So what's the story with the preacher's wife?

goofy's friends said:
I am curious as well. :teeth:

I'll try looking for a transcript tomorrow. I'm zapped note the time. 12:10am.

http://transcripts.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/0603/30/lkl.01.html
KING: Welcome back.

Today in Selmer, Tennessee, 32-year-old minister's wife Mary Winkler waived her right to a preliminary hearing in the death of her husband Matthew. She is charged with first degree murder and was held without bond.

Matthew Winkler was found shot to death in their home last week. Mrs. Winkler, along with the couple's three young daughters, were later found in Alabama. They were found the following evening.

Joining us in Nashville is Eddie Thompson, a long time friend of the Winkler family, helped conduct Matthew Winkler's funeral service on Tuesday.

In Selmer is John Foote, also a friend of both Matthew and Mary, often did things together he and his wife and them as couples.

In Memphis is Leslie Ballin, the attorney for Mary Winkler.

In Selmer is George Brown, the reporter for CNN affiliate WMC-TV Channel 5 covering the story.

And, in New York, Dr. Robi Ludwig, the psychotherapist and author of a terrific new book "Till Death do us Part, Love, Marriage, and the Mind of a Killer Spouse."

Eddie, what was it like at that funeral?

EDDIE THOMPSON: Well it was a tragic event and it was on our hearts as we gathered together. I would suggest though that the funeral was uplifting. It was positive in nature. We had a chance to remember Matthew and all that he had done for all of us and, at the same time, console each other.

KING: And you know Mary very well too don't you?

THOMPSON: Yes, sir. I knew Matthew better but I knew Mary of course.

KING: What do you make of it Eddie?

THOMPSON: Larry, I don't know I guess the word I would use I'm puzzled. To me it's bizarre. It's a real shame. It's a true tragedy.

KING: John Foote, your friends of Matthew and Mary, right, you and your wife?

JOHN FOOTE, GOOD FRIEND OF MURDERED MINISTER AND ACCUSED WIFE: That's correct, Larry.

KING: Did you go to the funeral?

FOOTE: Yes, I did my wife and children and I.

KING: Would you agree with Eddie that it was -- would you agree with Eddie that it was uplifting in a way?

FOOTE: Absolutely. I mean I agree that it is a tragedy but the funeral was uplifting. It was a celebration of Matthew's life and what he had done in the ministry and what he had done for everybody whose lives that he's touched.

KING: All right, you know them both, socialized with them, what do you make of it?

FOOTE: Stunned, no idea that there was anything going on. We had spent a week before this happened we had been to dinner with them. The Sunday night before this happened we had been to a youth devotion with them. Monday evening I spent some time with Mary at the church while our children were going through a puppet practice where they did skits, getting ready for a youth convention. In just that last week the amount of time that we spent there was nothing -- I cannot tell you anything that I or anyone else that I know witnessed that would have told us that something like this could happen.

KING: Leslie Ballin, the attorney for Mary Winkler, the state has charged her. She's waived the right to a hearing and the state says it knows the motive but won't announce it why?

LESLIE BALLIN, ATTORNEY FOR MARY WINKLER: I'm waiting to hear. Today it was our decision to waive the preliminary hearing. From the defense's standpoint that was the proper thing to do.

After we waived the hearing, the state did give us a copy of her statement to the Tennessee authorities and I'm still looking for that answer even after reading that statement, motive I'm waiting to hear.

KING: Do you as the defense attorney have to be told?

BALLIN: Tennessee rules of discovery are what they are. We are entitled to our client's statement. We are entitled to expert reports and opinions. We're entitled to witness statements but we get those witness statements only after they testify.

So, as a defense lawyer, you ask for a short recess, depending on the length of the statement that the prosecution hands over to you and you prepare for cross-examination. That's pretty much the extent of the discovery rules in our state.

KING: George Brown have there been any leaks from the prosecution as to what might be the motive?

GEORGE BROWN, WMC-TV REPORTER: No leaks. In fact, a lot of people here in Selmer packed the courtroom today because they were hoping that if there was a hearing today that they were going to get some of the information perhaps from the prosecution but that did not happen today since that hearing was waived.

No leaks at all. I mean and, Larry, we talked about this the other night. People here do not want to speculate. They don't want to talk about what may have happened, what could have happened because really the main concern of most people is the children.

They don't want anything to get out there that definitely isn't true that the children then hear later and it just makes the situation worse for them. I can tell you the support here is still very strong.

That courtroom today was full of people, especially from her church, even heard one woman saying "Mary, we're praying for you." The definitely still support her in this town but no leaks as of yet from the prosecution.

