Sister Wives

[brockash]

So I have an interesting theory. Kody likes being and is a good dad to young children. By extension, he likes being and is a good husband so long as the wife could still give him kids and/or still had young kids. But after say… age 12 or 13 (that’s almost totally arbitrary) he doesn’t know what to do. And so his relationship as both dad and husband begins to deteriorate. And I wonder if this is something Kody hasn’t fully realized himself. So is it really that Kody has changed, or is it how he interacts, or both?

It’s far from a perfect theory. But it seems to fit the current family dynamics right now.

I think there are lots of ppl. that really only like being around younger kids. It's a lot nicer to be around ppl. who think you're awesome and just want your attention as opposed to older kids who start to think for themselves, who would rather hang out with their own friends and are often struggling with their own stage of life.

Heck, most days I much prefer being around my 8 year old as opposed to my 15 year old...she's nicer to me lol.

The difference is I don't just cut off the communication or go live in a different house since things rnt always easy.

Kody just always has and unfortunately uses his way outs.

 

[brockash]

i dunno. kody said earlier this season he almost never watches his own kids preferring to get a babysitter instead. i also wouldn't consider him a good dad to young kids-truely narrowly escaped death when she was 3 due to his negligence. that baby was sick for 5 days and since the wives were gone he kept pushing off her care on the teen girls in the family who kept bringing up concerns about her and later said they didn't think he took the illness seriously. so that baby was on the brink of death due to total dehydration and kidney failure by the time christine got back and got her medical treatment. 9 days in the hospital before she started turning the corner on recovery

after the fact what does he say about it? "...You know what? It was all a challenge, but we got reconnected with Truely. We got reconnected with each other,” Kody says looking back at the harrowing experience. “In the busyness of life sometimes you can take each other for granted, you can take your children for granted..."

who takes their 3 year old for granted or any of their children for that matter???

A good funtime, parttime uncle for the younger kids is more of what he is. I've never really seen him be the "parenting" type. The moms are the parents and he just "graces" them with his presence here and there.

 

[Dakota731]

That was talked a lot about in their book including the infamous nachogate.
It's been said he has married her as she was "poly royalty" and had a crush on him.

Curious as to what nachogate means?

 

[Kae]

I just read in an article that was not an article on the Browns, so that you know, but very interesting.

"A narcissistic family cult is a profoundly dysfunctional, unstable, and defective family unit that includes abusers, victims, and enablers. Therefore, strict rules with demands for total compliance are required," she said. "This dysfunctional family structure consists of a 'head narcissist,' usually the father or the mother, who leads the cult with an iron fist, demanding complete obedience. The enabler supports the head narcissist's unreasonable and outlandish rules and demands. The rest of the family members are victims."

 

[mom2rtk]

Curious as to what nachogate means?

It comes from a story he told, I think in their book? About how repulsed he was early on watching her eat some nachos while on a road trip.

 

[Dakota731]

Mykelti has turned into a lovely and mature young lady. And what a cute baby! As much as I hate divorce, Christine is starting an exciting new chapter in her life and I wish her well.

 

[Claudia1]

I wonder how Truely's time with Kody has worked out. I picked up from Christine's comment that the opportunity was there for multiple times to stay overnight but she never had. Poor kid needs to feel the love from ALL parents by actions, not just words.

 

[WorldWacky]

I still can’t believe Kody felt the need to keep his family members so separated outside during the big “goodbye” when he had already gone to that wedding unmasked. So hypocritical. And yes Robyn, your kids DID seem angry.

 

[BellaBaby]

I guess I don't get why Robyn is so "devastated" and "yes, angry" as she said. I don't know a lot about the lifestyle except what we've seen all these years admittedly, but as a fellow woman, would Robyn want to live in a loveless marriage at such a young age? I can see her being sad, but devastated, really? (Same with Meri being upset).
Thank goodness, Janelle really gets it. I'm glad Christine has that relationship with her.

 

[sk!mom]

The awkwardness between Truely and Kody speaks volumes. I’m glad she will be surrounded by family because Kody will be even more absentee than ever. He couldn’t manage to see her when she was local. The distance will be his perfect excuse.

It’s also very telling of status in the family that Kody arrives with Robyn and then says, “we’re leaving.” They are his only real family. This whole thing never worked because Kody couldn’t keep up with the relationships.

I so hope Janelle is out the door too.

Robyn and Kody deserve one another.

 

[happily single]

The part where Robyn‘s daughter was yelling at Christine “get dates” was cringeworthy. The only way I see a child that age coming up with that is overhearing adult conversations (between Kody and a Robyn).

 

[WorldWacky]

I love how Robyn, AS A DIVORCED WOMAN HERSELF, says Christine shouldn’t “give up” on the marriage or family.

 

[Allison Joy]

I felt so bad for Truely. Kody with is, "Nope. Just me. Only me." I mean... really? The conflict is with the other adults and Christine, not Truely. Let Robyn and her kids hug Truely if they want to, and if Truely wants it. And Kody, I think the reason Truely wasn't reacting the way you wanted her to was because you could cut the tension with a knife. Did you really want her to be happy and smiling about it? No. Did you want her to be devastated? I hope not, but you probably did. You probably wanted Truely to sob hysterically about how her mom was taking her away from the rest of her family. But that clearly wasn't her feelings either. So... is it any wonder she was somewhere between those two extremes? Shesh, Kody. Get over yourself.

