So what would you do??? (Warning, ex vent!) UPDATE

[Briar Rose 7457]

so let's see where we are ...your child is missing school tomorrow for an unexcused absence, he won't have his medication, and your ex didn't consult with you, the custodial parent, before making this decision, which happens to violate the visitation order.

gee, sounds like custodial interference to me.

but you're right, law enforcement is too busy to get involved.

cut back the hours to just what the court ordered. he abused you, and he abused your son, with his bad judgment here.

 

[mhopset]

Let me give you a guys perspective on this:

Now, TC I don't know the whole situation with you and your EX. I don't want to upset you because at the next Dis Meet I want one of your cookies (They are the BOMB!!!!)

I LOVE my son with all my heart. It would kill me to only get to see him everyother week and for 3 hours during a weeknight. Thank the Good Lord above I am not in this situation.

Ok here it comes. I don't see anything wrong with playing hooky for one day and going out and doing dad and son stuff. Like I said I don't know the whole situation, but if put in the same situation as your EX I might do the same thing.

T.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

that would be all well and good if he discussed it with tuffcookie first.

she's the one who's going to have to deal with the extra homework and missed assignments when the kid goes back to school friday.

 

[Tuffcookie]

mhopset, Maybe there's nothing wrong with DS missing a day or two during the school year however, the ex should have communicated with me about this beforehand. His request would have been thoughtfully considered. I am flexible but I don't appreciate the fact that he took it upon himself to notify the school. That was way over-bounds in my book. Plus I would have wanted DS to take his medicine with him. This man is 53, way old enough to know that he needs to show the mother of his child some repect and due consideration. I talked to our juvenile officer this morning and he got me a copy of the note the ex wrote to the school. I paid a visit to the principal with a letter and a copy of the section in our divorce decree that stipulates custody and visitation. He will no longer be allowed to pick DS up at school.

TC

 

[Kermit]

I think it sounds like you're doing the right thing. If he had given you some notice and talked it over with you, it would have been polite of you to at least consider it, but he didn't show you (or his son) the proper respect. I'm sure that you know more about what your son is doing at school and when it's best for him to take time off. And you certainly would have given him his medicines to take with him. I know that if I missed a day of taking my Claritin, I'd be likely to get sick and then have to miss another day of school. Parents should be responsible role models, and your ex doesn't sound like he's willing to fulfill that role.

 

[roque]

Tuffcookie, you've done the right thing. The ex shattered what little trust he had developed. You sound like you have been extremely reasonable. I liked the fact that you said if he had asked prior you would have considered it (didn't you say you were with him at the ortho on Monday?). The ex merely made a unilateral decision and he was wrong. Good luck with all this and I will sprinkle some of that Pixie Dust for you.

 

[disykat]

I agree with you that your ex was wrong. If he wanted more time with your son it should have been prearranged with you.

 

[softfluff]

Personally I would pursue this through the court for the simple reason of DS not having his medcine. Also because he violated the agreement and your request to return DS.

 

[Tuffcookie]

Update.

 

[Mom2Em]

TC~ stick to your guns!! Your DS needs at least one responsible parent... Obviously, your ex did not think this through and I wouldn't be surprised if he didn't do it to spite you... DS is very lucky to have a Mom like you!! Unfortunately, even some people who claim to love their children most, do not have good intentions... they just use the guise of "love" to make the other suffer...

Wovenwonder~ I thought the same thing as you did... Here, the truant officer would have been right there!!