Sleepovers on school nights?

[tmarquez]

Is it normal where you live for kids to have sleepovers on school nights?

My DD is in 5th grade and there are several girls that she is friends with that have pretty regular sleepovers on school nights.

I was never allowed to do that and I don't allow DD, she needs her sleep (and I need mine!).

Strange or the norm?

 

[Bren's Mom]

Is it normal where you live for kids to have sleepovers on school nights?

My DD is in 5th grade and there are several girls that she is friends with that have pretty regular sleepovers on school nights.

I was never allowed to do that and I don't allow DD, she needs her sleep (and I need mine!).

Strange or the norm?

Strange...to me anyway. I would have never been allowed, and I would never allow ds. It's not good for kids to go without sleep, but it's also not fair to teachers and other staff to be given overtired kids for the day.

Plenty of time for sleepovers on the weekends.

 

[Erin1700]

Is it normal where you live for kids to have sleepovers on school nights?

My DD is in 5th grade and there are several girls that she is friends with that have pretty regular sleepovers on school nights.

I was never allowed to do that and I don't allow DD, she needs her sleep (and I need mine!).

Strange or the norm?

While I have heard of it, it is not the norm around here.
My kids are not allowed to it.

 

[skatalite]

I never had a weekday sleepover as a child.

 

[richmo]

I'll go with strange.

Friday and/or Saturday nights only.

 

[Pigeon]

Some of my kids' friends are allowed to do this, but mine are not.

 

[Dizneefamily+4]

I'm going with strange as well. As far as I know, it's not the norm here at all. ds12 and dd8 have never been invited to a weeknight sleepover, nor have I heard of anyone having them. I think it's odd. Sleepovers are for non-school nights!

 

[2disneyboys]

not normal in my neck of the woods either. That said, there have been some occasions that it has happened at in my "circle" but it is usually because one mother is doing another mother a favor and not for the kids enjoyment. My friend's son actually stayed 2 nights with us last week (his mother had all day testing of some sort with an hour commute each way) I offered to let him just stay with us rather than being picked up late and dropped off early and he slept in the guest room and we all followed our regular routine. however aside from something like this, no, sleepovers are for weekends or holidays only in our house

 

[Darcy03231]

not normal in my neck of the woods either. That said, there have been some occasions that it has happened at in my "circle" but it is usually because one mother is doing another mother a favor and not for the kids enjoyment. My friend's son actually stayed 2 nights with us last week (his mother had all day testing of some sort with an hour commute each way) I offered to let him just stay with us rather than being picked up late and dropped off early and he slept in the guest room and we all followed our regular routine. however aside from something like this, no, sleepovers are for weekends or holidays only in our house

Same here.

 

[powellrj]

We have done it before, but my DD is a senior and we never allowed it before she was a jr. We live out of district and sometimes when they had an out of town activity, it was easier to let her spend the night with a friend. Never before later high school.

 

[Katy Belle]

I vote Strange. The only time we have done it is if the other kids' parents are out of town and they need a place to stay. It feels like a sleepover, but really is babysitting!

 

[Tiramisu]

I was never allowed to do this unless, as others have said, my parents were watching a friend while their parents were away.

 

[design_mom]

I vote Strange. The only time we have done it is if the other kids' parents are out of town and they need a place to stay. It feels like a sleepover, but really is babysitting!

I had a friend spend the night a couple of times during the school week -- but it was the situation Katy described. My parents were babysitting her overnight while her parents were out of town. It was only a little like a sleepover (we still had a bedtime and were told at the outset that if we didn't settle down quickly, we'd be separated). It was still fun though.

I would consider having one of my kids' friends overnight in a similar situation, but we do not do "just for fun" sleepovers during the week. Neither of my kids have mentioned that anyone else does mid-week sleepovers either, so I don't think it's common here.

 

[mom2rtk]

How odd. It was always so hard just getting my own kids up and ready for school, no WAY would I want to do that with someone else's. Never mind having things ready for the day, homework done, lunches packed.

And then of course there's the obvious consideration that they likely would not get to bed on time or get to sleep easily. It's just something we would never suggest or agree to.

 

[marius97]

I don't allow my kids to play with friends after dinner on school nights....so a sleepover would so not be happening.

 

[tzolkin]

My best friend in HS and I practically lived at each other's house. She lived in another district (about 45 minutes away) but attended my school for the IB program that was only offered there. With sports and other school activities, there sometimes was really no point going home and she probably got more sleep since she didn't have to get up as early.

We both had licenses and our own cars by the end of 10th grade. I usually spent Fri and/or Sat at her house and she stayed probably at least 2 week nights at mine.


My kids really don't do sleepovers. My oldest is in 10th grade and if she goes somewhere two nights a year that's a lot for her. My younger two have only stayed the night with relatives. If there was a reason- parents out of town, school event, snowstorm, etc- I wouldn't have an issue, but I don't think I would allow it just for fun.

 

[rdevine10]

I vote strange, unless it is for babysitting purposes for the families involved.

I have a DD in 5th grade, and that is certainly not the norm around our neck of the woods!

 

[ICF]

I'd go with strange.

Kids might be out playing on school nights until 8pm or so (when its dark now), but as far as I know my kids have never been asked to have one during the school year that wasn't on a Fri / Sat night -- if asked, they'd have to say no.

 

[goofyintoronto]

I'd go with STRANGE!!!!!!!!!!

I never allowed my son to sleep over friends places when he was younger, either weekends or weekdays! I just wasnt comfortable with it. He's old enough now of course, but he never really asks for it. If he did, and asked for a weeknight sleepover at his place or a friends house, of course the answer would be NO! Fri/Sat night is fine. But all other nights are off.

 

[kkandaj]

I can remember in middle school and high school doing this a few times. It was always the same friend and we still had to do our homework and go to bed time on time--it wasn't like we were up late watching movies and eating popcorn. We were old enough to get ourselves up and to school in the mornings--heck, both of our mothers left for work before we left for school. I can probably count on my hands how many times we did this though in 6 years.

Fifth grade--no, it wasn't happening.