Sister Wives

[ThistleMae]

Not necessarily, but my take on their situation is different. Legally married or not, they considered themselves married when, during a period of dissatisfaction with one another, she entered into a relationship with another man and was planning to leave with him. The fact that it wasn't actually a man and she was catfished (boo hoo) makes it no less a betrayal and act of infidelity.

Now, as we all know, some relationships survive cheating and some do not. Theirs has not and what I think should have happened is that if Kody couldn't get passed it, genuinely forgive her and work on rebuilding (a very personal decision), he should have left her somehow. It's much more complicated than it would be in a monogamous couple who could just divorce. He clearly has not forgiven her but for Pete's sake - she started it and I don't remember her ever apologizing to him or asking forgiveness. Wouldn't you, at the very least need that from an unfaithful spouse? And the whole "oh we're all so sorry this terrible thing happened to Meri" was just such a bizarre angle, IMO.

OMG yes, this terrible thing happened to Meri! Their take on it was incredibly ridiculous! She was having an emotional affair with someone online, and she was even going to meet up. I don't think she took any responsibility for her part in it. No one ever talked about her role in all of this. She tends to be a perpetual victim, no matter what the situation.

 

[ThistleMae]

Absolutely. It did seem spiteful, and she really seemed to enjoy it. They are becoming hard to watch.

I got the same impression, she had that spiteful little smile, "oh, it's not my fault they left already, but....they did." Ugh, another little game on her part.

 

[ThistleMae]

I have never been a fan of Meri but no big house would ever fill the hole of watching your husband tell the cameras more than once there is no relationship, all the while watching him have relationships around her. Awful.

I know it's hard to watch, but Meri creates her own problems by being extremely manipulative and then acting like she had no part in whatever is happening. It's hard to live with someone like that. It may seem Kodi is unsympathetic, but after years of game playing it's hard to have any sympathy.

 

[lovin'fl]

So, a spouse should still be bitter about an 'emotional' affair six year later? It's a bit extreme. And I call BS on him being still hurt by that affair. Me thinks he is using that as his excuse when he's really just not that into her and wants to be rid of the irritant (her). And maybe she wouldn't have entertained that 'emotional' affair had her needs been met whether intimate needs or emotional needs. Yes, she has come across as high maintenance all these years (remember the wet bar fiasco) but she has had to share him with 3 other wives, was denied trying to make a 2nd baby, was bullied into divorcing him so that he could legally marry his prized wife...etc. Plus the women have all had struggles with each other. For her to want to connect with some guy who seemed to care about her and only her....not too crazy a thing to ask for.

 

[CdnCarrie]

It's all being hyped up to keep the ratings up.
Doubt Kody and Meri are even fighting.

What else are they going to talk about - most of the kids are gone, no moves planned, court case is done,

 

[CdnCarrie]

Who is still at home

Meri - empty nest
Janelle - Garrison home but working full time (early 20s), Gabriel in college, Savanah in high school
Christine - Ysabel aand Truely (Gwendlyn has moved out since Covid has started) - think Ysabel is graduating this spring
Robyn - 2 in college Dayton and Aurora (well Dayton in college not sure if Aurora is), Breanna in high school and 2 little ones

 

[lovin'fl]

It's all being hyped up to keep the ratings up.
Doubt Kody and Meri are even fighting.

What else are they going to talk about - most of the kids are gone, no moves planned, court case is done,

There are articles out there saying she's left him, taken her ring off and is dating someone. So, who knows.

 

[barkley]

Robyn - 2 in college Dayton and Aurora (well Dayton in college not sure if Aurora is), Breanna in high school and 2 little ones

speaking of 'dayton'-i noticed on closed captioning the other night that he's now being identified as 'david'. i know that's his legal name but i've never heard them call him by it.

