Should I not Go???

[Silverbelle990]

Ok so this year i was finally able to go to the world with my DH ( his first time) for about a week. He loved it and we had a great time. We also have two children who we left at home. It was like a honeymoon for us.

When we got back i asked my dh if for christmas it was ok to plan a trip back with our oldest son. My younger is just to small. He agreed that would be the perfect gift for christmas. I was so excited that i told my family and all i got was negitive coments. My grandmother said who are you kidding you just want to go back yourself. I was put off but told her yeah i love it there and i want to take my son who loves it without ever having been. My sisters just shrugged there shoulders and was asking if we can afford it and that we shoulspend our money on something real like buying a new car.

I love the planning stage and I want there imput but i feel like i have this big secret that i have to hide. Whenever i mention disney i get these bored blank expressions, but when she went last year she talked my ear off. So i am asking should we not go? H*** YES!!!! we are finally able to afford to go and i am going. I just feel guilty like i am sneaking around. I am a 26 year old mother of 2 who just got home 2 hours past cerfew and have to sneak in without being seen!!! Help me see the way to the world!!!!

 

[PrincessMo]

Sorry to hear about your troubles. Honestly, IMO, who cares what they say. It really isn't their decision or their money. So, if you and your family want to go to WDW...forget about them and start packing. I love my family too and value their opinions but I got the same thing when I told them I was getting married at WDW. Some people don't get it and that is ok just don't knock me for it. I don't get alot of things that people do. They ask me all the time how I can afford disney every year...not realizing they go to the shore for a week every year and actually spend more!!! But it's only ok for them to comment on my vacation but not vice versa. It doesn't seem fair but I have learned now to of course be upset at first but let it go and do my own thing anyway cuz the only people that are important in my & my hubby's decision are us!

Take care of yourself and do whatever is right for you and your family.

Have A Magical Day!

 

[PrincessMo]

Oh, just a quick note. My immediate family (most) were thrilled I was having a disney wedding. It was everyone else...the people that weren't paying anything and to be honest weren't as important.

Have A Magical Day!

 

[cdnmickeylover]

Go and have a good time! My family doesn't get it either but I just shrug and know what they are missing out on.

I would reconsider taking your youngest though -- I took my DS for the first time when he was just 25 months old and it was amazing what he remembered and talked about afterwards.

 

[Silverbelle990]

Thank you for your opnion. mAybe i should listen to myself more but i see you know how it is. And your wedding pic is beatiful. You look loverly.

 

[mommyintn]

Well if it makes a difference, I'm happy for you!!! Let's just look at it this way since your family dosen't share the love of Disney there are that many less people who we have to stand in line with or compete for reservations with. Have a great time, the planning is half the fun!

 

[PrincessMo]

Thank you for your opnion. mAybe i should listen to myself more but i see you know how it is. And your wedding pic is beatiful. You look loverly.

You're welcome! And thank you for your compliments It was a fantastic day.

It is hard to listen to yourself sometimes. I don't always do it myself but I am getting better. I am a sensitive person but every day I get a little bit better about just letting people talk OR sticking up for myself

Take Care of Yourself. Feel free to pm me anytime to chat, vent, whatever.

Have A Magical Day!

 

[Mom to Jordan]

Oh we hear "Are you guys going back to WDW again"?? (It's been 2 1/2 years this time). We just say YES, and are so excited!!!

I do agree that I would take the little one this time too. Make it a family trip that everyone will love. Nothing wrong with your wanting to go back or to show WDW to your children.

 

[mickeyluv'r]

If you can afford it....then go. But I'm not sure I understand where you say your smallest is too little. I can't imagine going to WDW without the whole family, especially at Christmas time.

Even infants get a lot out of Disney. The lights and sounds are great, and I can't think of a place on earth more mom friendly (nursing stations, baby swap at big attractions, etc.). There are quite a few shows and rides that the little one will enjoy! It's amazing what kids learn from WDW! You can even do baby swapping at the big rides (one person waits with the baby, and then you get a special pass to swap after the first goup goes on the ride. The baby watcher then uses the swap pass like a fastpass. You can even bring someone on the ride with you!) I'm also not sure I could leave a little child in someone else's care for a week, but that's just me. You'll have to find someone you trust - and if your family members are giving you a hard time about going...

Could part of the reason they don't want you to go is that they want you to be with them for the holiday? I know lots of families that feel very traditional at Christmas time...I wonder if there would be less objection if you waited until spring break to go.

