.


soon off to the dentist to finally get broken filling replaced - wonder if he misses me...has been nearly 2 months since we last met

Ya know...(well, actually you don't which is why i'm tellin' ya), i went to catholic skool grades 1-4 and did very well with my grades. 5th grade I went to public skool, and that all changed. I think the catholic skools are stricter and, like Janet said, more regimented...every piece of paper I wrote on, had to be signed by parent.... But, it was short lived....only 4 years and that was enuf....unlike my ex-sister...who had zero years in catholic skool...at lookit the mess she is

Good luck at the dentist...tell him to fix ya up real good .....that is, IF he remembers you!

 

[bubba's mom]

Morning homies ,
Just wanted to let you guys know that I won't be posting hear for awhile due to what I think is an unfair infraction for just joking around on another part of the board and if ya get attacked and can't defend yourself without getting infractions for it then its just not worth it cause they have freedom of speech and I don't but anyway you homies are great.
So I guess its later Gators and Barb, Mac and the rest I hope to be able to meet you guys at Universal and love all you homies.

Hopefully you won't be gone too long Lawrence....keep in touch...let us know.....email, im, or myspace contact one of us.... (i have those)

Mornin' Homies!
I found you!!! You may think I've not been around, but I have been in and out....just trying to read and "ketchup"....difficult task.....takes FOREVER!!! I guess you can say I've been in "lurk" mode....

OH...so that was YOU in the dark shadows of the bushes outside last night keeping me up Next time just knock on the freakin door huh??

Too much going on to comment on everything, but wondering what in the world happened to Lawrence....did he get suspended from the DIS or something, but was allowed to come here and say goodbye..... [/SIZE][/COLOR]

Yeah...i don't get that? He lost his avatar and sig too?? Hopefully he emails one of us.... to keep in touch!

Zack has some memory issues....forgets everything...and this teacher knows how he is. I don't know if you remember or not, but I told you guys about my last parent/teacher conference with her and she told me that Zack was "so blond....blonder than any girl" that this teacher knows! [/SIZE][/COLOR]

Mac, you asked about February birthdays....my Zack (DS13) will be 14 on February 14.....Valentine's Day....now that's really something considering that Jacob (DS10) will be 11 on May 11, which happens to be Mother's Day this year and was also Mother's Day in 1997 when he was born....DH and I have said that if I hadn't gotten my tubes tied after Jacob, we would have probably had a Millenium baby.....

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Uh, wow!!! You're probably right...a good thing ya got it all fixed so you didn't have maybe twins on the millineum....2000 ....2...twins, get it?

(i crack myself up!)

 

[bubba's mom]

Warning – very long, post/rant/pass the bad mommy award over ahead!!

So the meeting at the middle school went well. kbean continues to improve in all classes and they made some interesting observations that she may need to be assessed for ADD/ADHD. See waaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyy back when she was 4 she was in preschool and the teacher noticed she was acting out (biting/hitting, etc) They wanted her seen by the intermediate unit for a possible learning disability. I take her and lo and behold, its not a negative disability, but a positive one (sounds weird....I know). She was 4 years old and at the reading level of a 6.5 year old or second half first grade student. She was comprehending what she was reading, her writing skills were overly impressive and her ability to articulate was way beyond that of a 4 year old. We knew she could read and write very well by 4 and you could hold a conversation with her and understand everything she said and vice versa. Here she was bored. They moved her up to the K class and all of the issues stopped. She excelled and did VERY well for the rest of the year. Upon entering K she was already well ahead of the rest of the class so the issues began again but there was really no opportunity to move her up to 1st grade. All of her grades were excellent, except for behavior which was ALWAYS "needs improvement". We put her in Catholic school for grades 1-3 and she sort of stagnated and, as is the case today, homework was a bear! She was climbing the freaking walls!!!! No extra push or challenge for her there at that particular school. In 4th grade we sent her back to the public school as they had a gifted program....she tested and her scores, while extremely high, were just shy of what was "required" to get in to the program. Now, at the time we were not in the best of school districts – kids were mean and always fighting. By mid year, we pulled kbean and put her back into the Catholic school and any thoughts of her being gifted were kind of put on the wayside and with that any thoughts of ADD/ADHD issues. That is my fault, I guess. I should have pushed a bit more asked more questions, because fast forward to today (meaning mid-year/7th grade) and her issues are getting progressively worse. She is not getting grades that would be consistent with the mental abilities she has. The psychologist asked me three questions and after my answers and talking with kbean for a bit HIGHLY recommends the testing for her……could make a world of difference for her. She asked me 1) Can you ask her to do 3 things and have her complete all three? No. One Two if we are lucky and the tasks are related to each other. 2) Is she impulsive? Um – yeah, very! 3) how organized is she? Not at all. She has absolutely NO organizational skills at all, whatsoever!! No matter how many times I set her up, organize her binders, whatever. So now I need to get this assessment/testing lined up. We need to help her out, because next year and through HS are going to be even more challenging for her as the coursework increases and gets harder. KWIM??

