Some advice please? UPDATE post 23! i did it!

[LittleRydia]

Ive been wondering around the dis and post here and there. some might know me and some might not. but I seen how friendly everyone is here and wonder if anyone can help me with my problem


just to start off, ill be 21 in july. ive been working at winn dixie almost a month now. I work in the deli and really love it there. Now theres a guy, he does stock almost everynight. Im there till 9 so i always see him. ive kind of got a crush on this guy. he is always walking past the deli (even though he does stock at the other end of the store) he walks past and goes in the double doors next to the deli even though there are doors on the other end of the store. well ive caught him at times looking at me.. or ill be watching him and he looks and i know im blushing. we have never spoken.. but always catch each others eyes. my friend i work with told me his singel etc.

my problem is i cant even get the nerve up to hi to this guy. im just scared to death hes going to think im weird or something. im wanting to walk up to him and talk to him but everytime i go to i just walk past him and smile.

i hate for this to go on forever just seeing each other and not talking could someone please give me some advice on how to catch his attention and start a conversation. *note im a very shy person*

 

[ktpool]

This will be very hard....but when he walks by next time, say "Hey, what's up?", raising your voice at the end. It will be natural for him to say something in return...and then offer him food, haha!! I swear, it sounds goofy, but it is the best way to start a conversation!

 

[MouseWorshipin]

Hmmm...do you know anyone who knows him? Maybe you all could get together on his off-night.

I think you should do what ktpool recommended. Or at least say "hello." Something! Practice with us now. "Hey, what's up?" Say it over and over. It isn't like you're saying, "Hey, ask me out! I think you're cute!" or "Hey, Marry me!"

Guys are sooo dumb. Sometimes they have to be hit over the head before they know you like them. So, a "What's up," is no big deal.

 

[beckmrk04]

I second the previous advice.

Of course I'm totally forward and obnoxious, so I'm not giving out advice. Do what they said!!

I would say something like, "SO... You never say hi... How come?" And smile really big. Ok, maybe I am giving out advice. Bad me.

 

[chell]

A former SUPER shy girl speaking up here - say hello or whatever pops out of your mouth. You have nothing to loose by telling him hi. You will be SO proud of yourself afterwards too.

 

[sajetto]

Of course I'm totally forward and obnoxious, so I'm not giving out advice. Do what they said!!

I would say something like, "SO... You never say hi... How come?" And smile really big.

Thats me to a Tee. I've always been really forward. I remember in high school if I new a guy liked me I'd say "what's your problem? when the heck are you gonna ask me out!?!" I guess I wasn't what you call a gal with any meek qualities.

When I met my DF in less than 10 minutes after meeting him I said "God, you're cute and you've got one nice hiney!" I wasn't drunk either I always found that it was best for me to say exactly what I was thinking when it came to men b/c they always responded better

 

[azgal81]

Just say hi it's really not hard and completely natural. You two work at the same place it's not like saying hi would be out of the ordinary. Maybe you can try a stupid pick up line on him or something. Who knows he might have a crush on you too and if you don't say anything nothing will happen!

 

[LittleRydia]

thanks everyone i kept telling myself tonight i was going to say "hi" when i saw him but im a coward!

so ok maybe saturday.. hope hes working saturday. ive been thinking of talking to one of the girls or other guys on the night shift and ask about him. maybe they will then tell him i was asking about him and stuff.

its one of those things you get the hint he likes you two but seems he could be shy also. thats what sharon i work with told me anyways.

normally i speak my mind to people i dont know but dont think i could tell a stranger they have a nice hinney!

 

[LittleRydia]

Just say hi it's really not hard and completely natural. You two work at the same place it's not like saying hi would be out of the ordinary. Maybe you can try a stupid pick up line on him or something. Who knows he might have a crush on you too and if you don't say anything nothing will happen!

actully ive been thinking of walking up to him and saying something like "hi im mary, dont think ive met you yet?" but after thinking it over and we have met just never spoken

 

[Nancy]

You both work at the same place it would be natural to say hi. If you don't want to speak just give a wave and/or a nod as he goes by looking at you. That way you acknowledge that you see him..and the fact that he is looking at you. THAT might be the encouragement he needs to come and talk to you.

