OP here at the end of a very long day. I am overwhelmed by all the kind words; I certainly did not expect 7 pages of responses to my little rant! There have been a lot of questions so I will do my best to answer them.
As to the “why rope drop” question, several reasons: (1) my work schedule did not permit me to plan this vacation more than a couple of weeks ahead so FP was not an option (I did check daily for openings), and EMM was sold out; (2) we only have 4 park days and Fantasmic is our very favorite nightime entertainment and a big family tradition, and I didn’t want to make the kids choose between their favorite show and SDD; (3) it was scheduled to be (and in fact was) melt-your-patootie-off hot today and I knew my kids could handle a 75 minute wait in the cool morning time but not in the scorching heat later in the day; and (4) my kids have seen ad after ad featuring SDD on disney junior channel and BEGGED me to let them go on it, so given the rest of the factors, rope drop seemed like the surest bet.
We have not done rope drop before but I saw one happen at MK for 7DMT at the end of our EMM yesterday and it seemed quite slow and orderly. It was nothing like that at HS today. Today was a stampede.
The wait was actually less than 90 minutes, closer to an hour, thank goodness. But still made me feel like a failure because I had told my kids that if they waited patiently at the rope (they did) they wouldn't have to wait very long again at the ride. I did not need/expect to be first in line, but I thought being at the front of the pack would mean a pretty short wait. A CM held up a sign that said “90 minutes from this point” which is what prompted me to write this post, but that must have been an estimate because it did move faster.
I am a pretty brisk walker but wary of hitting others with the stroller, so when others cut in front of us my default is to fall back rather than slam into them, which of course prompts more people to cut ahead. The biggest issue by far though is that once the park opened up at the end of the initial street, the crowd “widened” as people further back swarmed around the sides and sprinted to get ahead. I think moving the rope drop further ahead to the narrower path to toy story land would help with this considerably.
I actually ran into another family on ToT later that day that was next to us at the start of rope drop and also had a stroller. They too fell hundreds of people behind, and it sounds like it was worse for them—someone actually vaulted/catapaulted off of their stroller to get ahead. Thank goodness their kids weren’t hurt.
It was a very busy day. I am a bit shell shocked and definitely will not be repeating rope drop. Normally if we can’t get a FP (in advance or via refresh) we don’t try to ride a headliner. SDD was just something my kids wanted so much. And they did have fun riding it so all was not lost!