So unhappy,scared and down.

[DisneyAli]

Hi guys havent been around for a while. Lots of bad and unhappy things going on and i have hit a real low.
I have had to cancel my solo holiday on advice of Solicitor.
The divorce is now half way through and although i am glad to be getting rid of him, i am strangely very sad.
I am extremely worried for my future, as of yet dont know what will happen to house and where i will live.
Have a court date for 22nd june to thrash out finances. The information we both have to give to me is very intrusive and personal. Because of my very reduced circumstances i am finding it very hard to cope. Yet he is living the life of riley.
To top it all on Monday i tripped over and hurt myself badly, got sent to casualty from work yesterday as i was crying with the pain in my wrists, which have both been xrayed and are now heavily strapped. Damage to tendons nerves etc.
My family and friends have been very supportive, but i dont think they can fully understand the hurt,pain and confusion i am going through. As i write this i am still bawling my eyes out i just feel so down i cant see where i am going or how it will all end up. I seem to give the impression to all around that i am coping fine, but this is far from the case.
Thanks all for reading, just needed to get it off my chest.

 

[carolfoy]

Darling, it DOES get better, divorce is awful I've no idea how some people go through it so much, you will and are grieving like someones died, so you'll have to embrace ALL the emotions this truly dreadful time will throw at you, You will experience humiliation, jealousy, fear, and anger just remember anger is good, this can be a strengthening emotion and will see you through the worst. it will take time but you'll pull through. When its all over you'll look back at this episode as being the worse and best time as you'll really grow to love yourself and others who support you.
best of luck
feel free to pm me if you need a shoulder

 

[lagunn]

as carol said it does get better...please dont feel sad and lonely there are plenty of us to talk to on here..
ive been through it i felt like you but now i am happy it all happened as i am very happy again..
you can pm me too if you need to i dont mind.

 

[T16GEM]

Ali, I am so sorry to hear that you are still going through all of this. Things will get better it just takes time, soon it will all be over and you will be able to concentrate on getting yourself back on track.

You are in my thoughts - keep your chin up and take care of yourself.
Love Gems

 

[Cyrano]

Sorry to hear that you have been down. This board is great and I've found the support will overwhelm you.
I'm sure you will come through with lots of strength; although you will not feel that is possible.

Reid

 

[Madjock]

Ali I’m sorry to hear you’re in so much pain. I have never gone through a divorce so I don’t for a minute pretend I know what your feeling but two and a bit years ago I watched one of my closest friends suffer the most horrendous divorce imaginable, I seriously thought the stress would kill her and there was nothing I could do but provide a shoulder to cry on. But she survived and now two years down the line she’s back on track, she has a new job, a lovely new man and more importantly, to her, she and her ex manage to be civil to each other for the sake of their kids. I never thought I’d see her happy again but she is.

As Carolfoy said, divorce strikes me as a bereavement, it’s the death of all that you had as a couple and a life that you thought you knew so the feelings you describe are perfectly understandable. I know at this moment in time it’s hard to imagine that this will all come to pass but it will, all you can do for now is take it one day at a time.

I wish you lots of strength to see you through this horrible time

Annmarie

 

[florida sun]

Ali

This brings back so many memories of what I went through, I thought I would never be able to cope with going through a divorce, I felt so down at times and I could see nothing postitive, but believe me, it does get better, there is light at the end of that very long dark tunnel.

Please feel free to pm me at any time for a chat, this happened to me 7 years ago, and beleive me I thought the bottom had fallen out of my world,it took some time, but now I am much much better and happier.

Good Luck and get in touch if you need to chat.


Sue

 

[vicky1bfc]

Nothing to add really,just wanted to send my

 

[natalielongstaff]

ali i am so sorry to hear you feel like this, all of us are here to support you anytime you need it

 

[Cochise]

I had loads of messages of support recently after losing my Sister in Law.
I know everyone is genuine in there support of you on the DIS, stay strong

 

[Ware Bears]

I can only reiterate what the others have already said........that we are all thinking of you and are always here for you. Lots of and sprinklings of from another one who has suffered like you but has come through to a much happier and better life. You WILL come through this and it WILL get better, I promise.

 

[Bexx]

I'm so sorry you're feeling so miserable Ali I know it doesn't feel like it at the moment, but things will get better. If you're worried about not seeming strong to your family and friends - don't be. Or ask your doctor to refer you to a councillor. Talking to someone you don't know personally can be very helpful - you don't have to pretend anything and can really let out how you feel.

Take care

 

[mandymouse]

Hi Ali, I really can't imagine what you are going through, I just wanted to send a hug

mandymouse

 

[Muppet]

I'm so sorry Ali, I hope things get better for you soon. You have done no wrong in this situation and it will show in your day of court.

I hope your wrist get better soon.

 

[Miffy2003]

Ali, divorce is one of the most difficult things to get through. It's no wonder you are feeling the strain - don't be hard on yourself!

Things will get better I am sure though I appreciate it doesn't feel that way just now

Take care.

 

[uktigger]

hi ali

just wanted to send you a big

take care eve

 

[Mrs Dazzle]

Hi Ali - just wanted to give you a big and a to let you know you're are not on your own here.

Hope the wrists get better soon, rest them and do your physio when you're ready.

As for the trip, it WILL happen another time. Something to look forward to when you get through the divorce.

I am a worrier - I worry for the world - so understand how you are worrying about your future. However, that's what you have a solicitor for, to make sure you get something to show for your years of marriage.

Hope some nicer things happen for you in the next few days.

 

[shellbell]

Ali i can't imagine the pain and hurt you must be going through. Try to stay possitive and you will get through this a stronger person. Were always here to listen

Michelle

 

[sharon78]

Take care Ali, i hope you soon start feeling better

 

[diberry]

Hi Ali! Just wanted to add my message of support to the others. I haven't been through a divorce but like everyone I have had bad experiences so I know you must feel like you're at the bottom of a deep dark hole with no way of getting out. But, as everyone else has said,you will emerge from that dark place you're in and you will be happy again although it seems impossible at the moment. I think it's great that you feel you can ask for help because that's a big step in the right direction. Don't pretend you're ok - show how much you're hurting and people will do everything they can to support you, I'm sure. And remember to spoil yourself - just a long luxurious bubble bath can make you feel so much better. You deserve to be happy and you will be again.