 

[Marseeya]

Maybe you could set it up so that one of your coworkers could introduce you. Like, when he walks by have one of the other workers say, "Hey Joe, have you ever met LittleRydia?" Then take it from there.

 

[LittleRydia]

Maybe you could set it up so that one of your coworkers could introduce you. Like, when he walks by have one of the other workers say, "Hey Joe, have you ever met LittleRydia?" Then take it from there.

hmm that sounds like a good idea i think next time he comes up to the deli ill have sharon introduce me. thanks

 

[dolphinrescuegirl]

Keep us updated on how it goes and good luck!

 

[MouseWorshipin]

Keep us updated on how it goes and good luck!

Ditto! I'm really eager to hear it, too!

 

[grlpwrd]

Hmmm, I'm not so sure I would encourage you to be so forward in a workplace.

I really like ktpool's advice with the "hey, what's up?" It's very casual, but still professional.

GL!

 

[jcsbama]

Next time he is near your work area, break the ice with one of these lines:

Option A: Next time he starts to walk through the doors next to the deli, ask him why he uses those doors and not the ones on the other side of the store. Also throw in that you're not complaining he's using those doors, you were just wondering.

Option B: Next time he walks by and looks at you or you catch him looking at you, just say "how many times are you going to walk by and not speak?"

Option C: Come up with some reasonable number. When he walks by say "Hey - - - - (whatever his name his), that's the _nth time by the way. He'll probably say something like _nth time for what and you reply the _nth time you have walked by and not even said hey to me. If nothing else, it will probably get him to saying hey to you, which may lead to....dare I say it, talking. OMG!

Even though you're shy, when you like somebody, sometimes the flirtiness comes out before you even realize it.

 

[Stacey2grls]

You remind me a little of myself. When I was younger I was very shy. I didn't date until I was almost 19, I was just so shy. Now looking back, I realize what a waste of time that was. There were many opportunities that I missed, because I was shy. After I turned 20, I said "that's enough" and I forced myself to be more foward, and you know what? It worked! After a while it was second nature for me to strike up a conversation with a guy, I was nervous at first, ofcourse, but once you try, and you realize all that stressing out was for nothing, you'll understand what I'm talking about. It seems like you have the first step covered, he obviously likes you, or he wouldn't be looking at you all the time, and walking through your area. He may be shy too, so you need to get the ball rolling. I see that you have been given some great advice so far. I would just give him a nice big smile, and say hi. Good luck to you, and let us know what happens.

 

[budbeerlady]

If all else fails and you cannot get the nerve up to just say hello, ask him to help you with something. There has gotta be something heavy, large, or up high in your department!

Or just smile at him. I've been known to say in the presence of a loud mouth co-worker (in my single days) that some guy is hot. Word eventually gets back to them.

 

[ilovepcot]

I was always a "schemer" where guys were concerned when growing up. If I wanted to meet a guy bad enough, I'd "script" a way to do it. Here's a thought: Next time he walks by, why not say, "Hey, here's your chance to be my hero. I've been waiting over an hour for a man to come by and save the day for me." Then, hand him a jar of something (anything) that the lid has been *deliberately* put on too tight and ask him to open it for you. This gives him a way to show off a bit for you and make him feel good. Also gives opportunity for him to make a move if he's interested. If it's obvious he's not, no harm done. Appears you were merely a co-worker who couldn't get a lid open.

If you just can't bring yourself to do this, as others have suggested.... wave and smile. That's really all the encouragement an "interested" man needs.

 

[LittleRydia]

omg you wont belive what happened i made such a fool of myself

well today i was off work and we went to get some food etc at the store. i know he works after 5, so i had it planed to go there while he is working. but i was not sure if he worked tonight or not..

so i went walking around the store. saying "this is it, im going to speak to him and try to make a conversation." well half way through the store and no sign of him. so i head back the other way and walk past the back doors.. im in a hurry BTW and looking down isles.

you guessed it.. i walked right into him and almost knocked us both over i know my face had to be red as fire. he looked at me and laughed and asked why i was in a hurry. was i looking for something? im standing here now scared to death and embarrased and i manage to get out a tiny "hey im just walking around" so i wave and kind of run off

he must of thought i was nuts or something. i couldnt even look back i was so embarrassed