singles I am feeling a bit left out-dating ??

[bigsis1970]

do you ever just feel left out if you are single? I am divorced w/ 2 kids and i have lots of friends - mostly married or engaged , so what about me ! I am not the type of person who would ever go into a bar or night club by myself and hate to feel like a 3rd wheel so most nights off ( well when kids are at daddy's) i just rent movies and order out and sit alone all by myself. i have thought of trying the yahoo personals but it seems DESPERATE . anyone know how to meet nice single men ( i am almost 32 ) michelle

 

[Serena]

You might advertise here.

I'm not single, yet?, but I wouldn't be going to bars either. Especially not alone.

 

[bigsis1970]

kind looks like that is what i did but mostly just looking for suggestions maybe from some who has been there or done that type of thing.. unless you know of some eligile Disney Freak who lives in Maine and likes kids? Huh Huh anyone.. hee hee

I was just feeling a bit lonely tonight - most of the time it doesn't bother me but well some times it does.

thanks for listening - cause you know you can't talk to your family about things like this or they are like " well let me just set you up with so and so " YIKES

 

[Serena]

I know you weren't advertising, or it didn't sound that way, I was just teasing.

There wouldn't be anything wrong if you did. This place has saved me from being lonely many times. I sometimes float on the other boards, or I just stay here.

I wouldn't want to go out with anyone my family might fix me up with either. It sounds too scary to me. lol

 

[Disney Dee]

I met my fiance 2 yrs ago on the internet, personal ad. IT was the best thing I ever did! I didn't want to meet anyone in a bar, and I wanted to get to know the men bette,r lots of e-mails, then phone calls. We felt like best friends who had known each other before we actually met face to face. Good luck!

 

[ugadog99]

I'm single, too. I have gotten to the point now where I don't even think about dating anymore. I have had some very bad experiences and just don't think I could go through it again. Sometimes I wish I just had a friend to hang out with and talk to, though. I never go anywhere or do anything unless it's with my girls. I don't think I put myself in situations where I will be able to meet anyone. Maybe that is my way of staying "safe". I agree with you, most of the time it doesn't bother me but sometimes...

 

[bigsis1970]

Serena - i know i was teasing back , i tell all my friends that prince charming is working and i will see him again on my next trip to the World ! LOL

Wow you are brave Disney Dee , I am not sure i could do that - altho if you notice i have quite a few post here so i guess i could spare some time for the internet.

 

[bigsis1970]

Hey ugadog99 when are you going to be visiting? we are also going to be down there in Dec. check out my Signature as we are bouncing around - Maybe we will see each other .

 

[ASFCurly]

My Dad tried to set me up with a guy who wanted to be a farmer, he was helping my Dad out on my Dad's farm, but my he was really lazy so my Dad kicked him out, I mentioned it to a friend who is a cop and he keeps threatening to find him for me.

 

[Serena]

 

[Gail T AGAIN]

bigsis1970, if you have read any of my posts that I have recently written I think I am better of being sinlge and alone. I have dated guys and questioned myself at times because nothing seemed to click Then I get together with Brian that I have known since I was 18 and that can't even work out but I know that is because he is a controlling alcoholic and for that I know I don't need him. Look around, there are good relationships but I seem to see alot more bad ones. I bought myself a cat and when I get lonely and cried I do one of 2 things, I hug the cat and talk to her or get on the DISboards and feel like I have company.

 

[bigsis1970]

Thanks i really don't have a lot of time with two kids 9-6 both in school all day while i work outside the home - then we all come home and run for sport to sport and do homework and housework i am suprised i find time to DIS ( ROFL) let alone think i might have time to find someone nice and worth my effort. I have been single for almost 4 years now ( EX left for someone else soo long story short - i really wasn't haven't been all that intrested until year or so but have no clue how do start) I haven't ever dated either and that scares the life outta me - i met my EX when i was 15 ! he left when i was 28 so i missed out on the good dating years and who dates with little kids ! i figure maybe when they are in jr high or high school but who knows. Glad i found the Dis and you are all so nice here.. thanks for letting me ramble .Michelle

 

[DMickey28]

I am still young in the dating world but being out of college puts us on a pretty even playing field. I too have not been able to find a decent, respectable man that I would consider spending my life with. This is why I have ended up with men that I knew right of the bat it wouldn't work, yet I hung around. However, I did go out on that desperate limb and placed an ad on Boston.com. The night that I did that a guy went on his own limb and tried my screename for Boston.com as my AOLIM name and it worked. It's only been few months but every day I thank god that he was brought into my life. We talked everyday for hours and hours and now we see each other pretty much everyday. I honestly think that he's the one.....

My advice, give it a shot. You don't need to persue anything that comes your way on the internet. Sign up for a free Email address on hotmail, or email.com or something and if you decide it was a bad idea you can never check your mail and take the ad down. Today the internet is such a part of everyone's lives that there is certainly a wonderful chance of meeting a single man who is successfuly and maybe feeling the same apprehension about going to the bars.

Good Luck and we are always here for you on those "downer" nights. We all have them!!

 

[newmousecateer]

How about Parents Without Partners? I went to a couple of meetings years ago. A lot of people with a lot in common looking for friendship. Its nice because you meet in a controlled group setting.

 

[DocRafiki]

when you find out, let me know.

I have to say, sometimes I think it would be easier to find someone if I DID have kids (though I'm definitely happy to be childless - no way could I handle that right now). Anyway, what I was thinking is... keep your eye open when you're taking your kids to these events. Are you just dropping them off, or do you stick around and socialize? I bet if you volunteer with the kids' groups or just spend lots of time involved with them (with an open mind), you might just find a single parent or two. Then again, the ex just might be there too

Point is, I don't know!

If you don't want to post an ad online, at least go skim the personals for people who look interesting. You can send them an e-mail. If they require you to enter a profile to do that, just make up something simple and dull, nothing personal, no photo, and it will likely be ignored anyway (if you don't want people e-mailing you first).