Should the Father be at the birth?

[slo]

I never realized how much I appreciate my DH's support during childbirth until I read this thread.

When I was reading this thread I didn't know if it was serious or a really bad joke. I am really hoping this is not serious and this individual really doesn't feel this way. Childbirth is a miracle, a gift from God is being delivered - granted the baby is gift wrapped a little messy, but so what!!!! Making childbirth look disgusting is truly sad.

I have had two children and I would go through labor/delivery again any day because it is such a remarkable experience. I am so glad my DH found it as remarkable as I did. I am also glad that my DH made me feel good about myself by praising my efforts during delivery and making me feel beautiful afterward when I truly wasn't.

Again, I hope this thread is a sick joke and not the true feelings of this individual.

 

[Lisa F]

Originally posted by TY31088
Hey folks,
Is this what you want your teenage daughters and sons to read about childbirth?

It's probably not a bad idea... might even cut down on teenage pregnancies if they realize it's not like it is when you see it on TV... you know, woman who is perfectly thin except for a large belly (oh yeah, pregnant women never gain weight anywhere but where the baby is being carried) wearing full makeup with perhaps a little mist on her brow grunts and pushes for 2 minutes before magically "giving birth" to a beautiful, clean, smiling 6 month old baby. Of course she also gets her girlish figure back by the next episode.

 

[binny]

you know I can ge past the whole birth thing... I took that as a joke. and while I dont see the humuor in it Im sure some do... whatever floats your boat.

It REALLY bothers me that he called his wife that. Even jokingly. Thats just wrong. Totally disrespectful.

 

[TY31088]

I still can't imagine this topic on a WDW forum.

Am I the only person who disagrees with this subject on a family board?

 

[disneydreamer1970]

My DH wanted to be there, infact, he delivered baby #2!!!!

He is a Firefighter/paramedic and the doctor talked him through the whole thing!! The special thing for him is that he can honestly say that he was the first one to hold our beautiful daughter (slime and all)!! No one can ever take that away from him!!!

She (the Dr.) got paid and didn't have to do much work that day!!

Have a great day everone!

 

[TinkBoo&ElliesMum]

Originally posted by TY31088
Hey folks,
Is this what you want your teenage daughters and sons to read about childbirth?

My kids have been brought up around childbirth, it's the normal topic of conversation at the dinner table. (my mom is a former midwife and is currently a doula among other things) It doesn't bug me, I'd rather they know the truth and be scared to death then think it's all nice and neat and make me a grandma before I'm 40!

 

[TY31088]

I reported this thread to a moderator, this is the reply I got:


"Could you be more specific as to what part of the thread you are actually objecting too? While you may not agree with the poster, and I certainly don’t, I don’t see a violation of the DIS posting guidelines here.
Thanks
Alex "



What are the guidelines when it comes to a family board?
I am very upset that this thread is considered ok, and I'm a man.

 

[snoopy]

Originally posted by TY31088
I still can't imagine this topic on a WDW forum.

Am I the only person who disagrees with this subject on a family board?

I don't disagree with the subject of childbirth and men in the delivery room at all.

I admit to be confused whether this is a joke or a social experiment -- as Saffron said I'm not familiar with the OP and took the thread at face value and figured he was one unhappy dude in the delivery room. Now if this is just a joke or an experiment and he really doesn't feel that way, so be it. My answer to the question still stands -- I would have preferred my husband actually DO something if he is going to be there in the room with me, namely comfort me or get me a washcloth or something other than watch the operation being performed. Whether the OP is kidding or not has no bearing on me or my opinion either way. He is entitled to refer to his wife as a skank if he wants, it certainly has no impact on me either way.

 

[Planogirl]

I didn't take the OP's post seriously. Should I have?

The question itself is interesting though. In my case, my DH wanted to be there and frankly I didn't. I hated the whole process but the end result was worth it.

I don't see anything wrong with this subject.

 

[tinkerbeth]

Maybe I'm the only one, but I think for my husband, being around for the delivery was about a million times easier than being around for the pregnancy. For me too! I was so happy when I went into labour...all I could think was, okay, no matter how terrible this is, I won't be pregnant any more at the end. But I had an awful pregnancy.

My poor husband almost passed out after I had the epidural, because I was screaming so much from the pain and the fear of the needle severing my spinal nerves that it took him and the nurse and the anastesiologist (sp) to hold me still. The nurse made him sit in a chair and drink 2 juice-boxes before they let him get up!

