Should I say something??

[Filmraven]

Hi everyone!

I have a question...it has nothing to do with Disney unfortunately but I was referred to this board by my sister who is a HUGE disney fan and she says that you guys always have wonderful advice on all sorts of things so I thought I'd try out my question here!

It's about my bf who recently initiated the "big talk" with me about getting engaged. He told me that he has been looking for a ring for awhile but realized that he really wanted my input. I agreed with him completely and felt very relieved to have had the talk. It seemed like intentions were now clear and we both knew where we stood interms of marriage and getting engaged-luckily we agreed on most things.

My question is: one thing that my bf mentioned was the fact that he wanted to talk to his folks when he goes to visit at Christmas (he's from another province) about us getting engaged. I'm a little nervous about this (as I assume most would be) as I have only met his parents twice for two week holidays and although I feel like they like me you can never know for sure!

Now, he is coming home in two days and I'm wondering: is it appropriate for me to ask how the talk went with his parents? Or should I leave it alone and not bring it up? I really want to know but am hesitant for some reason about asking.

What do you guys think?

Chantel~

 

[piglet too]

Go ahead and ask him! It is normal to be nervous about finding out how they took the news.

 

[mickeyboat]

Go ahead and ask him! It is normal to be nervous about finding out how they took the news.

Denae

 

[mickeyfan2]

I would expect him to tell you when he returns. If some time passes then I would just ask him.

 

[lg3]

I would expect him to tell you when he returns. If some time passes then I would just ask him.

IA w/mickeyfan2. Hopefully he will bring it up when you see one-another after he gets back. If he doesn't mention it at first, I would certainly bring it up, being very cheery about it.

 

[mickeysgal]

Now, he is coming home in two days and I'm wondering: is it appropriate for me to ask how the talk went with his parents? Or should I leave it alone and not bring it up? I really want to know but am hesitant for some reason about asking.

What do you guys think?

Chantel~

Chantel, if you are considering marriage, you shouldn't be hesitant bringing up any subject with him. Go ahead and ask him - I'm sure he won't mind.

 

[Heidict]

I also vote for asking him. You know that he is asking so he shouldn't be hesitant in telling you.

 

[poohandwendy]

ask him.

Btw, you are going to marry him, correct? There is nothing inappropriate for you to talk about with him.

 

[akhenaten]

Chantel, if you are considering marriage, you shouldn't be hesitant bringing up any subject with him. Go ahead and ask him - I'm sure he won't mind.

 

[Chicago526]

Yup, if he doesn't bring it up within a reasonable amount of time, go ahead and ask!

Congrats, and good luck!

 

[hlbtimes2]

Chantel, if you are considering marriage, you shouldn't be hesitant bringing up any subject with him. Go ahead and ask him - I'm sure he won't mind.

Yep, that is what I was going to say. If you are going to spend the rest of your life with this person you should be able to ask him anything!

 

[Stitchfans]

Of course you should ask him. A marriage without communication will be a rough one to live in. DH and I can talk about everything and anything.

 

[Filmraven]

Thanks for the advice everyone!

I guess my purpose for posting on here to get opinions was also because I have been talking to my bf on the phone twice a day since he's been out of town and a day ago asked him if he had talked with his mom. I can't figure out if he was playing dumb or not because he said, "Of course, I talk to my mom about lots of stuff." So I responded with, "No, did you have "the talk" with her?" his response was, "Yeah, yeah, I did." Ok.....so I said, "Did it go well?" And his response once again was, "Yep, yep it went well." I don't know if his mom was close by so he didn't want to bring it up but he definitely wouldn't divulge anything to me. So...since then I have talked to him on the phone a few more times, have not brought it up and nor has he. That's where my fusterations lie and also the reason why I was wondering if I should try bringing it up again when he comes home after he already would say so little on the subject.

 

[Sherri]

Hi everyone!

I have a question...it has nothing to do with Disney unfortunately but I was referred to this board by my sister who is a HUGE disney fan and she says that you guys always have wonderful advice on all sorts of things so I thought I'd try out my question here!

It's about my bf who recently initiated the "big talk" with me about getting engaged. He told me that he has been looking for a ring for awhile but realized that he really wanted my input. I agreed with him completely and felt very relieved to have had the talk. It seemed like intentions were now clear and we both knew where we stood interms of marriage and getting engaged-luckily we agreed on most things.

My question is: one thing that my bf mentioned was the fact that he wanted to talk to his folks when he goes to visit at Christmas (he's from another province) about us getting engaged. I'm a little nervous about this (as I assume most would be) as I have only met his parents twice for two week holidays and although I feel like they like me you can never know for sure!

Now, he is coming home in two days and I'm wondering: is it appropriate for me to ask how the talk went with his parents? Or should I leave it alone and not bring it up? I really want to know but am hesitant for some reason about asking.

What do you guys think?

Chantel~

You have no reason to think it would go nothing but good, so I would ask if his parents were excited about the "big news".

 

[mickeyboat]

Thanks for the advice everyone!

I guess my purpose for posting on here to get opinions was also because I have been talking to my bf on the phone twice a day since he's been out of town and a day ago asked him if he had talked with his mom. I can't figure out if he was playing dumb or not because he said, "Of course, I talk to my mom about lots of stuff." So I responded with, "No, did you have "the talk" with her?" his response was, "Yeah, yeah, I did." Ok.....so I said, "Did it go well?" And his response once again was, "Yep, yep it went well." I don't know if his mom was close by so he didn't want to bring it up but he definitely wouldn't divulge anything to me. So...since then I have talked to him on the phone a few more times, have not brought it up and nor has he. That's where my fusterations lie and also the reason why I was wondering if I should try bringing it up again when he comes home after he already would say so little on the subject.

I am guessing his mother was in the room while you were talking, and he did not want to get into it in front of her. Maybe it is much more of an issue to you than it is to him, and he has not thought about bringing it up again. Maybe he has something up his sleeve and doesn't want to talk about it since he is afraid of spoiling the surprise.

Your posts don't give me the feeling of something sinister going on. Try to relax.

Denae

 

[Filmraven]

Thanks Denae,

I'm going to try and not worry about it. I have an over active mind on a normal day if this post is any indication of that So I guess because I didn't get the response I expected (i.e.really excited and telling me how happy his parents are) right away I kinda went, ummm.....??

Thanks for the suggestions. Your reasoning makes very logical sense!