Wowzers …..sorry about the unloading, but I had to get it out!! Thanks for reading along. Its making me feel like a failure as a parent, but the psychologist told me that you would never think there is anything “off” about kbean, because she carries herself so well (her vocabulary use/skills and conversation abilities far exceed that of a 12 year old or 7th grader). So I guess that is a good thing, right?

Anyway, that is what I have been up to – among all of the other normal day-to-day crazy crap that I go through with the other beans and kids I pick up from school and whatnot.

I really, really, really, really need a vacation!! LOL!!

First....I see no rant?
Second, Kait is smart...almost 'gifted' smart....that deserves a Good Mom award...not a 'bad' Mom award ...and besides, going to the skool and talking about this and running tests and such...that is a GOOD thing...not something a BAD Mom would do...so, enuf of this 'bad Mom' talk, ya hear? ...or else a floggin is in order for you
Third, finding out she may have the add/adhd thing is a good thing. You know the saying, "Ya can't fix it if you don't know what's broke." Knowing the problem is half the battle. Once you know what you are up against, it is a lot easier to help her. I'm glad you are talking with school and doctors instead of just 'dismissing' it as 'a bratty teenager'....you are absolutely doing the right and BEST thing you can for her. Some kids need a little extra and now that you know that about Kait, she will be able to get it. When things look their worst, try to imagine 'worse'... (I'm pathetically optimistic).... For instance....Kait is real smart...the 'worse'...she could NOT be..KWIM?? You could NOT have found out about her attention disorder.... it can always be better, sure, but then again, it could always be worse.
You guys will work thru this and Kbean will be just fine....it will take some extra time and love and energy on you and Jim's part, but together as a family, (and with doc's help), you WILL come thru it.
Don't worry about us here....we understand your need to be with your family...your family HERE gets that
Please do not ever feel like a failure...feel like it's a bump in your road. Heck, if parenting was easy, everyone would do it.....and do it well! But, sadly, there are some out there who don't..... Giving up is the 'easy' way, and we know you love Kbean (and your family) too much for that!!! You're a great Mom and if YOU need someone, we're here as Jim's backup!

 

[bubba's mom]

I think Tricia hit the snooze

 

[keishashadow]

if ur bored, the rest of gumbalimba (luv that name, rolls offa the tongue); is up in TR

have a grrrrrrrrrrreat day all

 

[bubba's mom]

if ur bored, the rest of gumbalimba (luv that name, rolls offa the tongue); is up in TR

have a grrrrrrrrrrreat day all

oh...not bored...actually took today and tomorrow OFF so i could get some things accomplished ....but, off to read.... (can't resist!)

 

[loribell]

Lori we are so proud of her you can't even believe it . We always knew that she had it in her and just needed to bloom . Well now we are almost at a garden .


So the rest of our day was OK but our DD 12 is punished I had to retrieve her cell phone from the dean of her JHS and well we are not happy with her so she will do without the phone for a month or so . I am really upset with her .

Not feeling so bad today but not yet myself so I will lay off the drinks for now but boy would a huge pina colada by the pool do me some good this week .

Off to bed tired and need to get sleep before the 5:30 AM school wake up call .

