So I get a call from my dd's school telling me my dd is disgusting...UPDATE #47

[Blondy876]

The women tells me that I need to come and get her she pooped on herself, she's in first grade. I ask if she is OK, thinking she must be sick, etc. The response I get is "Yeah she's fine, but she is covered in poop and is just disgusting. She smells horrible and I am gagging." I want to know if she is OK and instead I am told how disgusting my child is?! Now, I am a teacher and I have had my share of poop/pee accidents to deal with and yes, they are nasty and disgusting. Would I ever call and tell a parent that? No, of course not.

I'm glad my dd is fine, and she didn't hear any of what the women told me but geesh. And you know why she went on herself? Because she asked to go to the bathroom and was told no.

This is actually the second time this women has called my child disgusting. She is friends with my sister, but I barely know her. I guess she just feels like it is OK to talk to me like this because of her relationship with my sis.

Anyway I'm upset and needed to get it off my chest.

 

[Beth76]

Oh I would be upset too. And talking to someone about it. I used to work with infants in childcare and I've had my share of poo and vomit on me. I never once complained to the parents about it or told them their child was disgusting. That person was completely out of line. Is she your daughter's teacher or someone else at the school?

 

[kdibattista]

That's horrible!!! I hope you gave her a nice talking to when you got there (as well as her superior).

 

[Alice's Mom]

Oh my goodness, I would definitely talk to the principal about this, she shouldn't talk about your daughter in such a way!

 

[Blondy876]

Oh I would be upset too. And talking to someone about it. I used to work with infants in childcare and I've had my share of poo and vomit on me. I never once complained to the parents about it or told them their child was disgusting. That person was completely out of line. Is she your daughter's teacher or someone else at the school?

No she's not the teacher, she is a babysitter. She watches kids in the before and after school program. The kids play and she reads a book.

I didn't speak to her at all (I didn't even look at her really)when I picked Madie up. I just wanted to get her home and get her in the shower. I hesitate to talk to her about it at all for two reasons. One, She is my sister's best friend and, two, none of this was said in front of my dd. In fact, when I asked Madie about it she said that this women had been very nice and helpful. I would have screamed at her had my dd heard any of the negative comments.

 

[emily1982]

Aren't you allowed to change children?

I work in a school, in the Pre-school section, but we change any age child, yes it's not very nice and i will tell the parent to prepare themselves for the clothes i've dropped in the bag for them, but i think it's inappropriate for her to say this to you, shes in a child care role what does she expect?

 

[dumboiu]

Because she asked to go to the bathroom and was told no.

I'd find out from the school if this in fact was true. If your child has had no other incidents like this one, then I would jump all over them. If your child has other incidents like this, I would look into potential behaviour problems. aw:

 

[Blondy876]

Aren't you allowed to change children?

I work in a school, in the Pre-school section, but we change any age child, yes it's not very nice and i will tell the parent to prepare themselves for the clothes i've dropped in the bag for them, but i think it's inappropriate for her to say this to you, shes in a child care role what does she expect?

She actually left her in the bathroom alone for 1/2 hr. until I arrived. Since she is in first grade she didn't have a change of clothes at the school. Fortunately Madie didn't care, she said it was quieter than being in the room with all the other kids.

I have had to make hundreds of calls over the years for parents to bring in changes of clothes. And I usually warn them too, but I usually say something like "It's messy, be careful." I do know that this women refuses to change poop on anyone. She tells people she and her dh adopted their dd at 3 years of age so she would be potty trained.

 

[Mom2be]

So call your sister and ask her why her friend is such a witch?
~Amanda

 

[OceanAnnie]

I would be livid.

First I would let a little time go by to calm down about it.

Then I would let her know you don't want to hear the words "disgusting" in regards to your DD again. I'd let her know it was upsetting to you to hear that.

And I'd let her know why your DD had the accident.

She shouldn't feel so familiar with you that she can just say whatever she wants! You are paying for her service and it ain't that great right now.

 

[Blondy876]

I'd find out from the school if this in fact was true. If your child has had no other incidents like this one, then I would jump all over them. If your child has other incidents like this, I would look into potential behaviour problems. aw:

This is what the women told me, not my dd. My dd hasn't had a accident like this since she was potty trained.

 

[Blondy876]

So call your sister and ask her why her friend is such a witch?
~Amanda

I did. She told me that's just the way she is.

 

[PrincessKitty1]

Oh my gosh! Besides the rudeness, I would want to know WHY your daughter was refused use of the bathroom. A head may need to roll here!

 

[dumboiu]

This is what the women told me, not my dd. My dd hasn't had a accident like this since she was potty trained.

Then I would be livid too! Inexcusable on the part of the child care staff. aw:

 

[ElizK]

Not flaming you at all.... but I just have to ask... why on earth are you more concerned with this woman's feeilngs (or your sister's) than your child's health and well being? That woman is disgusting, not your daughter. She asked to go to the restroom, was told no, and couldn't hold it. That's called normal. That woman sounds useless. Glad she didn't let on to your daughter about her being "disgusting". Jeeez.

 

[MinnyGranny62]

Blondy, so sorry that this happened. This so called Lady had no right
to call you DD disqusting. This happens all of the time and is handled
in a lot better manner.
Hope DD is doing fine and has a happier day tomorrow. Shirley

 

[Jeanny]

maybe she thought she could talk to you like that because she knows your sister?? NO excuse because "that's the way she is"!!!!

 

[Tinks]

Ugh! I am so sorry for what happened! It happened to my DS in first grade, too. I won't tell you how I feel about what the lady said to you--totally inappropriate.

I will tell you what I told my kids after that. If you ever have to go to the bathroom and are told no, but it is an emergency (vomit, can't hold it, whatever..) Go! You will not be in trouble by mom no matter what for trying to get to a bathroom. Don't be afraid to get up and run to the bathroom!

Your poor DD.

Hope she feels better.

 

[krcit]

That's terrible!!! I would be really mad. I guess since she's friends with your sister she thinks she can talk like that to you. wrong!! I would calmly tell her next time you see her that you'd appreciate it if she didn't call your 6 year old dd "disgusting" and that to please make sure that she has access to the bathroom whenever she needs to. At our school, I don't think that anyone is allowed to change a child but I would expect a more sensitive phone call! My younger dd had an accident when she was in preschool and they couldn't get in touch with me so they called my MIL She STILL complains about having to deal with poopy pants

 

[TINKTWINS]

What is wrong with people!!

I have 5 yo twins in kindergarten. Thankfully, they have bathrooms in the rooms. But DS was in one day and a kid walked in on him, now he refuses to go in school. Some kids are EXTREMELY impressionable at this young age. Its so easy to hurt their feelings. Anyone who oversees children should be more responsible

I also had to send in extra clothes for the kids.

But I think they are saving them for times like your kid wipes out in the playground and gets wet/dirty, because today, for the second time, DD threw up on herself and came home in those same clothes but I will say, the nurse was so nice to her, she kept appologizing to me, like it was her fault. She did it in gym, after lunch, must have been a little much for her! But I would be beside myself if she called to tell me she was covered in puke and smelled! HOLLY COW!