Sister without glasses

[twooley2]

ok heres the situation. My sister wants to go to Disney World and has 4 kids. so I tell her the ins and outs that I know and how to save over time to be able to afford it. She says we dont plan nothing a year in advance. Argh!!!! Ok so a year later we say lets take my niece who will be 10 and we will pay half her ticket and whatever else because my sister claims she cant afford to ever do anything. Than I find out her husband cashed in stock options of 2600 dollars and is taking a fishing trip so he had to use 800 dollars to fix a boat to go not including gas to fill the thing up. so I say you could take a litttle of that and put it away for her ticket she says "thats his money not mine" Argh!! they are married and have 4 kids. Im so confused because we dont work that way. To top it off they have garnishments and are filing bankruptcy. So I ask her so are you going to let her go or would you rather not she says " I dont plan nothing in a year advance". I want to give her a piece of my mind but realize its not my place. What can I do?

 

[I Love Pluto]

I totally agree with your emotions in this situation. My advice - keep mouth closed, walk away. You can't save her.

 

[DevilDuckie]

She has different ideas about money than you do and clearly sending her child with you to Disney is not her priority.

Every couple handles money in their own way and if their way works for them, so be it. I don't really see that there is anything wrong with them deciding to do things differently.

 

[twooley2]

I think it goes deeper than doing things different. Yes you are correct. They are doing things different for sure as I stated we do not do things in that manner and our kids come before anything . As does Disney LOL just kidding ...

 

[bigbabyblues]

Maybe she doesn't want to let just one child go?

 

[twooley2]

no she has let another child of hers go before without the others.

 

[Louisianafive]

All I can say is Good Luck!! I have similar situation with my parents who are raising my niece and nephew.

We are all planning to go to WDW in '09 together. I have 3 DD's and we love BBB!!!!!!!!
I suggest that they let niece do BBB with my girls this time and all I here is it's too expensive, I don't know., we'll wait and see.

I understand completely!!!!!!! All I can do is make ressies for my girls at BBB and hope my Mother decides in time for niece to get a ressie.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I think she is trying to nicely tell you that she doesn't want the child to go.

 

[twins2again]

I would probably just take her without the money if you can afford it. sounds like thats the only way the little girl can go,and she is already 10,the magic years are almost over.

 

[twooley2]

I may just take her without the money. No,I know my sister well enough to know that she would not keep her from going with us. She just has become very passive and what her husband says when it comes to money is the way it goes. He will fish and hunt and do his sports over buying heat oil. I cant change her in that aspect, but I do try to make her see this. Although she will admit too this she still is obedient to a fault with him. Its not really her fault but at some point.

 

[twooley2]

oh I forgot to add. The Disney magic never goes away for some. Although seeing a childs smile is priceless

 

[hoosiergirl7]

I hate to say this but your sister is selfish. We don't believe in the his/her money thing. Since the day we exchanged vows it has been our money. She obviously lets her DH run the show and by the looks of it, neither he nor she know how to handle money if they have garnishments against them and are getting ready to file for bankruptcy.

If you can afford it I would say just suck it up and pay for the niece's park ticket for the entire vacation. From what I've read your sister and her DH put themselves before their kids. IMHO people like that don't deserve to be parents. It totally disgusts me.

 

[twooley2]

yes I thought the same but was trying to be objective as a previous poster pointed out all people do things differently but when it comes to being a responsible parent I think there are times that a spouse needs to speak up whatever the cost. The way my DH husband sees it is He dont go fishing or hunting or spend friviously at the families expense. Here this guy does all of that and others are always picking up his tab. To include buying his child a hearing aid, grandparents bought their oldest a trip to Disney years ago and has given money and furniture to them. That is why we were thought it was time for them to take some responsibility and paying for half the ticket. We can easily pay her way as it is not my nieces fault. I was interested to see how it would go too.