 

[robinb]

Of course you're doing it for yourself! There is nothing wrong with that, IMO. Some people just don't understand our love for Disney.

By the way, my DD had a great time at WDW when she was 2. Since your youngest will be free to get into the parks and free to eat at buffets perhaps you should consider taking him too and making it a family vactaion.

 

[WDWorBUST]

Go!!! It's not their money or their vacation so they don't have to approve. I'm with the others though - take the little one. We took DD at 13 months, 23 months, 25 months and are going one more time at 34 months (before we have to buy her a ticket, etc). She had a great time every trip. We do go for us - but she loves it and there aren't many vacation destinations as family friendly. Now this next trip I'm really even more excited because I think she'll really get into the magic. She LOVES the princesses and all characters and she's as excited about going as we are - so maybe this trip is a lot for her too! If it's right for your family it's really no one else's business.

 

[pixiewytch]

I can relate to your woes but like someone else said, it really isn't any of their business. You must ask yourself if the guilt is really projected from them or is it because you need to re evaluate your own priorities? Only you can answer that and it isn't anyone else's concern.

I too wonder if they aren't just upset about disturbing the holidays. I went to MK one year on xmas day and my family was very disappointed about it. We planned a xmas eve get together and gift exchange since I was going to be gone that day. I don't think it really compensated but we still spent some family time together.

I'm probably in the minority here but I didn't take my son until he was 3. DH and I went on several trips alone and left him with the grandparents. My opinion is to enjoy it while you can. Once they get older you won't be able to leave them while you enjoy some alone time. I'm not saying an infant or toddler can't enjoy it but they aren't going to remember anything years down the road, that's for sure. Some people may relish a day at disney changing diapers, scheduling frequent feedings, getting in naps, missing attractions or doing the swap thing, and dealing with general crying and fussiness but I think they are much more enjoyable when they are a couple of years older and have more understanding of what is going on.

Then again, if the said little one would be staying with the relatives giving you heck about the trip, it is probably better off to find a sitter or take him or her along anyway.

 

[Silverbelle990]

My youngest is 2. HE doesn't like fireworks and is timid about everything. I feel that if i take him i will be holding him the entire time and he will be crying. My oldest loves the big rides and to be perfectly honest so do i. But this is my first sons trip and i want to be ther when he gets off SM for the first time and see his face. If i took the little oe i would miss that. Also when he gets bigger then we will have our first family vacation to the world.

He will be left with his grandparents so he can get closer to them. They are ok with us going. It's my side of the fam that isn'ty happy. And we are going in feb there are no holidays to miss. Why can't they be happy?????

 

[UtahMama]

Isn't it funny how familys are? The one's you want the support from the most are downright rude to you...since you cant change them, let it go. Maybe their jealous, maybe it has nothing to do with what you think like some old unhealed wound....what-ever! Girl, take YOUR family and have a blast. You dont have to defend yourself. Sounds like your DISfriends are supportive.. Have Fun!!!

 

[belle&beast]

I have a SIL who loves WDW as much as we do, but she acts like we're ridiculous to take our kids and plan our next trip. In this situation it is jealousy. She wants to go and cannot afford it right now. We planned and scrimped and saved, but nobody knows that, or they choose to ignore it. Go, have fun and enjoy the magic! You have my support!

 

[emma'smom]

My youngest is 2. HE doesn't like fireworks and is timid about everything. I feel that if i take him i will be holding him the entire time and he will be crying. My oldest loves the big rides and to be perfectly honest so do i. But this is my first sons trip and i want to be ther when he gets off SM for the first time and see his face. If i took the little oe i would miss that. Also when he gets bigger then we will have our first family vacation to the world.

He will be left with his grandparents so he can get closer to them. They are ok with us going. It's my side of the fam that isn'ty happy. And we are going in feb there are no holidays to miss. Why can't they be happy?????

Will your dh be going to? If so, you can do the babyswap and still see your oldest get of of SM and then he can ride it with your DH...so he gets twice the thrill.

Anway, we went in March and then bought into DVC, so we went back in June. When we went in June, we tried not to tell too many people (and I even waited to tell my parents until the last minute) becasue I didn't want them to think we were nuts or extravagent. However, most folks who knew (neighbors who fed the cat, etc) didn't really seem much to care. I think it ws more my own issue than theirs. We went..we had a great time..we've now planned two trips for next year (March and May).

With DVC and an AP, it really is cheaper than renting a house for a week at the shore....and oh so much fun!