You know sometimes all they need is for someone to believe in them. Good for her.

Sorry the younger one is in trouble. I take it she didn’t just drop the phone like she said?

Feel better.

Good morning!

Mornin Fletch!

Thanks for the wake up call Fletch. Evidently here at the hotel, I set the alarm for pm instead of am. Glad I had you as my backup.

Barb, when I get back tonight, I expect to read about your last day of HH work.

Marcie - some sympathy for you and the boy's grades. Our school system has "Edline" network. This allows the teachers to post the grades and parents/students to check them. This is much better than only the 9weeks report card. This is our first full year with this. Of course, some teachers are better at keeping current than others. Well, last night, I checked to see if anything new was posted. And we checked out science. Are you ready - 56 "F". There are only about 6 assignments, but still???? I am sure the science book will now be trotted home EVERY night. I talked to him last night - he had no idea!! He hasn't brought any science home to study, etc. all year. There will be some changes in the Jaws household!!!

Marcie - just to let you know, we all have "woes" with the kids. It's called the Joy of Parenting.

Well - need to get ready for work.

Jennifer

Ooops! Glad Fletch was here as a backup for you too.

Still waitin on Barb’s story..

We have a program but the bad mom I am I have no idea what it is called or what my log in is. Of course I don’t need it so I guess it doesn’t matter. I am very lucky. I had trouble with Chris, but just because he was lazy. He made what he had to to be able to play football. I hope your ds is able to get that grade up.

We have it too.....called the power portal. BEST.INVENTION.EVER. This allows me to find any missing homework/classwork as well and drill her about it

as our Middle School has a zero tolerance policy for late assignments. You don't hand it in on time, you get a 0. Absent students have one day (from the return date of absence) to complete the assignments and turn them in - most of Kbean's homework is posted on the staff eBoards, so there is no reason to miss anything, except if she doesn't have the book home.

ahhhh......the Joys of Parenting (especially to teenagers

)

Do they have one day no matter how many days they miss or one day for every day they miss?

Morning homies ,
Just wanted to let you guys know that I won't be posting hear for awhile due to what I think is an unfair infraction for just joking around on another part of the board and if ya get attacked and can't defend yourself without getting infractions for it then its just not worth it cause they have freedom of speech and I don't but anyway you homies are great.
So I guess its later Gators and Barb, Mac and the rest I hope to be able to meet you guys at Universal and love all you homies.

Lawrence if you have not been told you can’t be on at all please come back and just stay in here where it is friendly. You know you won’t be attacked in here. Anyway, whatever you decide we wish you the best. Come back as soon as you can.

Mornin' Homies!
I found you!!! You may think I've not been around, but I have been in and out....just trying to read and "ketchup"....difficult task.....takes FOREVER!!! I guess you can say I've been in "lurk" mode....Too much going on to comment on everything, but wondering what in the world happened to Lawrence....did he get suspended from the DIS or something, but was allowed to come here and say goodbye..... I missed Marcie's post about grades, but we also have an online grade viewing system. We used to have Edline, but now we have Pinnacle. I have to agree with Jennifer and Tracie that it is a WONDERFUL tool that no parent should be without! Although I do wish that my kids work was posted like Tracie's Kbean's work is.....DS13 (soon to be 14) has one really good teacher in particular that will e-mail me when she sees a problem or when there is a VERY IMPORTANT assignment. Zack has some memory issues....forgets everything...and this teacher knows how he is. I don't know if you remember or not, but I told you guys about my last parent/teacher conference with her and she told me that Zack was "so blond....blonder than any girl" that this teacher knows!

Mac, you asked about February birthdays....my Zack (DS13) will be 14 on February 14.....Valentine's Day....now that's really something considering that Jacob (DS10) will be 11 on May 11, which happens to be Mother's Day this year and was also Mother's Day in 1997 when he was born....DH and I have said that if I hadn't gotten my tubes tied after Jacob, we would have probably had a Millenium baby.....

Well, I'm running late for work.... so I better get off here!!!! C-ya's later!

So Zack is a blonde huh? I really hope you knew and liked that teacher. If that had come from someone I didn’t know well it would not have been pretty.