KING: All right, Dr. Ludwig, he was very popular yet the support for her seems overwhelming.

DR. ROBI LUDWIG, PSY.D.: Yes. KING: What do you make of that?

LUDWIG: Well, I mean it sounds like they knew a side of her that they feel sorry for her, so I wonder what they know about her. I mean this is a woman I believe she lost her mother recently. She could be grieving and be in bereavement overload. I would want to rule out if there's any postpartum depression.

It sounds like they really feel that this is not an evil woman that whatever happened was a result of her being sick in some way. And I actually admire that they want to protect the children by not gossiping, if you will. I think that's a good move for the community.

KING: So you like the idea that there's very little speculation despite all the wondering?

LUDWIG: Well, I'm sure that they're doing it behind closed doors. How can you not? It's this huge mystery. You have this very charismatic preacher, this couple. This family seemed to have it all. How could you not question, gee what went wrong? Clearly something went wrong if she took a gun and shot him to death.

But I respect that they're trying to be, you know, proper and dignified about it and now they're thinking about the people who are alive and trying to move forward thinking about them which is wise and smart.

KING: We'll take a break and be right back with more. We'll also be including your phone calls. Don't go away.

(BEGIN VIDEO CLIP)

RUSTY DORNIN, CNN CORRESPONDENT (voice-over): Immediately following Mary's arrest, Matthew's parents went to pick up the children in Alabama. They asked to meet the woman they still consider a daughter despite being told by police that she confessed to killing their son.

BILLY R. SMITH, FAMILY FRIEND: They hugged her. She hugged them. She was so remorseful, so sorrowful of what she had done and they assured her that she was forgiven.

DORNIN: An incredible act of forgiveness from a family of three generations of ministers.

(END VIDEO CLIP)

(COMMERCIAL BREAK)

KING: We're back on "LARRY KING LIVE," with our guests. Added now in this segment in Nashville, Tennessee, is Dr. Bruce Levy, the Tennessee state medical examiner. He did not do the autopsy himself, but he has reviewed the report. What are the general findings, Dr. Levy?

DR. BRUCE LEVY, MEDICAL EXAMINER, TENNESSEE: Well Mr. Winkler died as a result of a single shotgun wound to his back.

KING: Simple as that.

LEVY: It is as simple as that.

KING: Damage to internal organs? What, did he bleed to death in essence?

LEVY: That's basically what happens. A shotgun is full of many small metallic pellets. When they strike the body, it's like a billiard ball effect. They go in every direction and they strike pretty much all the internal organs and cause lots and lots of bleeding, both internally and externally.

KING: Would you say death was immediate?

LEVY: No. What you're dealing with is a period of time where the person actually needs to bleed to death and while we never know in any one person how long that's going to be, we do know it takes a certain finite amount time.

KING: Do you know the distance from which the shot was fired?

LEVY: Well, we can speculate about that. We know based on the appearance of the wound that we're dealing with a general range of somewhere from a couple to a few feet, but the only way to really know for sure is to test fire the weapon and match the pattern with the actual injury that we see.

KING: Do we know if he was standing or sitting?

LEVY: We don't and there's really no way to know from a gunshot wound what position the person was in at the time that they were shot. Every once in a rare while there may be evidence that will help you put a piece of that puzzle together, but in this case, like most of the cases, there's just no way to know.

KING: Any sign of a struggle?

LEVY: There were just no other findings at the autopsy.

KING: A toxicology report is pending?

LEVY: That's right. We do a routine toxicology screen on all of the cases that come through our office and we do not have those results yet.

KING: Thanks very much. Dr. Bruce Levy, the Tennessee state medical examiner, getting up to date on that aspect.

Eddie Thompson, did you ever see any signs of outward friction?

THOMPSON: None whatsoever. They seemed to be a very happy couple. Their children were well balanced. They're precious children. That's a real tragedy in this. There were no sign, at least that we could see. KING: John, did you ever see a sign?

FOOTE: Absolutely not. Nothing.

KING: Never saw them yell at each other, argumentative, no physical?

FOOTE: No, nothing. I mean, Matthew and Mary were both -- we saw a loving couple. That's what we saw. a man who loved his wife and a wife who loved her husband.

KING: Leslie Ballin, what has your client, I know there's privilege here, but can you tell us anything she's told you?

BALLIN: I can't tell you anything that she's told me. I can tell you they like my client. I can tell you that that is so unusual for me. I'm usually representing people who are -- can generally be described as undesirable.

