Should I keep my mouth shut or make a stink?

[CHawthorne]

(Not at you...at the PP)

It’s the same concept. Both are admirable – helping a child. But without knowing all the details in the end it could cause more harm to the child.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

It’s the same concept. Both are admirable – helping a child. But without knowing all the details in the end it could cause more harm to the child.

It is a ridiculous comparison...And think of the damage YOU could do by calling CPS on someone for letting their kids indulge on vacation. At some point common sense somes into play no?

 

[CHawthorne]

There is an age for most states..like NJ that indicates 8 years AND 80lbs..so 5 years and 80lbs would still require a child restraint not an adult seat belt.

Your comments are beyond ridiculous here..people aren't making up the recommendations or the state laws and in this situation it was regarding the child not being properly restrained and most likely violating not only recommendations that are out there but state law as well.

These are your words. And using the wrong source is not an excuse. And in this case you very clearly made up the state law to support your previous posts. Claiming ignorance or not having the correct information discredits you. In the future, I would resist posting information as fact without checking reliable resources.

 

[CHawthorne]

It is a ridiculous comparison...And think of the damage YOU could do by calling CPS on someone for letting their kids indulge on vacation. At some point common sense somes into play no?

You would think right? You would think someone would check sources before calling CPS or the police on a complete stranger for something they THINK might be an issue.

But I quickly googled kids+overeating+CPS so I have all the information I need to disrupt someone's life.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

But I quickly googled kids+overeating+CPS so I have all the information I need to disrupt someone's life.

Well I am SO glad you are such an UPSTANDING citizen.

 

[CHawthorne]

Well I am SO glad you are such an UPSTANDING citizen.

Tongue-in-cheek is a phrase used as a figure of speech to imply that a statement or other production is humorously intended and it should not be taken at face value.

Sarcasm is “a sharp, bitter, or cutting expression or remark; a bitter jibe or taunt.” [1] Though irony and understatement is usually the immediate context,[2] most authorities distinguish sarcasm from irony;[3] however, others argue that sarcasm may or often does involve irony[4] or employs ambivalence.[5]

 

[MoonFaerie]

If you could read the car seat sticker through the car door, I would be really amazed.

You are correct though--you have every right to report something if you feel it is unsafe. But by the tone of your posts, I doubt that you will.

Not to mention, if the child is in a low back booster, you won't be able to tell anyway.

But by all means, she can call away. My 8 yr old, 56 lb, 55" DS is properly restrained in a low back booster, and my 6 yr old, 45 lb, 48" DD is properly restrained with a high back booster. Neither are expired either; I check dates every time change just like the smoke detector batteries.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Tongue-in-cheek is a phrase used as a figure of speech to imply that a statement or other production is humorously intended and it should not be taken at face value.

Sarcasm is “a sharp, bitter, or cutting expression or remark; a bitter jibe or taunt.” [1] Though irony and understatement is usually the immediate context,[2] most authorities distinguish sarcasm from irony;[3] however, others argue that sarcasm may or often does involve irony[4] or employs ambivalence.[5]

 

[kidshop]

These are your words. And using the wrong source is not an excuse. And in this case you very clearly made up the state law to support your previous posts. Claiming ignorance or not having the correct information discredits you. In the future, I would resist posting information as fact without checking reliable resources.

the only facts and laws important in this discussion are physics. simple, clear and irrefutable. If the child is in the front seat, the airbag is a danger to a small person. if the seatbelt does not fit the right way, it will not protect from injury or death.

there is really nothing else to say about it. why is it a big deal to make sure the seatbelt fits the kid?

 

[CHawthorne]

the only facts and laws important in this discussion are physics. simple, clear and irrefutable. If the child is in the front seat, the airbag is a danger to a small person. if the seatbelt does not fit the right way, it will not protect from injury or death.

there is really nothing else to say about it. why is it a big deal to make sure the seatbelt fits the kid?

It’s not. I completely agree the child should be properly restrained. My issue is that this poster said and I quote:

“I would be calling him up and telling him to buckle the kid up before I contacted the authorities and took him to court for endangering our child's life.”

But this very same poster misread the actual laws of the state and could in reality cause more damage. It is very dangerous to constantly call the authorities and use our legal resources when you do not understand the actual law.

 

[dizcrazee]

I would not let this go. I would do whatever is necessary to stop it. He sounds like he has poor judgment and someone needs to advocate for the child's safety. I knew a small child that was killed in a minor accident because her irresponsible and immature mother let her ride in the front seat.

 

[cheermom1]

Op i haven't read all the replies but this screams that he is being a HUGE disney dad with his dd. Meaning he is using the divorce as an excuse to let her do what ever she wants. If he is letting her do this at 5 what else do you think he will let her do? Think about what she will be like as a teen?

I say this as you can use this info to tell him that just b/c he divorced her mom doesn;t mean he stops being a real dad. He MUST make her do those things like sit in a CAR SEAT with a seat belt in the back! I know he must feel guilty but he still has to be a dad regardless of how he feels and not getting to see her very often. If he continues to use this as an excuse she will grow older and he will have a very uncontrollable child on his hands. This is the time to step up and still the parent and make sure she is safe and grows into a great adult for the world.

It starts with the little things like sitting in the front and using the excuse that he hardly gets to see her is very classic of him feeling guilty about the divorce and not getting to see her. does that make sense?

Good luck on helping your brother through this.