A millennium baby would have been good! Or millennium twins as Barb said.

hi allison

tracie - imo u sound like you're on top of things when you described the 3 questions from the psychologist i couldn't help but think that it sounded exactly like ALL of my DSs @ that age.

They had a difficult time transitioning from parochial school to public; so far ahead they figured they could coast & still get A's...only worked for a year & the whole new-found "freedom" didn't help any. IMO, some kids work best under a highly regimented structure.

wonder if your DD is just not being challenged enough to hold her interest in the 1st place. regardless, the testing should give you an idea of what course of action will best help her to succeed...don't give up - good luck

soon off to the dentist to finally get broken filling replaced - wonder if he misses me...has been nearly 2 months since we last met

I agree Janet. Most likely she is just not being challenged at school. Those statements fit a lot of kids. The schools just like to medicate the kids so they don’t have to do anything extra for them. Don’t get me started. It really isn’t good that I have a child that is a teacher.

Good luck at the dentist. I hope you don’t have to visit him again except for cleanings.

Lori....I don't know about 'sharing' the Mean Mom Award, but since Mary is also a 'mm', I've started a club. So, our member count is 3.....so far
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I’m in a club now! Yippee!



Well yesterday my baby got her hair all cut off. She has never wanted it cut but recently she decided she wanted it shoulder length. She was excited because it was long enough and she was able to donate it to Locks of Love. It really is cute and now she can actually brush it herself!!!!!! So what does she do with it this morning? She put it up in a stinkin ponytail!

 

[loribell]

Morning all!!!

Warning – very long, post/rant/pass the bad mommy award over ahead!!
ketchup at this point is not going to happen

- I am so far behind, so forgive me ??? Thanks!!!

I do know that I need to tell janet that I am so very, very sorry about your losses - hugs and prayers for you and yours.

so the meeting at the middle school went well. kbean continues to improve in all classes and they made some interesting observations that she may need to be assessed for ADD/ADHD. See waaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyy back when she was 4 she was in preschool and the teacher noticed she was acting out (biting/hitting, etc) They wanted her seen by the intermediate unit for a possible learning disability. I take her and lo and behold, its not a negative disability, but a positive one (sounds weird....I know). She was 4 years old and at the reading level of a 6.5 year old or second half first grade student. She was comprehending what she was reading, her writing skills were overly impressive and her ability to articulate was way beyond that of a 4 year old. We knew she could read and write very well by 4 and you could hold a conversation with her and understand everything she said and vice versa. Here she was bored. They moved her up to the K class and all of the issues stopped. She excelled and did VERY well for the rest of the year. Upon entering K she was already well ahead of the rest of the class so the issues began again but there was really no opportunity to move her up to 1st grade. All of her grades were excellent, except for behavior which was ALWAYS "needs improvement". We put her in Catholic school for grades 1-3 and she sort of stagnated and, as is the case today, homework was a bear! She was climbing the freaking walls!!!! No extra push or challenge for her there at that particular school. In 4th grade we sent her back to the public school as they had a gifted program....she tested and her scores, while extremely high, were just shy of what was "required" to get in to the program. Now, at the time we were not in the best of school districts – kids were mean and always fighting. By mid year, we pulled kbean and put her back into the Catholic school and any thoughts of her being gifted were kind of put on the wayside and with that any thoughts of ADD/ADHD issues. That is my fault, I guess. I should have pushed a bit more asked more questions, because fast forward to today (meaning mid-year/7th grade) and her issues are getting progressively worse. She is not getting grades that would be consistent with the mental abilities she has. The psychologist asked me three questions and after my answers and talking with kbean for a bit HIGHLY recommends the testing for her……could make a world of difference for her. She asked me 1) Can you ask her to do 3 things and have her complete all three? No. One Two if we are lucky and the tasks are related to each other. 2) Is she impulsive? Um – yeah, very! 3) how organized is she? Not at all. She has absolutely NO organizational skills at all, whatsoever!! No matter how many times I set her up, organize her binders, whatever. So now I need to get this assessment/testing lined up. We need to help her out, because next year and through HS are going to be even more challenging for her as the coursework increases and gets harder. KWIM??