And by the way, I fully retract my earlier theory about Kody being a "good day" to younger kids. I mentioned it was a crazy one. Ha!

 

[prairie_girl]

That backyard goodbye was SOOOOOO awkward. You can tell by the way Truely interacted with Kody that they aren’t close at all. How sad for her that he enjoys the new family more. She was cute as the youngest until she wasn’t the youngest anymore (in his eyes).

I hope Christine gets remarried and sends Janelles invitation to Robyn’s address ‘by mistake’.

 

[Kae]

Mykelti has turned into a lovely and mature young lady. And what a cute baby! As much as I hate divorce, Christine is starting an exciting new chapter in her life and I wish her well

Mikelti could have said I am not having this conversation with you. But she chose to do it, so shame on her too and sucking up to Robin. The party was a huge mistake & Christine do not want to do it. Sure did get her some screen time.

 

[wenrob]

I think Mykelti’s heart was in the right place, it was just executed poorly. She’s reacting like any kid who’s parents are divorcing. Whether she realizes it or not the goodbye was for *her.* She wanted reassurance that they’re still a family. She could have refused to have the conversation but she’s what, 25ish? At that age you’re still trying to please your parents or at least trying not to rock the boat. It wasn’t until I had my own family firmly established that I finally started pushing back with my own parents and setting clear boundaries. Some people never do. It was so wrong of Kody to put her in that position. That’s the height of crappy parenting.

 

[Mai Ku Tiki]

I don’t remember Kody pressuring Meri to divorce. They presented that as Meri’s idea.

Yes, insane jealousy. Are we rewriting history here? Robyn and her kids supersede everyone else *now* but in the beginning they all worked hard to build a balance, except Christine. Absolutely Kody was infatuated with his new wife, no doubt. However, he was still “making the rounds” at each house, going on dates and trips with each wife and at least the way it was presented spent time with all the kids. I bet if you went back in this thread to that time you could find us all discussing it. As far as Robyn getting the fancy wedding and honeymoon I’ve always got the impression the others never knew they could ask for that. There also wasn’t TLC footing the bill.

Look, I’m not saying Kody isn’t a complete jerk with an over inflated ego and superiority complex. I can tell you coming from the Mormon culture that the male is the head of the home and he is deferred to. (Hell, it expands to distant family. I’ve had teenage, male cousins try to tell me how to behave.) I’m not saying it’s right, I’m saying they all agreed to that. It takes two to destroy a marriage and they both had a hand in that. I just feel the other wives were entitled to a conversation rather than being blindsided by a “family announcement.” Other than that, good for Christine and I mean that sincerely. I hope the others get or have gotten a clue too.

Hi! Jumping in just to add my 2 cents! With respect to cultural norms today, I would like to hope that a husband's rejection of his wife, including conjugal intimacy, might be considered legit grounds for divorce by church elders if the woman is being emotionally destroyed in a loveless marriage. Christine & Kody tried MANY times with counseling & she has tried to express the toll that every failure has taken on her. She's a vibrant vital (only 49-yrs-old) woman whose KNOWS she needs love & human connection to live a fulfilling life. She KNOWS Robyn has that kind of marriage & it's torture for her to watch. I support her decision.
I understand Robyn can't see beyond her own marriage & beliefs. Janelle has other priorities & usually sees things clearly (not sure about RV though!). But I understand Meri least. SHE did a lot to threaten the stability of that 'family' ...though it clearly was HER way to cope with being rejected by her husband. She threatened leaving, was able to buy her B & B & has an acceptable escape hatch whenever she needs one. SHE more than anyone should support Christine at this time.

 

[wenrob]

Hi! Jumping in just to add my 2 cents! With respect to cultural norms today, I would like to hope that a husband's rejection of his wife, including conjugal intimacy, might be considered legit grounds for divorce by church elders if the woman is being emotionally destroyed in a loveless marriage. Christine & Kody tried MANY times with counseling & she has tried to express the toll that every failure has taken on her. She's a vibrant vital (only 49-yrs-old) woman whose KNOWS she needs love & human connection to live a fulfilling life. She KNOWS Robyn has that kind of marriage & it's torture for her to watch. I support her decision.
I understand Robyn can't see beyond her own marriage & beliefs. Janelle has other priorities & usually sees things clearly (not sure about RV though!). But I understand Meri least. SHE did a lot to threaten the stability of that 'family' ...though it clearly was HER way to cope with being rejected by her husband. She threatened leaving, was able to buy her B & B & has an acceptable escape hatch whenever she needs one. SHE more than anyone should support Christine at this time.

It would be nice if cultural norms played a part in how the elders would respond but I can assure you that is not and never will be the case. I’ll leave it at that because to get deeper you’re entering an actual religious discussion and that’s forbidden on the DIS. If you want some eye opening insight look for the hashtag exmo on TikTok.

 

[jdb in AZ]

It would be nice if cultural norms played a part in how the elders would respond but I can assure you that is not and never will be the case. I’ll leave it at that because to get deeper you’re entering an actual religious discussion and that’s forbidden on the DIS. If you want some eye opening insight look for the hashtag exmo on TikTok.

Kody and Co. pick and choose what parts of their AUB religion they want to follow. Would elders from any church respond to a family not listed as official members?

 

[CdnCarrie]

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