I like Mary Carol and I think that her personality and I don't mean this in a bad way, she's just so plain and simple and huggable and nice and gentle and -- I think all that figures into why we are seeing in this community the unusual response, the almost willingness to still coddle Mary Carol even though she's facing she's most serious of charges.

KING: This has to be then mind boggling to you.

BALLIN: It's different. It's absolutely different. We're going work hard like we will in any case that we take on but this case has some dynamics to it that are just plain different.

KING: Are you thinking at all of an insanity defense?

BALLIN: We are thinking along the lines of investigating all defenses with the idea and view that we are going to present the defense that's based on fact and truth.

Whether or not that turns out to be a defense of insanity, diminished capacity, we're investigating that. We are expecting a forensic evaluation, a psychological evaluation to be done very, very soon. I don't have the expertise to tell you what was going on in Mary Carol's mind. We're looking for that. We're looking to the experts to help us answer those questions.

KING: Did she hire you directly, Leslie?

BALLIN: No, she hired my co-counsel Steve Farese and the way that happened is she has a cousin, a lawyer here in Memphis and that lawyer called my good friend Steve Farese and that, I think, occurred on Thursday.

Steve saw Mary Carol Saturday, he saw her Sunday. Monday morning on my way to the office, I was supposed to go to trial on another murder case here in Memphis and on my way to the office I got a call from Steve who asked me what I was doing and I told him I was planning to go into trial, however that something had just come up that looked like the case was going to be continued.

He asked me if I wanted to go to Selmer and I knew what that meant and I asked him the question and he said, do you want to do it with me pro bono? And Steve's the kind of friend who when he asks me to do something, I didn't hesitate.

KING: Steve was on this program the other night. George Brown, have any tips come in to you as a reporter outside of the prosecution? Have people called you saying I know something?

BROWN: You know, the basic thing we've heard from people is not necessarily that they know anything about this case or what led up to it -- but one woman was talking to me and she said, "You know, people don't realize that when you are the head of a church or you're the wife of someone who is the head of the church, the pressures that go along with that, you almost have to be the perfect family, have the perfect children, have the perfect life."

That being said, I spoke with another friend of this that spoke with her in the jail cell and said the woman she spoke with the other day is not the same person that she knew two weeks ago, has a different demeanor to her, had a different way of speaking.

But she said at the same time that Ms. Winkler actually asked for a picture of herself and her husband and then asked if this woman had the Christmas card that had been sent out that had her children's pictures on it. And she said it was sort of strange to her because it was a different person, yet there still were those emotions that she recognized from before.

KING: Dr. Ludwig, what do you read into that?

LUDWIG: I think that this woman is depressed and probably has been depressed for a very long time and felt a lot of shame about it. It's very hard when you are the preacher's wife, who do you turn to?

You know, if you have to be the pillar of the community and people are looking to you to be a role model, then who is your preacher? And is there this pressure to say, "Well, you know, I have God, which is great."

But you know, people need other people. So when I hear about this case, my sense is that she was like a tornado or a volcano that just erupted and probably was very unaware of her own emotional state and the danger zone that she was moving into. I don't think she was aware of it and therefore probably wasn't able to get help for herself.

KING: We'll take a break and come back and we'll throw some questions at Mary Fulginiti, the former federal prosecutor, now practicing attorney here in Los Angeles. Don't go away.

(COMMERCIAL BREAK)

KING: Eddie Thompson, who was in Nashville has left us. President Clinton will be one of our guests tomorrow night. We now welcome Mary Fulginiti, the former federal prosecutor who was well acquainted, by the way, with the defense attorneys in this case, right?

MARY FULGINITI, FORMER FEDERAL PROSECUTOR: Yes, I know them both very well.

KING: Leslie Ballin and Steve.

FULGINITI: Steve Farese, they are what I call the dynamic duo of the South.

KING: Is she well represented?

FULGINITI: She is definitely well represented. Those two, if I were the prosecutor, all I could say is stay on your toes.

KING: The defense decision to waive preliminary?

FULGINITI: Yes, I had a conversation with Leslie earlier today about that, wondering what he was thinking and why they were waiving prelim at this point and why you guys were also asking that she remain in jail without bond? Those are two very atypical requests and tactics by defense counsel.

KING: And what do you think they are, the tactics?

FULGINITI: They're strategy. They do say that it is in the best interest of the family, which I'm sure they are, but if I know those two, there's a lot more things going in their minds.

KING: You were a prosecutor, the prosecutor says it knows the motive but won't reveal it.

FULGINITI: Right.

KING: Have you had cases like that?

FULGINITI: Oh sure.

KING: Why won't you reveal it?