Wowzers …..sorry about the unloading, but I had to get it out!! Thanks for reading along. Its making me feel like a failure as a parent, but the psychologist told me that you would never think there is anything “off” about kbean, because she carries herself so well (her vocabulary use/skills and conversation abilities far exceed that of a 12 year old or 7th grader). So I guess that is a good thing, right?

Anyway, that is what I have been up to – among all of the other normal day-to-day crazy crap that I go through with the other beans and kids I pick up from school and whatnot.

I really, really, really, really need a vacation!! LOL!!

Tracie - Barb is right. You are a excellent mother. Do not blame yourself. But also don’t just let them put your child on medication. In many, many cases ADD/ADHD can be completely corrected with a change in eating behaviors. Her nutrition is very important. Even my daughter that teaches will tell you that. One very important thing is to control the sugar in her diet.

We have a friend that has a son Mikey’s age. These are very close friends of the family. The boys used to do a lot of things together but Cory started having terrible behavior problems. It got to the point that Mikey wouldn’t have anything to do with him. In 6th grade they kicked him out of the regular school setting and he had to finish the school year in our alternative school. He wouldn’t do is school work either. He could have answered yes to all of those questions. Heck, I could answer yes to those questions for all of my kids. (I could even say it about me). Cory was of course diagnosed with ADHD. They put him on Ritalin. He was fine when taking it most of the time. His mother did not like him being on it so she researched it more and found out that he had nutritional issues. Once these were addressed he was a different kid. Sugar was the absolute worst thing for him. I know it is hard to take sugar away from a kid but if it is regulated that is a whole lot better than Ritalin that is basically just going to medicate her to the point she doesn’t feel like doing anything.

Here are the side effects:

Nervousness and insomnia are the most common adverse reactions but are usually controlled by reducing dosage and omitting the drug in the afternoon or evening. Other reactions include hypersensitivity (including skin rash, urticaria, fever, arthralgia, exfoliative dermatitis, erythema multiforme with histopathological findings of necrotizing vasculitis, and thrombocytopenic purpura); anorexia; nausea; dizziness; palpitations; headache; dyskinesia; drowsiness; blood pressure and pulse changes, both up and down; tachycardia; angina; cardiac arrhythmia; abdominal pain; weight loss during prolonged therapy. There have been rare reports of Tourette's syndrome. Toxic psychosis has been reported. Although a definite causal relationship has not been established, the following have been reported in patients taking this drug: instances of abnormal liver function, ranging from transaminase elevation to hepatic coma; isolated cases of cerebral arteritis and/or occlusion; leukopenia and/or anemia; transient depressed mood; aggressive behavior; a few instances of scalp hair loss. Very rare reports of neuroleptic malignant syndrome (NMS) have been received, and, in most of these, patients were concurrently receiving therapies associated with NMS. In a single report, a ten-year-old boy who had been taking methylphenidate for approximately 18 months experienced an NMS-like event within 45 minutes of ingesting his first dose of venlafaxine. It is uncertain whether this case represented a drug-drug interaction, a response to either drug alone, or some other cause.

I'm sorry but I have seen to many kids put on that medication simply because the schools did not want to deal with the kids. Things may be different where you are but please try everything you can before you put her on medication.

I am by no means a perfect mother but I would never put one of my kids on that stuff.

I hope I didn't offend anyone. I just love you all and feel like you are family. Your kids are all very special to me. I would say the same things to anyone in my family.

Sorry, I will jump off my soapbox now.


ETA: I am here for you to any time you need to vent.

 

[bubba's mom]

Well yesterday my baby got her hair all cut off. She has never wanted it cut but recently she decided she wanted it shoulder length. She was excited because it was long enough and she was able to donate it to Locks of Love. It really is cute and now she can actually brush it herself!!!!!! So what does she do with it this morning? She put it up in a stinkin ponytail!

Well...sure she put it up into a pony....WHY WOULDN'T she??? But, tell her she is a wonderful person to donate like she did...I admire her.

(I'm selfish and will keep all my hair...thank you very much! )