Sil Slandering Me (long)

[mrsstats]

Will try to keep this as short as possible. 15 years ago, my office manager left to open his own office. Asked me to go with him but I choose not to. I suggested that he hire my SIL, which he did.

I remained on good terms with him and kept in touch over the years. SIL and rest of family had a "falling out" which was pretty bad for years but has at least turned around where people are civil to each other.

After 15 years, SIL decides to leave her job for another. Her boss calls me to see if I want the job. I call SIL (not that we are friends) to let her know he called me as I don't need any problems if she has issues with me taking the job. I had no problem with the job I had but the new job would be closer to home, more $$. She doesnt indicate any problem, she leaves & I take the job.

Now, 4 weeks into the job, I find she is calling my co-worker telling her she better watch her back with me, I am out to get her fired (not true). She calls her former boss, tells him lies about her former co-worker. And when I saw her the other day she tells me to watch my back with my co-worker. I think the woman is nuts. This all came about when my co-worker went to the boss.

I don't know how to handle this. I am about ready to try to get my old job back (they told me to call if things didnt work out) I don't know if I should call a lawyer to get her to stop spreading lies. Don't know if I should tell the rest of the family what is going on.

Thanks for lenting me vent.

 

[MICKEY88]

if your boss is aware of all of this, and he believes you and your co-worker, is should be obvious she's lying, I think he as the boss should handle the situation and tell her she is not supposed to call the office anymore, threatening her with criminal charges if neccessary...

 

[Disney Doll]

I would be upfront with your boss and your co-worker, without divulging too much info.

Tell them each that there are some family issues and your SIL should not be believed. Then let youor behavior speak for itself. If you behave in a professional manner, and do oyur job, eventually oyu will look like the bigger person and they will figure out that your SIL is a nut.

You know what I always say: "Give someone enough rope and eventually they hang themselves".

 

[JerseyJanice]

Because I've been a victim of it myself (in a big way), I am very sympathetic to what it feels like to be slandered. Sorry that it's something you're going through.

I think you should have a little meeting with your co-worker and boss, and discuss what she's said to each of you. That should clear the air between you.

At the point, you might want to have a chat with SIL. Don't be accusatory, but state that you'd prefer that she not discuss you with people outside the family and at your job in particular.

Good luck. She sounds like a piece of work!

 

[mrsstats]

Thanks for your words of advise. I have talked to my co-worker & boss together. That's how it all came out.

However, I will not talk to my SIL. I am finished with her and all her lies. I plan to put her on the prayer list at church. I think she needs help beyond the therapist she has been seeing.

I just don't understand what she hopes to gain from all this and why she wants to hurt people.