FULGINITI: Well they have not had her formally charged yet, and there's going to be a grand jury that will be empaneled and they don't want to taint that grand jury in any way. And this is a case that's already gotten national attention and whatever the motive may be, they also might be taking into account, obviously, the family. There are three small children here.

KING: Can someone plead guilty and the motive is never disclosed?

FULGINITI: No, that's absolutely right. Sometimes you don't even know the motive, unfortunately.

As a prosecutor you want to know the motive because you want to be able to tell the complete story, because it's more persuasive to a jury to be able to fill in all the pieces of the puzzle. But there are times when you just don't know it.

KING: Doesn't this appear like a mental health case?

FULGINITI: Well I can't really speculate because I think both sides have played it very close to the vest, but it definitely -- they're going to be challenging.

KING: Well we have no idea, CNN has no idea, but I'll throw it out.

FULGINITI: I think Leslie, if I had to guess is definitely going to be focusing on not only her state of mind at the time the act was committed if in fact she committed the act, but her present state of mind. Is she competent to actually sit through proceedings at the moment?

KING: Do we know there was a confession?

FULGINITI: What we do know is there is and what I have here is an affidavit of complaint and included in that affidavit, they state that she did confess to not only planning the killing, but actually shooting her husband and then fleeing thereafter.

KING: So it wasn't impromptu.

FULGINITI: Based on this, there was a statement made by her and if that is the case, a confession is obviously an extraordinarily strong piece of evidence for a prosecutor in that case.

KING: Doesn't this appear from a prosecution's standpoint open and shut?

FULGINITI: Well, you know, you'd like to say it is and in many cases and in most, it probably would be. But with Mr. Ballin and Mr. Farese, nothing will ever be open and shut and it really depends on the confession. You know, is it admissible? How reliable is it? Was it was tape recorded? Was it hand written by the defendant or was it merely a memorialization by the investigators? I mean, all of that will come into play.

KING: But she fled.

FULGINITI: Well that's another thing. I think if I was a prosecutor in this case, I'd be arguing that's consciousness of guilt. She took off with her three children to Alabama and there are also no signs of any forced entry here and there doesn't appear to be any signs of any physical altercation between the two.

KING: What do you make of this? Just as a..

FULGINITI: ... You know, it's sad. It's just terribly, terribly sad. And there's definitely -- I would hope at least something lurking behind the scenes that would explain it, even though nothing will ever justify a murder nor should it, but it's just terribly, terribly sad.

KING: Must be a lot of pressure to be the preacher's wife.

FULGINITI: You know, I guess. I grew up in a town where there was about 4,200 people at the time that I resided there. So in small towns and I can see if you are the preacher's wife, there is some pressure, but you know, is that enough? I mean, that just doesn't seem like.

KING: John Foote, did Mary ever show much pressure to you?

FOOTE: Not that I saw, Larry. She was -- she was always, you know, at church by Matthew's side, always just talking and laughing and having a good time. I never saw anything that showed anything that was stress-related.

KING: And Leslie Ballin, before Mary leaves us, that's quite a compliment coming from her to you.

BALLIN: Mary, thank you very much. I'll pay you later, but it's great talking to you, Mary and your observations as to what we're going do, we're looking into her mental health status and we're going to do what needs to be done.

This case -- it's tough. It's hard, but we're going do a job that I hope Mary Carol deserves and I like my client. I'm going to work hard. She just -- it's one thing, she is concerned about herself. She is more concerned about those kids right now. She is comforted in the thought that the kids are with the Winklers. We know, based on what Mary Carol has told us, that those kids are in good hands.

KING: That's great to hear. Thank you, Mary, we love your expertise.

FULGINITI: Good to see you.

KING: Mary's going to be a mother, when?

FULGINITI: Oh, in just a couple months.

KING: Girl, huh?

FULGINITI: It's a girl.

KING: Anderson Cooper, where are you now, Anderson?

ANDERSON COOPER, CNN ANCHOR: I'm back in New York, Larry.

KING: Boy, your mileage must be incredible. Anderson Cooper in New York to host "A.C. 360" at the top of the hour, what's the lead?

COOPER: Yes, I was on the border last night. Today we have a couple leads, actually. We're starting off tonight with some breaking news, tornado watches and warnings up across Kansas and Missouri and where at least one tornado has hit already in and around Hutchinson, Kansas. Fires are burning, fanned by the high winds. We'll have the latest. As a precaution, people have been told to leave a 21 square mile area around the fire. Meantime, tornado warnings have been issued in Missouri as the front travels eastward.