I think this is an okay topic. If my kid read this, I'd talk to him about it. He already knows about babies and bodies anyways, and he's only 2. I think it's making these things a secret that's more harmful to families.

JMHO

 

[lulugirl]

Originally posted by TY31088
I reported this thread to a moderator, this is the reply I got:


"Could you be more specific as to what part of the thread you are actually objecting too? While you may not agree with the poster, and I certainly don’t, I don’t see a violation of the DIS posting guidelines here.
Thanks
Alex "



What are the guidelines when it comes to a family board?
I am very upset that this thread is considered ok, and I'm a man.

If the subject matter offends you, don't read it! You really take yourself too seriously......

PS: does anyone really think the OP was SERIOUS?

 

[Cinders]

After I read the OP I had to scroll back up to look at his post count......hmmmm guess he's not a troll but he sure sounds like one.

We should have a special fathers room where you can watch TV, have a beer and chill out while the deed is being done. And don't call us in until everything is cleaned up.

And if she or the baby had died while you were drinking your beer I suppose you'd have not wanted to know until the funeral when they were all nice and cleaned up and in the casket?

 

[aprilgail2]

Personally I wouldn't want him in there...its bad enough that I had to be in ther I certainly would not want anyone else there with me!
The guys at work were talking about this the other day and most of them had wished they could have stayed outside and been called in when it was over. One of the guys said it made him look at his wife in such a different way he couldn't have sex with her for a year!!

 

[tinkerbeth]

Originally posted by aprilgail2 The guys at work were talking about this the other day and most of them had wished they could have stayed outside and been called in when it was over. One of the guys said it made him look at his wife in such a different way he couldn't have sex with her for a year!! [/B]

Good heavens. I didn't realize what a good catch dh is until I read about some of the husbands on this thread.

 

[mickey4ver]

Acepepper is well, Acepepper...not a troll, just himself posting things that usually can rile up a few. I usually get a smile or an upset stomache from his posts, but always find them. shall we say interesting.

The ignore button is a great function on this board, or do as I do when faced with a thread I feel uncomfortable with or don't like, I don't open it and I don't read it. I don't find any board rules to have been broken and I've seen many threads on these boards that are much more offensive than this one. JMHO of course

 

[Lanshark]

Acepepper is an ole DBer who likes to throw stuff against the wall to see what sticks.

To answer the question IMO anyone who attends the conception is obligated to attend the birth.

 

[MelessaG]

Originally posted by snoopy
Now what I'd acutally like to see is a guy go through labor. That would be pretty funny to witness, I gotta admit.

Me too, and about him not getting to be a part of the surgical team. That is so much like my husband would have been if we had gone to the OR. As it was, I was afraid he would make the nurses mad when he used to hover and offer 'constructive criticism' while they were putting in my IV.

 

[Saffron]

I guess you have to know the poster to get it, because I just don't see the humor in the OP's original post or subsequent posts at all. So be it.

You know what I think would be a great thing to do? The OP should make 4 copies of this thread. He can put one copy in the next Mother's Day card he gives to his wife, and one copy in each of the his children's baby books! Then his entire family can howl with laughter at the part where he calls his wife a skank! Wouldn't that be so cool!!!!!

By the way, I don't think there's anything wrong with this topic being on the CB. I think it can be an intersting topic. I just think there's something wrong with a husband who calls his wife a skank, especially after just giving birth to his child.

But ... whatever.

 

[onecoolmama]

Originally posted by Saffron
By the way, I don't think there's anything wrong with this topic being on the CB. I think it can be an intersting topic. I just think there's something wrong with a husband who calls his wife a skank, especially after just giving birth to his child.

But ... whatever.

I completely agree with you Saffron. I dont see a problem with him posting this..


But I completely disagree with his postion and I think it is unbelieveble that he would call his wife something like that.

 

[katerkat]

Originally posted by TY31088
Is this what you want your teenage daughters and sons to read about childbirth?

When I was a teen, I had to watch a birth in Health class. It looked just like what Ace described!

For those of you who wanted him there for comfort, was there no one else? To be perfectly honest, I'd rather have my mom there! (Other than her stance on epidurals.) She's been through it and knows what to do, comfort-wise. DH does not!