If we attempt to go this route, will we be expected to attend one of those timeshare presentations? (There is NO way my DH would agree to that on his vacation time.)
If you reserve through a hotel's reservation site, no you won't have to attend a presentation.
If you rent from an owner, no you won't have to attend a presentation.
I believe that even the offer that's at the top of the Orlando Hotels and Attractions page for Vistana through
Dreams Unlimited doesn't require attendance at a presentation.
However, in both of these cases, after you check in you'll probably be directed to a ticket desk or to a 'concierge' desk if you want to buy
attraction tickets. This can be a rather thin disguise to get you to agree to attend a presentation by giving you a ticket offer at a discounted rate or even free. I think that the best bet is to just tell them that you already have your theme park tickets and everything else you need for your vacation and thank them anyway. Depending upon the resort, you may also receive calls from the resort's sales department. (We don't answer the phone in the villa unless we've initiated a call because of a problem with the villa. In fact we usually just unplug the phones when we arrive.)
The only time that you have to attend a presentation is if you agree to one of the low-cost offers that the resort make for three or four day stays which are specifically designed to include a presentation/tour.
I agree wholeheartedly with your husband. This is your vacation. Agreeing to a timeshare presentation would be like willingly spending half a day with a high-pressure car salesperson at a car dealership instead of enjoying yourself at a spa. Our first, and last, timeshare presentation was in Orlando in 1997 - never again.
Dick Taylor