We're also going to look into Randy McCloy, he spoke. We'll tell you what he and said what we now know about what happened to him and the other miners deep underground in the Sago Mine, Larry?

KING: Thanks, Anderson, incredible story. Anderson on top of the scene for two hours immediately following this program at 10:00 Eastern and we'll be back with your phone calls. Don't go away.

(BEGIN VIDEO CLIP)

BALLIN: Her condition is pretty fragile right now. We're concerned about it.

UNIDENTIFIED MALE: Is it your desire at this point to waive your right to preliminary hearing?

UNIDENTIFIED FEMALE: Yes, sir.

STEVE FARESE, DEFENSE ATTORNEY: This is not a circus. This is a legal proceeding.

(END VIDEO CLIP)

(COMMERCIAL BREAK)

KING: Remaining with us are John Foote in Selmer, Leslie Ballin in Memphis, George Brown on Selmer and Dr. Robi Ludwig in New York. Let's take a call. Memphis, hello?

CALLER: Yes, regarding the motive, I would like to know if the children will be examined for signs of physical abuse.

KING: Might they be, Leslie?

BALLIN: We have been advised by the Winklers' attorney that they are going to be evaluated -- well, not really -- they're going to be counseled. I assumed it was going to be grief counseling. I'm not aware of any allegations that the kids were actually abused.

But keep in mind, we are just getting into this case. I want to be very careful -- very preliminary and I do not want to say something and it not be true. We are not saying that these kids were in any way mistreated. I'm not saying that.

KING: New York City, hello?

CALLER: Yes, my question is for Dr. Ludwig.

KING: Yes.

CALLER: What do you think -- how would you rate, I guess, the possibility of the insanity defense and do you think that the recent Daniel Carver roast on Howard...

LUDWIG: ... You know, it's very hard to get an insanity defense. There is a possibility of diminished capacity, but of course, the lawyers would have a better sense of that than I would. But postpartum depression is a serious condition and it does need to be considered.

KING: John, what are the children like, John Foote?

FOOTE: They're just very happy, outgoing children, involved in sports, involved in the church. Just happy kids, just very happy kids.

KING: George Brown, does the national attention still remain high?

BROWN: It does. It is diminishing tonight. In fact CNN is the only person here right now, the only network here. Everyone else has left, which a lot of the people here, Larry, are very happy about because it was starting to get a little bit much for this town.

As I said, it's about 4,600 people, not very well known except for -- I told you, it's a furniture store from this area. A lot of the public are ready for this to go and there's also that sense of kind of the national media, outside people coming in. They don't really know this family. They don't know these people and sometimes kind of -- perhaps even thinking that people are being exploited in this situation and yet that gets back to why people aren't speculating.

I can tell you, someone asked me also what is going on with her in the jail, and I spoke with someone who met with her just recently and said that she said that she's doing very well in the jail, that she's being very well treated, that everyone has been very nice to her and someone else also there telling me today that she really seemed a little bit more aware today of her surroundings in the jail.

KING: We'll take a break and be back with more moments, get another call or two in. Don't go away.

(COMMERCIAL BREAK)

KING: Attorney Leslie Ballin had to leave us and we still have John Foote, George Brown and Dr. Ludwig. A couple of minutes left.

Fort Hood, Texas, hello? Fort Hood, Texas, are you there? Hello? No Fort Hood, Texas. How about Pittsburgh, hello?

CALLER: Yes, I was wondering, was there any financial debt maybe because of gambling or drugs or was she going collect on any life insurance policies?

KING: John, do you know anything about that?

FOOTE: No, nothing, nothing about any of that.

KING: John, how good a pastor was he?

FOOTE: He was an excellent pastor. He was a man who really knew the word and really brought it in a powerful way. He was very enthusiastic about preaching the word and just -- he was -- he was very strong.

KING: And increased membership in the church, too. Port Richey, Florida, hello?

CALLER: Yes, hi, good evening, Larry. My question is to the reporter Mr. Brown. Is there any truth, Mr. Brown, to the story of the minister having a problem with the neighbor and threatening the neighbor's pets?

BROWN: You know, it's very interesting that you say that because someone approached me in the courtroom today. The back story on this is supposedly that the minister said to one of his neighbors that he was going shoot their dogs if they came onto his property again and that was reported.

But later we were told that perhaps the context of that story was that these dogs, I believe one was a pit bull and another large dog had possibly gone after the minister's children and someone said "Well, how would you react, what would you say?" And that that shouldn't be taken out of context. That shouldn't be used to characterize him as a person. And this gets back to yet again, why people don't want to speculate on this story, Larry.

KING: Dr. Ludwig are we ever...

