Should I not be upset?

[JVelasquez]

Today is my first Sunday off in a while (at least a month) and DH ONLY has Sunday's off. Which means we very rarely have a whole day off together. I told him over a week ago that I would be home today and I just wanted to spend the whole day with my DS and DH.

It is now almost 1:30pm he has been gone since around 10:30am. Where is he? He is going to get a haircut! He was unable to go on Friday like he usually does bc he worked late. DS and I were going to go with him but he wanted to go with a friend of his bc his friend needed a cut too and his friend knew where the barber is located. Fine I ran some errands with my DS and when I called my DH about an hour ago he said he was going to get some lunch with his friend AND he hadn't even
had his haircut yet!!!! I don't even know any salons that are open on Sunday's are barbers different?

I am just sad bc I was really looking forward to this family time. He knew how I felt and that I didn't care what we did today as long as we were all together. This is also not the first time he has done something like this. Guess I should have expected it.

 

[momof1princess]

i don't know of any salons or barber shops that are open on sunday. sorry, i don't mean to be suspicious, i guess it's just my nature. my DH drives 10 minutes round-trip to the local barbershop to get a crew cut and is back in about 25-30 minutes. i hope you guys can meet up soon, and salvage your afternoon together.

ETA: yes, you have every right to be upset. if i gave DH a week's notice of an upcoming day off that i wanted to spend with him, and he took off with a friend instead and totally left me hanging, i'd be more than upset, i'd be totally irate.

 

[Wishing on a star]

You have good cause to be upset, and for more than one reason....

 

[Jex]

Wow.

My wife used to work weekends and I rarely did, it did take awhile to adjust to not being able to run errands and have my time to myself. I will say though that while she no longer works weekends, I made a point that when she did and had a Saturday or Sunday off I would look forward to dropping my plans or weekend projects and spending time with her.

 

[brockash]

you have good cause to be upset, and for more than one reason....

ita!

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

You have every right to be upset at your husband's lack of sensitivity, however I want to differ from some of the others and say that where I live (major metro area), many salons and barbers are open on Sundays because people are off work and have time to go. I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he's lying about that, and even if he were it will be easy to tell once he gets home.

 

[hereyago]

Where I live there are places like supercuts,etc that are open on Sundays. However, if he has done this before, you just need to go spend time with your son go out to lunch,etc don't make the day of a total waste on waiting on him.

You can address things with him later, just go spend time with your DS.

 

[JVelasquez]

Supposedly he is on his way home now so that we can pick up a recliner from my Dad. I told him Wednesday night about going to pick it up today. BUT guess this he's coming home without a haircut!!!! He has been gone for almost 3 1/2hrs and he didn't even get a haircut!!!! I also know that he will be mad at me for being mad at him bc Sundays are his only days off to do things. Well IMO a haircut is not a life or death situation that needs to be taken care of immediately AND he could have choose to include us instead of his friend!!! Thank you guys for letting me vent!

 

[Uncle Remus]

Today is my first Sunday off in a while (at least a month) and DH ONLY has Sunday's off. Which means we very rarely have a whole day off together. I told him over a week ago that I would be home today and I just wanted to spend the whole day with my DS and DH.

It is now almost 1:30pm he has been gone since around 10:30am. Where is he? He is going to get a haircut! He was unable to go on Friday like he usually does bc he worked late. DS and I were going to go with him but he wanted to go with a friend of his bc his friend needed a cut too and his friend knew where the barber is located. Fine I ran some errands with my DS and when I called my DH about an hour ago he said he was going to get some lunch with his friend AND he hadn't even
had his haircut yet!!!! I don't even know any salons that are open on Sunday's are barbers different?

I am just sad bc I was really looking forward to this family time. He knew how I felt and that I didn't care what we did today as long as we were all together. This is also not the first time he has done something like this. Guess I should have expected it.

That's the crappiest story I've ever heard, but our barber shop does do women's haircuts too so maybe he's tellin' the truth.

 

[YodaGirl]

You have good cause to be upset, and for more than one reason....

 

[YodaGirl]

That's the crappiest story I've ever heard, but our barber shop does do women's haircuts too so maybe he's tellin' the truth.

Maybe, and I'm sure there are some places (I'd be finding out the name and calling them for their hours).

Something just sounds fishy.

 

[Tink888]

Where I live there are lots of places to get a haircut on Sunday.

I know lots of guys who get together with buddies and get side-tracked. Not saying it's right but it happens.

Picking up a recliner from my FIL doesn't sound like the greatest quality family time on a day off.