 

[ronandannette]

So, a spouse should still be bitter about an 'emotional' affair six year later? It's a bit extreme. And I call BS on him being still hurt by that affair. Me thinks he is using that as his excuse when he's really just not that into her and wants to be rid of the irritant (her). And maybe she wouldn't have entertained that 'emotional' affair had her needs been met whether intimate needs or emotional needs. Yes, she has come across as high maintenance all these years (remember the wet bar fiasco) but she has had to share him with 3 other wives, was denied trying to make a 2nd baby, was bullied into divorcing him so that he could legally marry his prized wife...etc. Plus the women have all had struggles with each other. For her to want to connect with some guy who seemed to care about her and only her....not too crazy a thing to ask for.

I kind of doubt you'd have the same opinion if it was your wife/husband that cheated on you.

 

[prairie_girl]

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I kind of doubt you'd have the same opinion if it was your wife/husband that cheated on you.

I’m still mad my husband didn’t run the dishwasher six years ago LOL


(joking)

 

[Worfiedoodles]

Once a wife is sealed to her husband then they kind of become their own “eternal family” unit. So my grandparents were sealed to my mom and her siblings. A brother who passed at birth will be sealed to my grandparents forever because he never went on to marry or have his own family. However, my mom is sealed to my stepfather and her siblings sealed to their spouses and their kids then sealed to their spouses etc. To the best of my recollection they don’t become one ginormous sealed family but do get the benefit of having that family for eternity provided they all make it to the third tier of the celestial kingdom. Kind of like an ongoing family reunion type of thing. Now where it’s tricky is that I was never sealed to my husband because well, I’m a non believer so technically I’m still sealed to my mom and stepdad. I don’t have to worry about that though since I was excommunicated and would never make it to any tier. Since I don’t believe any of it I don’t worry about it but earnest believers do. As mentioned above women really do not stand any chance of ever having it dissolved so they worry about what happens to their kids or even making to the celestial kingdom at all. In my opinion Meri will never leave the marriage because of this.

I also felt a sense of PTSD. Wanting to rescue my kid and bring her home. Terrified of being near my DH because he’s essential. It was really hard to watch.

Lost my last quote but Oy, Christine. How out of touch can you be with your kids? And what about the rest of the family? You’re going to uproot them all so you can go back to Utah?

I really don’t mean to be flip, but if my option was going to be spending eternity with Kodi and all the others who don’t like me very much, I think I’d let that go. How could that feel like Heaven? There must be a religious component I’m missing. If you don’t make a Tier do you go to hell? Being with Kodi for eternity would be hell for her, at least one would think... If she’s doing it for her daughter, it becomes more understandable.

 

[wenrob]

I really don’t mean to be flip, but if my option was going to be spending eternity with Kodi and all the others who don’t like me very much, I think I’d let that go. How could that feel like Heaven? There must be a religious component I’m missing. If you don’t make a Tier do you go to hell? Being with Kodi for eternity would be hell for her, at least one would think... If she’s doing it for her daughter, it becomes more understandable.

I think when you come at it with deep religious belief there’s some fear there. All these little things come together to get your “ticket in.” Divorce is just not an option for some people and like I and another poster pointed out it’s practically impossible for a woman. Obviously I’m not in Meri’s head but I imagine these things probably play in the back of her mind. It’s a kind of “you made your bed” type of situation.

 

[TheIncredibles!]

Meri cheated hands down, but Kody needs to deal with it and move on or release her to have a relationship with somebody else. Meri has no husband. no companion, no lover. Kody has them coming out his rear end so what does he care if he goes from 4 down to 3? He can just pick up another one to fill in any gaps he might have while Meri is supposed to live like a nun now?

Just proof that their choices do not produce healthy and loving marriages LOL

 

[mom2rtk]

Meri cheated hands down, but Kody needs to deal with it and move on or release her to have a relationship with somebody else. Meri has no husband. no companion, no lover. Kody has them coming out his rear end so what does he care if he goes from 4 down to 3? He can just pick up another one to fill in any gaps he might have while Meri is supposed to live like a nun now?