FOOTE: I'd like to address that issue.

KING: ... sure, John, go ahead.

FOOTE: I'd like to directly address that issue. As the last time I spoke to Matthew about his neighbor, it was a Rottweiler that the neighbor had that they let run free.

And I think if you look at the video that was on T.V., you saw the Rottweiler running free. And at Christmas time in Matthew's home, he explained to me along with other members of the church the issues that he was dealing with with his neighbor of that dog, that Rottweiler coming into his yard, keeping his family, his wife and kids in their car.

And they were scared of the dog and chasing them back to the house and that's why he addressed that issue with his neighbor.

KING: Thanks, John. We're out of time and we thank you all very much for participating. Before we go, it was 25 years ago today that President Ronald Reagan was the target of an assassination attempt outside the Washington Hilton. The bullet lodged near his heart but he survived and on January 11th, 1990, I asked him about that harrowing day.

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KING: What's it like? Really like? RONALD REAGAN, DECEASED PRESIDENT:RR: Well, I'll tell you what it's like. What it was like was I didn't know I was shot. I heard a noise and we came out of the hotel and headed for the limousine and I heard some noise and I thought it was firecrackers.
And the next thing I knew one of the Secret Service agents behind me just seized me here by the waist and plunged me head first into the limo. I landed on the seat and the seat divider was down and then he dived in on top of me which is part of their procedure to make sure that I'm covered.
Well, as it turned out later, the shot that got me careened off the side of the limousine and hit me while I was diving into the car and it hit me back here under the arm and then hit a rib. And that's what caused an extreme pain and then it tumbled and it turned, instead of edge wise and went tumbling down to within an inch of my heart.

(END VIDEO CLIP)

KING: Also wounded that day a Secret Service agent, a Washington police officer, and White House Press Secretary James Brady, who was left permanently disabled.

Tomorrow night, Bill Clinton. Right now, let's turn it over to Anderson Cooper in New York to host "A.C. 360." Anderson?

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MouseKids said:
I may be reading too much into your post, but are you suggesting that the only reason she would claim insanity is to get out of the charges?

Sorry mousekids I just saw you quoted me.

Yes I think the insanity thing is a poor defense and it's used to get out of the heftier charges. Well I think some people are depressed I don't think it gives them an excuse to kill and I hate when the defense uses insanity as the reason why. It seems like it happens in quite a few 'murder' cases as well. I just think it's a poor excuse. It's almost like the defense doesn't have any other leads so they say hey let's go with the insanity one.

Sounds like that might be the way this case is going as well. Yikes!
 
azgal81 said:
Sorry mousekids I just saw you quoted me.

Yes I think the insanity thing is a poor defense and it's used to get out of the heftier charges. Well I think some people are depressed I don't think it gives them an excuse to kill and I hate when the defense uses insanity as the reason why. It seems like it happens in quite a few 'murder' cases as well. I just think it's a poor excuse. It's almost like the defense doesn't have any other leads so they say hey let's go with the insanity one.

Sounds like that might be the way this case is going as well. Yikes!

It seems that mental illness is being used in a lot of cases these days, like that chick who was having sex with her student. Her excuse was that she was bi-polar. :rolleyes:

It's kind of like "Oh your Honor, I did it but I was feeling all depressed and was going to kill myself but I decided to kill my spouse and/or children instead." It will be interesting to see what the motive was in this one. Also interesting that the motive has not been leaked yet.
 
Wow!

Thanks, taeja71. :sunny:

Reading the comments of the people who know her and knew him was very interesting.

But I don't see how the psychotherapist discounts spirtuality.


I'm sorry. There's a psychotherapist being interviewed right now and she's trying to psychoanalyze M.W being a pastor's wife. I'm sorry, but (most)psychotherapist (most of them) will not understand the spiritual aspect of being a Pastor's wife or the relationship one has with God.




And, in New York, Dr. Robi Ludwig, the psychotherapist and author of a terrific new book "Till Death do us Part, Love, Marriage, and the Mind of a Killer Spouse."

KING: All right, Dr. Ludwig, he was very popular yet the support for her seems overwhelming.

DR. ROBI LUDWIG, PSY.D.: Yes.

KING: What do you make of that?

LUDWIG: Well, I mean it sounds like they knew a side of her that they feel sorry for her, so I wonder what they know about her. I mean this is a woman I believe she lost her mother recently. She could be grieving and be in bereavement overload. I would want to rule out if there's any postpartum depression.

It sounds like they really feel that this is not an evil woman that whatever happened was a result of her being sick in some way. And I actually admire that they want to protect the children by not gossiping, if you will. I think that's a good move for the community.

