So what do i do now?

[theotherlostprincess]

So my fiance and i were planning on a disney wedding for 2017 and then today out of the blue he says its to expensive and he doesnt think enough of his family will be able to make it down there. Now im heart broken and have no alternative ideas,nor do i really want to do anything else as i had my heart set on it. I dont really want the boring options that are around here and ive already told everyone that that was the plan....any ideas on wat to do or words of encouragement to try to make it better would be appreciated

 

[NoOrdinaryPrincess]

I would give him a little bit of time and then do what I can go ease his concerns. Put together a chart with a tentative budget and how much will need to be saved each month between now and your wedding day. See if that budget has any room to help family members with expenses. It's a tough situation, but that's what I would do.

 

[Chilly]

You could also get costs from local places to get married to show him that it would cost just as much at home.

 

[lurkyloo]

Yeah, does he actually know what a Disney wedding will cost? You can put together a sample budget for him, and then compare it to local places like Chilly suggested. And I like NoOrdinaryPrincess' idea of creating a savings budget that shows how much you can put away before 2017.

 

[smadath]

If his main concern is that people may not want to go to, or may not be able to afford, a Destination Wedding, you could always plan for something after you get back home. A friend of mine had a Hawaiian Beach wedding, and lived in PA. A handful of people showed up there, but after they got home, they had a Reception/Party for everyone else. So, basically, the ceremony was a small affair, and they planned a normal sit down Reception for everyone else later.

No one seemed to mind, and it was good compromise for the couple!

 

[lthiesfeld07]

Remind him of the room block. You can block off a value resort that will help save some money! It is for us!

I am on a very strict budget! I had my planning session today and my planner listened to all my budget requests.

There are definite ways where you can splurge, but there are other ways where you can cut back too.

Get Carries book! It will help you plan and make a list of sample prices!

Good luck!

 

[aristocatz]

Also, from the point of view of a non-DFTW bride, there are many other significantly less expensive options for getting married on Disney property or very close to Disney property. You might want to look into those options as well. I believe many of them are also listed in Carrie's book.

 

[brittbrat63]

Speaking as a non-DFTW bride...

Many moons ago, like before I met my DH, I dreamed of being a DFTW bride. Ultimately, we decided that we'd be better off getting married somewhere local where our families could be present and then having an out of this world Disneymoon.

The beauty of Disney is there really is an option for everyone. Good luck and don't lose sight of what your wedding day is really about. =)

 

[deakam]

My daughter was having the same doubts. We sat down and talked. It turned out that by having a destination wedding she can insure that only the people she wants there will come and all the "other" people that we feel we "have to" invite won't come. If she decided to have a local wedding everyone would come. After putting everything together it is going to cost the same amount for a fabulous Disney wedding with 60 people they really want to share the day with as it would for 140 people they see occasionally. They are planning an October 2016 wedding and have already sent out save the date cards with Disney rate info giving everyone two years to save for the trip/vacation. The estimates were based on non-discounted rooms and tickets so the guest will be pleasantly surprised when things turn out to cost less. Don't give up just yet. You could also do the very small, I think it is for 6 people, ceremony at Disney and then have the party back home.

 

[smadath]

It turned out that by having a destination wedding she can insure that only the people she wants there will come and all the "other" people that we feel we "have to" invite won't come.

That is awesome. Wish I had thought of it!

 

[MiaSRN62]

My daughter's fiance was hesitant at first too (based on cost). In early 2013 they were looking at various non-Disney venues. They looked at an aquarium that hosted weddings as well as beach locations. Once we all did the initial tour and sit down in Francks, it turned his thought process all around. Sometimes "seeing" is believing. I feel with a Disney wedding you need to give everyone as much of a head's up as possible. Disregard the normal etiquette on when to mail out the "save the date". I don't think a 10-12 months is too far out if you feel people will need that much time to plan and save. We had some guests fly in just for 1-2 nights while others stayed a full week. We are from PA but family was from all over (PA, FL,IL, AZ, CA) and sent out the save-the-dates 8 months ahead.
They had their DFTW April '14 and were so happy with everything. All the best to you both

 

[ahutton]

My daughter was having the same doubts. We sat down and talked. It turned out that by having a destination wedding she can insure that only the people she wants there will come and all the "other" people that we feel we "have to" invite won't come. If she decided to have a local wedding everyone would come. After putting everything together it is going to cost the same amount for a fabulous Disney wedding with 60 people they really want to share the day with as it would for 140 people they see occasionally. They are planning an October 2016 wedding and have already sent out save the date cards with Disney rate info giving everyone two years to save for the trip/vacation. The estimates were based on non-discounted rooms and tickets so the guest will be pleasantly surprised when things turn out to cost less. Don't give up just yet. You could also do the very small, I think it is for 6 people, ceremony at Disney and then have the party back home.

We found this was the case for us - we had a crazy great Disney wedding with only family and spent about what it priced out to do a wedding at our church and reception for the "have to" list at a golf clubhouse nearby.

 

[majix]

So my fiance and i were planning on a disney wedding for 2017 and then today out of the blue he says its to expensive and he doesnt think enough of his family will be able to make it down there. Now im heart broken and have no alternative ideas,nor do i really want to do anything else as i had my heart set on it. I dont really want the boring options that are around here and ive already told everyone that that was the plan....any ideas on wat to do or words of encouragement to try to make it better would be appreciated

We also wanted disney. We couldn't afford it. So we modified. We hAve rented a villa in Orlando. This will be where the ceremony and reception will take place. We can go to disney with those who want to go and not have to worry. The villa we rented is for 26ppl, so we are asking our wedding party and families to stay with us and pay for their rooms it's workibg out a better price so far!

 

[majix]

So my fiance and i were planning on a disney wedding for 2017 and then today out of the blue he says its to expensive and he doesnt think enough of his family will be able to make it down there. Now im heart broken and have no alternative ideas,nor do i really want to do anything else as i had my heart set on it. I dont really want the boring options that are around here and ive already told everyone that that was the plan....any ideas on wat to do or words of encouragement to try to make it better would be appreciated

We also wanted disney. We couldn't afford it. So we modified. We hAve rented a villa in Orlando. This will be where the ceremony and reception will take place. We can go to disney with those who want to go and not have to worry. The villa we rented is for 26ppl, so we are asking our wedding party and families to stay with us and pay for their rooms it's workibg out a better price so far!

 

[Beast913]

My daughter was having the same doubts. We sat down and talked. It turned out that by having a destination wedding she can insure that only the people she wants there will come and all the "other" people that we feel we "have to" invite won't come. If she decided to have a local wedding everyone would come. After putting everything together it is going to cost the same amount for a fabulous Disney wedding with 60 people they really want to share the day with as it would for 140 people they see occasionally. They are planning an October 2016 wedding and have already sent out save the date cards with Disney rate info giving everyone two years to save for the trip/vacation. The estimates were based on non-discounted rooms and tickets so the guest will be pleasantly surprised when things turn out to cost less. Don't give up just yet. You could also do the very small, I think it is for 6 people, ceremony at Disney and then have the party back home.

This for us as well. We easily would have had 200-250 at a home wedding, we had about 55 at our Disney wedding (should have been 60, but one group didn't make it at the last minute due to travel issues.) And we had our closest friends and families there and it was awesome! Perfect for us.