Small insignificant "DH is driving me nuts" vent.........

[paigevz]

.......so small in the scheme of things, but dh just went off on me for using a "good" washcloth for a kitchen dishrag. The thing is, he buys sponges, but then he and ds do not wring out the sponge and it gets so gross, so I throw them out when that happens. Every time I try to buy dishrags instead, he says he doesn't like dishrags in the kitchen. They look messy. So he decides to compromise by buying scratch pads. Firstly, they don't clean, they scratch and secondly, they are ruining my nonstick pans. So I went to get one of the washcloths for a dishrag. Now, we haven't had new washcloths in at least two years and dh doesn't use wash cloths AT ALL, so I really never thought about it. DS used it later on to clean up a koolaid spill and so dh says our "best" washcloth is now ruined. Like I said, he doesn't use wash cloths, and guests use our sons' upstairs bathroom with a totally different color scheme, so they'll never see it either. But, I told him if he is that worried about it, I will use Shout and get all the koolaid out of it. He says it's stained, it won't come out. I told him if everything that gets koolaid on it was ruined the kids would have no clothes left, and Shout will get it out.

What a stupid thing to fight about!

 

[kapica3]

I agree with you completely. Especially with husbands.... sometimes I just have to laugh that something so insignificant bothers my husband too. But on the other hand.... its a good sign..... if you have time to examine the little things and argue about them, then that means all of your "big things" are doing just fine. I would rather be arguing over little trivial things than spending my time and energy worrying and agonizing over job loss, money, illness, or other "big" problems. I've realized that people who are consumed with worry over true problems have no time or desire to focus on the trivial stuff. Sometimes....it all depends on how you look at it.

 

[Marseeya]

I would have resolved the whole situation with three simple words,

"You do it!"

 

[paigevz]

I agree with you completely. Especially with husbands.... sometimes I just have to laugh that something so insignificant bothers my husband too. But on the other hand.... its a good sign..... if you have time to examine the little things and argue about them, then that means all of your "big things" are doing just fine. I would rather be arguing over little trivial things than spending my time and energy worrying and agonizing over job loss, money, illness, or other "big" problems. I've realized that people who are consumed with worry over true problems have no time or desire to focus on the trivial stuff. Sometimes....it all depends on how you look at it.

You are right, of course. DH actually does have a chronic health problem, but it is well-controlled right now, (thank the Good Lord), so I guess we can get down into the little stuff!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I only use dishrags in the kitchen, unless I'm doing something like cleaning out the sink with Softscrub. I want to be able to use a rag to wash the dishes because I like the way it cleans and I want to be able to get a new rag once a day or more often if I clean up something that makes it smelly. I still use a paper towel to clean up something like raw egg, but I think it's a lot more sanitary to use dishrags that can be tossed in the washing machine, even though I've heard that sponges can be put in the dishwasher.

Yes, I think that your DH is making a big deal about nothing. It sounds to me like it doesn't have anything to do with dishrags, but he wants to control what is used in the kitchen. It would be different if it were a washcloth that he actually used.

Why doesn't he respect that you want to have kitchen dishrags? It's not an unusual thing to have.

 

[lindakmonty]

yeah, if he doesn't like the way you do it...tell him to feel free to take care of it himself !!!

 

[paigevz]

Thanks for the support!

 

[DVCLiz]

Put your sponges in the dishwasher. Every time you run it, put the sponges in. They'll stay nice and sanitized, and your DH won't have anything to complain about.