KING: So you like the idea that there's very little speculation despite all the wondering?

LUDWIG: Well, I'm sure that they're doing it behind closed doors. How can you not? It's this huge mystery. You have this very charismatic preacher, this couple. This family seemed to have it all. How could you not question, gee what went wrong? Clearly something went wrong if she took a gun and shot him to death.

But I respect that they're trying to be, you know, proper and dignified about it and now they're thinking about the people who are alive and trying to move forward thinking about them which is wise and smart.


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KING: Dr. Ludwig, what do you read into that?

LUDWIG: I think that this woman is depressed and probably has been depressed for a very long time and felt a lot of shame about it. It's very hard when you are the preacher's wife, who do you turn to?

You know, if you have to be the pillar of the community and people are looking to you to be a role model, then who is your preacher? And is there this pressure to say, "Well, you know, I have God, which is great."

But you know, people need other people. So when I hear about this case, my sense is that she was like a tornado or a volcano that just erupted and probably was very unaware of her own emotional state and the danger zone that she was moving into. I don't think she was aware of it and therefore probably wasn't able to get help for herself.



Actually, the psychotherapist seems pretty respectful of the community.



And, as several of the commentators on LKL said, since they're saying they know the motive but they're not releasing what that motive is, speculation is naturally fueled.

I'm cutting and pasting an exchange from another discussion board here because I think it's password protected, so I'm not sure a link would work.

em: I've been curious about the murder case in Selmer, TN -- the Church of Christ preacher who was murdered by his wife. Has anyone heard what the motive might have been? I understand she told the cops why she did it but they aren't saying.

dg: They're still not saying, other than that it was not infidelity on anyone's part.

em: Interesting. Some of the more conservative CoCs are extremely condemning of divorce or remarriage -- except in the case of infidelity. When one partner is unfaithful, the other party is free to divorce them and remarry. So if he was unfaithful, she wouldn't have had to shoot him. But if he were doing something else intolerable, she might have thought she didn't have many options. All speculation on my part, of course. The CoC can be a pressure cooker for families, especially preacher's families, so I'm curious what caused this one to blow.
 

Wow--when you said transcript, you meant transcript!!! :rotfl: THat was very interesting reading---I appreciate you finding it.

I am impressed with the whole community staying tight-lipped.

I think the psychotherapist was understanding.
 
sheherazade said:
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em: Interesting. Some of the more conservative CoCs are extremely condemning of divorce or remarriage -- except in the case of infidelity. [/I]


I have been reading this thread, but so far I have not commented. I had to write when I read this because it touched on some of my thoughts/speculations. First, I would like to say that I am not leaning towards abuse to the wife or children automatically; nor did I assume that he had an affair. Actually, my mind went in the opposite direction. I was intrigued to hear that she had just gone back to school, college, to get her teaching degree. I couldn't help but wonder if she got a "taste" of change and maybe wanted a break from the marriage to experience the typical, young college life. Maybe some guy even sparked interest........no affair........just possible interest. I don't know. However, I do know that college can be fun and exciting. I loved my college years! It appears that they must have married young. Maybe starting college opened up her eyes to what life could be like. If she mentioned divorce, I am sure he would have said no. I am sure that he would have wanted to work it out. Or they probably both felt that it was not an option. That may have made her feel trapped and this was maybe her way "out."

I know that no one knows for sure yet, and maybe no one ever will except her. However, this has been a thought for me.
 
TLHB70 said:
That may have made her feel trapped and this was maybe her way out.

I know that no one knows for sure yet, and maybe no one ever will except her. However, this has been a thought for me.

Well now she is trapped for sure...In a jail cell!! ;)
 
disneyfanz04 said:
Well now she is trapped for sure...In a jail cell!! ;)
Yes, and she deserves to be. She killed him. Of course, I don't know what she was thinking. However, for the many criminals that commit crimes, murder, with this thought, it makes no sense to me. I know that they have said that they thought they could do it and "free" themselves. I just can't imagine that anyone would think that they could get away with it!!!!!!!! I guess, though, that so many do. Look at Natalie Holloway's case. Look at Nicole Simpson's case. So many criminals get away with it. That is just awful!!!!!!!!

**I added " " to my comment, around the word "out" because I don't think it was an out. I was just meaning that so many people that commit crimes are foolish and think that.
 
TLHB70 said:
I just can't imagine that anyone would think that they could get away with it!!!!!!!! I guess, though, that so many do.

