So, when is enough, enough-high risk pregnancy?

[golfgal]

I just got an email from someone from our old town (through a mass email for an old church group). He was announcing that they are expecting child #8. He is also asking for help because she is on bed rest, AGAIN. The only child she has not been on bed rest is their first. I just can't imagine risking my life, and the life of an unborn child, leaving my 7 other children motherless. Would you do this if this were you?

 

[hereyago]

I just got an email from someone from our old town (through a mass email for an old church group). He was announcing that they are expecting child #8. He is also asking for help because she is on bed rest, AGAIN. The only child she has not been on bed rest is their first. I just can't imagine risking my life, and the life of an unborn child, leaving my 7 other children motherless. Would you do this if this were you?

That wouldn't ever be me. I have never liked anyone that much to go through that 8 times. Is there a neuter clinic the man could go to

I understand certain religions do the no BC thing, leaving it to their higher power. however, i really don't think their higher power would be like" keep doing it and being bedridden in my name."

can't imagine being bed ridden with 7 pregnancies.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I just got an email from someone from our old town (through a mass email for an old church group). He was announcing that they are expecting child #8. He is also asking for help because she is on bed rest, AGAIN. The only child she has not been on bed rest is their first. I just can't imagine risking my life, and the life of an unborn child, leaving my 7 other children motherless. Would you do this if this were you?

No. But then again, I think our world is overcrowded and 8 is too much.

 

[DisneyNutMary]

Personally, no... after one high risk pregnancy, I would take steps to avoid future pregnancy, but that is as far as I'd go. If my attempts fail, I would just follow doctors orders and do everything in my power to make the pregnancy a healthy one.
I am going to guess that this couple, for religious reasons or whatever, choose not to take steps to prevent pregnancy. All you can do is pray for a healthy pregnancy for mother and baby, and if you are able, to help in whatever way you can.

 

[robinb]

Nope. Then again, I wouldn't have 8 kids to begin with.

 

[DisneyNutMary]

That wouldn't ever be me. I have never liked anyone that much to go through that 8 times. Is there a neuter clinic the man could go to

I'm glad you went there first, I was going to suggest the old snip-snip, but I was afraid to offend or start a debate.

 

[momx2]

8 times no, but yes, I have done it. I was on bedrest due to premature labor and an incompetent cervix with my first child. I also developed HELLP and she was born 3 weeks early, very healthy.

I desperately wanted another child even though I went through what I did. I hoped for the best, but knew it was probably going to repeat itself and it did. This time I went on bedrest at 15 weeks and had a cerclage put in place and was on bedrest until she was born 4 weeks early.

I can't say it was the wisest decision I ever made, but I'm sure glad I made it.

 

[hereyago]

I'm glad you went there first, I was going to suggest the old snip-snip, but I was afraid to offend or start a debate.

I am not politically correct and I like it that way.

And you know what? I wouldnt be helping out every time. You want to do the hibbity dibbity and have those kids, don't do the crime if you can't do the time.

 

[DeluxePrincess]

I would never want 8 children, bed rest or not. It may sound awful, but I would be a lost less sympathetic to their situation by the time #8 showed up.

 

[lillygator]

8?? wow.....

 

[RachelEllen]

It's also hard to know if she is having problems that just give her a risk of early delivery or seriously put her health at risk. I work with premature babies, so, don't get me wrong, it makes me very sad to see people at a risk of delivering prematurly. But, I think its a very different issue if she is also putting her life at significant risk given those other seven children.

 

[rie'smom]

While I would never want 8 children, it's their choice so I'm not judging. My husband was one of 10 kids who have all grown up tp be loving, happy, and productive people.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

This is getting old.

 

[LuvOrlando]

A good friend of mine had 5 kids in 7 years and only the first child was by choice with each pregnancy risking her life & her babies to a greater degree. By the time she was ready to leave I was genuinely frightened her depression was going to be a danger to her kids so I was there at her beck & call to help however I could whenever I could during her last 3 pregnncies. No-one knew what was going on but eventually she opened up, I was the first person who ever validated that she had a right to say no. It was bad but she left. Now she is much happier divorced, with someone else and back in school as of Monday.

 

[Minnie]

How irresponsible

 

[bumbershoot]

My only problem with it is that they are asking for help. When they could probably have anticipated that this would happen again.

 

[bdcp]

Bed rest doesn't mean high risk for mom, it normally means that they're trying to prevent premature labor. Where'd you get that she's risking her life? If there is truly a choice, then this is her choice. It works both ways, boys and girls. I know several families with 5 and 6 and even 7 kids and none of them "risked" their lives having that many pregnancies. You can risk your life having one or two kids. What exactly is irresponsible about it if they can take care of them? I'll ask again, where does it say anywhere that she is risking her life?

Families/single moms with one child ask for help all the time, so what's really the issue? I would be willing to bet they're asking for help that most people would give anyone in need, transportation for children to school and activities and maybe some meals because she's on bedrest, not because they're broke.

 

[RachaelA]

My only problem with it is that they are asking for help. When they could probably have anticipated that this would happen again.

This. If you can't afford to deal with this then you shouldn't be having another child especially when its pretty much expected that this will happen. I could understand if this was kid #1 or #2, but not with #8.

 

[Hannathy]

How irresponsible

I agree.

And I wouldn't be rushing to help, heck I wouldn't be crawling to help. If they keep planning on having these babies they can start planning on paying for the help they need.

The only help I would give would be to babysit when either one of them gets "fixed"

 

[LaurenLC]

Is it that she already has so many children, or that she has been on bed rest before that concerns you? I was on bed rest for 4 months with my (only) daughter. We would like to have another child in a few years... Does that make us bad parents?