Would I be aggravated? Yes, but I'd try to let it go and try and make the most of the rest of day, especially on a rare day you all have off together and do something you all enjoy. It's a better option than fighting all day. JMO

 

[hereyago]

Picking up a recliner from my FIL doesn't sound like the greatest quality family time on a day off.

well had the DH and his buddy not gone out for how many hours, there would have been more time to do things together. He knew his wife was off today and she wanted to spend time together and he HAD to get his haircut done today-but he didn't.

 

[DisneyLoverUSA]

I don't know of any Barber shops or Beauty shops that are open on Sunday. Most are closed on Sundays and Mondays. And if you called him an hour ago and he STILL had not even gotten his haircut what has he been doing? Do you know this friend? Did he come to the house to pick your DH up or did he just go "meet" his friend? If you know the friend's wife call her and see what she thinks about the little outing that doesn't seem to be what they are saying it is. I am not very suspicious by nature but what you are describing has sent red flags flying all over the place. Has he ever cheated on you, THAT YOU KNOW OF? Now that you have just let him go alone, there is really no way to verify where he has been or what he has been doing or even who he is really with.

And you say this is not the first time he has done this... That would be a very big problem for me.

AND he didn't even get a haircut!!!

 

[focusondisney]

Today is my first Sunday off in a while (at least a month) and DH ONLY has Sunday's off. Which means we very rarely have a whole day off together. I told him over a week ago that I would be home today and I just wanted to spend the whole day with my DS and DH.

It is now almost 1:30pm he has been gone since around 10:30am. Where is he? He is going to get a haircut! He was unable to go on Friday like he usually does bc he worked late. DS and I were going to go with him but he wanted to go with a friend of his bc his friend needed a cut too and his friend knew where the barber is located. Fine I ran some errands with my DS and when I called my DH about an hour ago he said he was going to get some lunch with his friend AND he hadn't even
had his haircut yet!!!! I don't even know any salons that are open on Sunday's are barbers different?

I am just sad bc I was really looking forward to this family time. He knew how I felt and that I didn't care what we did today as long as we were all together. This is also not the first time he has done something like this. Guess I should have expected it.

Well, I'm going to be no help coz I can see both sides.

Does your DH work 6 days a week & really only has 1 day off? Then I can see him wanting a little time with his friend, especially if he normally has your son on his one day off. What did he say when you told him you wanted to spend all day together? Was he as into it as you were? Are all your Sundays off spent as family time? Do either of you take time to do things on your own?

Is he otherwise helpful & loving? If he is, you might have to let him go on this one. I know you are disappointed, but he might see this as his only time in months to get some "me" time.

My DH & I did worked opposite shifts like this when our kids were little too. He worked Mon- Fri & I worked Sat & Sun. So I know it is hard & takes both of you working together to make it work. Sounds like you might need a calm talk about what you both need on your days off.

I'm sorry you are upset & I hope you can salvage some of your day.

 

[dislaney]

I would be upset. It also sound kinda fishy to me.

 

[aprilgail2]

You have every right to be upset at your husband's lack of sensitivity, however I want to differ from some of the others and say that where I live (major metro area), many salons and barbers are open on Sundays because people are off work and have time to go. I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he's lying about that, and even if he were it will be easy to tell once he gets home.

Same here-- most close Mondays, not sundays.

 

[Swan4Me]

DS and I were going to go with him but he wanted to go with a friend of his bc his friend needed a cut too and his friend knew where the barber is located. .

Unless your DH has never gotten his hair cut-does he have a regular barber?
Mine does-and he knows where it is

and all barbers are closed on Sunday & monday

Sounds fishy to me

 

[4greatboys]

My husband always gets his haircut on Sunday's so I know some places are open then. However it does seem odd he was gone 3.5 hours to get a haircut and came home without one.

 

[spacemountainmom]

Wow - suspicious much?

No offense - men are self-centered and dense. He is used to her not being around on weekends so he made plans with his buddy to go watch the game or have a beer or whatever. He shouldn't lie about it, but I really think it's a reach to assume that he's having an affair.

Waaay back in the day, my dh had a softball game and I really needed to have time to study for my CIC (Insurance stuff) test. I asked him to come straight home and take dd so I could study in peace and quiet. He didn't come home and didn't come home and it got later and later. This was pre cell phone days. I was madder than a wet hen when he finally strolled through the door a good three hours after he should have been home. He got asked to sub for another team and then got to bs'ing and having a beverage or two. He totally forgot about me, dd and my test. Did I immediately assume he was stepping out on me? - um, no.

He was thoughtless and believe me, I still bring it up when I want to make a point. I wouldn't still be married if I thought something was up everytime dh didn't come home as soon as I thought he should. There is always some other errand or whatever.