Not a spouse. I've told my DH that he'd better pray nothing ever happens to me. He'd be going to prison, whether he did it or not. :rotfl2: I know it's really not a funny situation, but it's fun when I'm threatening him with it. :blush:
 
From what I read in this latest article is that Mary will need a complete psychiatrict evaluation to determine why she shot Matt?

I am confused :confused3 ! If she can answer all the questions on the evaluation to the best of her ability, and a determination is then made as to what exactly happened.... :confused3

Why can't they just skip the evaluation completely and simply take her statement as to the events that unfolded.... :confused3

I am not an lawyer or an md so I am :confused3 about how this evaluation will give the proper authorities THEIR ANSWERS as vs Mary just stating the FACTS!! Seems like delay tatics. :rolleyes:
 
Here's another comment from a discussion board I frequent. I'm always interested when people with experience in the denomination involved have an insight.

Quotation:

"Back to the Winkler thing for a moment.

You said, "She violated the rule that I've learned from Law & Order. No matter what happens, DON'T KILL ANYONE. No matter what happens!"

That makes sense, normally. But in the CoC (my parents, grandparents and great-grandparents are/were members, I know of which I speak) you cannot get divorced and remarried. If you spouse is dead you can get remarried. So divorce is not an option. Murder can be forgiven, divorce cannot. It's really warped and many congregations border on cultishness (they are autonomous, there is no central governing body).

I'm following this closely and have heard they have seized computers from the home and church. She's also been quoted as saying no one would believe her. My sister used to fantisize about killing her first husband (a diehard CoC, son of an Elder) so its not so farfetched to me that a preacher's wife who had a baby, moved, finished school, started a new job, lost her sister, lost her mother, had a husband that started a new job in a position with much greater responibilities all in one year and was expected to be perfect on top of it all might snap.
"
 
I haven't found any recent news stories. Not sure if its b/c of all the tornadoes TN has been having. The weather is one sure way this story will continue to be buried.
 
sheherazade said:
Here's another comment from a discussion board I frequent. I'm always interested when people with experience in the denomination involved have an insight.

That makes sense, normally. But in the CoC (my parents, grandparents and great-grandparents are/were members, I know of which I speak) you cannot get divorced and remarried. If you spouse is dead you can get remarried. So divorce is not an option. Murder can be forgiven, divorce cannot. It's really warped and many congregations border on cultishness (they are autonomous, there is no central governing body).QUOTE]



I've got to speak up here. I'm not Church of Christ (I'm Baptist, if it matters), but I have grown up with many close C of C friends who attend different churches.

Some of them are divorced and are still active in their church. Most of them went to college, and most of the women have full time jobs. My DD and her friend (who is C of C) grew up going to each other's Bible Schools during the summer. They are just like everybody else I know and aren't different just because of their church affiliation.

The woman may have snapped, but I don't think it was because she was a member of a Church of Christ congregation.
 
The first thought in my head was that maybe he abused the children or was very controlling of her (I have a relative who is Free Will Baptist and I have seen how controlled the women in that church are in general), but I obviously have no idea what really happened
 
taeja71 said:
I haven't found any recent news stories. Not sure if its b/c of all the tornadoes TN has been having. The weather is one sure way this story will continue to be buried.

No; no recent news stories. They're really keeping it quiet. The National Enquirer has come out with a couple of stories, but the check-out line at the grocery store was moving too fast ;) so I haven't read them.

So all the stuff I've posted is from the blogosphere. Reliable? :confused3
Not likely. True? :confused3


The lawyers, the town, the congregation--all involved--are doing an amazing job of not spilling to the media.

Curious though we may be, more power to them! :cheer2:
 
sheherazade said:

I have some direct ties to the Church of Christ, too (FIL is a preacher within that group, but DH and I do not attend it any longer). It is in general a pretty conservative Christian group. But most of what is said on that site really isn't factual. I disagree with some of that denomination's teachings - the no-musical-instruments belief (which some churches of Christ have abandoned or partially abandoned), but especially some of the stuff about women (which is no where nearly as drastic as most of what is said on that site - they dress and look like everyday people, but women can't be preachers, official leaders, etc :rolleyes: ).

But most Church of Christ groups are just part of a mainstream Christian denomination (yes, it is a denomination despite the protests of some). It is similar (but not identical) in many ways to mainstream Southern Baptist churches. But like any denomination, there are extreme groups or break-off groups who have made up their own bizarre teachings and rules. I have no idea if the church this family was a part of would be considered a "normal" Church of Christ or not. I choose to no longer attend that denomination because of some of their conservative beliefs, but I don't want to see the entire denomination or group of people who belong to it given the title of "nutcases" because of a few weirdos who might belong to it.
 














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