It isn't as if it's advice that is personal opinion, it's something well versed in our understanding of parental relationships and spousal/partner relationships as well as adult (counting in singles here) and something shared by people in this thread
"Not everything is, or needs to be, about the kids."
Or
"As long as you make time for each other and don't forget that you are not just mum and dad, but also:
a. An individual and
b. An adult couple." Which ironically you liked so apparently you get it and agree with it but then say you don't want to spend a night apart from your child.
Just to post 2.
Nice attempt though at an insult.
All I'm saying is for mental health and one's own being taking a night or so away is something we are very much realizing is important. Using the "it goes quick" is just basically you saying you want to play the martyr. Don't play the martyr. Your kid will be fine, you'll have thousands of memories to go by. If you want to spend all your time with your child because you don't want to be apart ever fine. But just don't do it for the sake of what you were saying. It's okay to give yourself permission to allow yourself any time alone or just you and your spouse to do something. I repeat, it's okay to give yourself permission