Just proof that their choices do not produce healthy and loving marriages LOL

I don't disagree. But this is on both of them. Why is she waiting for him to "release her"?

 

[mom2rtk]

Gabe sure did emulate Kody a bit in his selfish 'I do what I want' attitude towards Covid. He did have a point that he wasn't in the 'at risk' category but failed to consider spreading to those who are.

I'm not really shocked at his bratty attitude after they uprooted him heading into his senior year of high school. And not even for any good reason (that we know of).

 

[ronandannette]

I'm not really shocked at his bratty attitude after they uprooted him heading into his senior year of high school. And not even for any good reason (that we know of).

And again, it was early days - lots of people didn’t fully comprehend the situation, and many parents had a hard time curtailing their teens and young adults. I would be super-curious to know if any of the Browns ended up with Covid.

 

[lovin'fl]

And I kinda get the young folks' frustrations. My twin DDs turned 21 last March and their 21st year (which also was their last year of college) was total crap. They were stuck in their apartment doing online class. No going to bars or parties. No boyfriends to hang with. Teacher DD had trouble doing her student teaching, it was a mess and very stessful. And all this when they knew they were not at risk of being terribly sick should they get covid. And then they graduate and get to working. Didn't have that party fun year before adulting. And teacher DD is having trouble getting a permanent teaching job (is a long term sub right now). Seniors in HS also had a bum final year. So I get the kid's frustration. Just was not a good look. Especially when we now know that restaurant workers/owners, hair salon workers/owners and the like have lost their livelihoods....seems a bit shallow to not want to sacrifice a little teen smoochy time with the GF so that your whole family could be together.

 

[mom2rtk]

And I kinda get the young folks' frustrations. My twin DDs turned 21 last March and their 21st year (which also was their last year of college) was total crap. They were stuck in their apartment doing online class. No going to bars or parties. No boyfriends to hang with. Teacher DD had trouble doing her student teaching, it was a mess and very stessful. And all this when they knew they were not at risk of being terribly sick should they get covid. And then they graduate and get to working. Didn't have that party fun year before adulting. And teacher DD is having trouble getting a permanent teaching job (is a long term sub right now). Seniors in HS also had a bum final year. So I get the kid's frustration. Just was not a good look. Especially when we now know that restaurant workers/owners, hair salon workers/owners and the like have lost their livelihoods....seems a bit shallow to not want to sacrifice a little teen smoochy time with the GF so that your whole family could be together.

I don't excuse his reaction so much as I understand it. They asked him for a big concession for the greater good less than a year prior. So he sucked it up and went out and made new friends and all of a sudden they're asking for another big concession for the greater good just as he's settling in with new friends.

Regardless, the other son (Garrison?) was working outside the home every day. What would their plan be for him? I think the addition of that issue makes it easier to see caving on the Gabe issue. Like if he was the only one wanting to do things outside the house maybe you could make a better case for pushing it with him.

 

[Mizzoufan]

Kodi a jerk, Mary run fast and hard.

 

[cats mom]

I'm not really shocked at his bratty attitude after they uprooted him heading into his senior year of high school. And not even for any good reason (that we know of).

I don't know that they've ever admitted it, but I think the move was largely about getting Robyn to Flagstaff so Dayton (or David if that's what he's going by now) could live at home while attending NAU. I'm sure Gabriel sees the timing worked out perfectly for Dayton but not so much for him. I can understand him being resentful about that. Then whether it's a good idea for covid precautions or not, compound that with Kody spending so much time with Robyn & kids and none with Janelle & kids, and I think I can overlook a little teen snark.

I know a lot of people like Christine and respect her for standing her ground. Normally I'm all about that as well. Not so much in this situation. I find her insistence on never living together incredibly annoying. She knew what plural marriage was, chose that lifestyle, but now seems to have very little interest in actually living or functioning as a plural family.

I used to think some of the drama was overplayed or staged to create interest for the show. Now I'm not so sure. What a mess!