Should I feel bad? Or be mad!

[bdoyledimou]

if you havn't already, contact the manufacturer and see if you can get a warrenty replacment.
I busted teh screen on my laptop 2 hours after getting it (dropped my phone on it) and they replaced it for me (sent me a new shell, all i did was move the Harddrive from the old one to the new one and shipped the broken one back)

 

[tinkamom]

I am curious as to how the DD was searching for the laptop while seated on the bed. LOL. Did she just plop down to think of where to search next?

Our experiences with laptops have been that simply breathing heavily on them will damage them. We have a netbook now that seems fairly sturdy, though.

OP - next time, remember - hide it in plain sight. I hid DH's Christmas present in HIS closet one year and he never found it! He even asked where I'd managed to hide it. However, when next seeking out obtuse hiding places, do NOT hide it in the oven.

I would LOVE to hear this story!

 

[tinkamom]

And to the op - Teens are terrible creatures and cause much damage and heartache. In situations such as yours, you just have to tell yourself, "it was only a thing". Remember, a teen's sole purpose in life is to slowly strip away all layers of our sanity. Just hold on to this thought - one day she will have a teen.[/QUOTE]

Oh Yes! I actually called my Mom and apoligized to her after an extremely trying day.

 

[Disneyadore]

Isn't this covered by your insurance?

 

[peanut1967]

You took her laptop away, she went hunting for it....the consequence of that is that she broke it. Its her fault her consequence.

Ask yourself this....If she would have found would she have used it? If she used it would she tell you the truth?

No she has learnt a lesson the hard way...its not long till xmas and I would be telling her she needs to either pay for the repair herself or she needs to save half towards a new one.....dont let her off and dont let her guilt you *** she will continue doing it forever.

Angie

 

[MichelleVW]

I think "taking away" a lap top,cell phone or car is not the solution to resolve a problem with a sixteen year old.There almost grown up so taking away something is just a short time solution.

I would have tried to resolve a problem with other methods but hey that's just me.
So seeing this problem from that angel yes I would feel bad and hurry to buy a new one.

Totally agree....and still can't believe someone would hide a laptop under a freaking mattress!

 

[Tarheel Tink]

If I had gone looking for something my parents confiscated, my mother would have broken it in front of me as an extra punishment for my insolence.

The kid's fault.

Ditto.

 

[scrapbookworm]

Anyone could have sat on it. She shouldn't have been snooping, but I think that is also human nature. The broken laptop is, unfortunately, your fault.

When I sit down on my DD's bed, I'm not thinking about I could be sitting on a toy or something else hidden on the mattress. That's not a reasonable thought process. It could have happened even if she wasn't snooping- it could happen while putting up laundry, etc.

 

[tinkamom]

Totally agree....and still can't believe someone would hide a laptop under a freaking mattress!

Enlighten me please. Why is tucking a laptop away in an out of the way, unused (under normal circumstances!) spot so unbelievable?

Under the couch cushion would be another story! I'd have to accept the stupid award for that one without debate!

 

[Luvchefmic]

Enlighten me please. Why is tucking a laptop away in an out of the way, unused (under normal circumstances!) spot so unbelievable?

Under the couch cushion would be another story! I'd have to accept the stupid award for that one without debate!

Forget that we're moving on to the most important question...let's live dangerously WHAT did DD do ? let the games begin you evil woman

 

[happygirl]

If I had gone looking for something my parents confiscated, my mother would have broken it in front of me as an extra punishment for my insolence.

The kid's fault.

Mine as well

 

[Disney1fan2002]

I can't believe all you people blaming the broken laptop on the child. This is in NO way her fault.

Was she wrong to snoop around? Absolutely. But she had no reason to believe that she'd SIT on the laptop, because no reasonable person would hide one under a mattress.

Its 100% the OP's fault for not taking proper care of the item. She could have hidden it on the top shelf of a closet, or in a box, or anyplace else that it would be safe. Instead, she chose a very risky spot, because it could have been broken by anyone who sat on the bed.

I agree. Anyone could have sat on the foot of the bed. What if it had been the Op's husband? Would it still have been the dd's fault for having the laptop taken away to begin with?

I can't see how this is the dd's fault. Yes she was in the room looking for the laptop. But maybe she just wanted to make sure her mom had put it in a safe place!

When I take things away from my DS (always an electronic of some kind), he goes on the hunt. Not to deceive me, he just wants to prove that he can find anything I hide. It's a personal venture for him. He knows if he EVER touched the forbidden item, his punishment would be far worse than it already was. He just likes the personal satisfaction of "knowing" where it is. I could put the thing in plain sight, but I like to challenge him.

 

[scrapbookworm]

If I had gone looking for something my parents confiscated, my mother would have broken it in front of me as an extra punishment for my insolence.

The kid's fault.

Your mom would have even broken an expensive electronic device? Wow, she was one tough cookie! I couldn't bring myself to do that. I would keep it for myself instead.

 

[LisaR]

I think "taking away" a lap top,cell phone or car is not the solution to resolve a problem with a sixteen year old.There almost grown up so taking away something is just a short time solution.

I would have tried to resolve a problem with other methods but hey that's just me.
So seeing this problem from that angel yes I would feel bad and hurry to buy a new one.

Just curious how you would punish a 16 y/o? Just because they are "almost" grown up doesn't mean they don't screw up and need to face the music. My 15 y/o still needs punished. When she does, there are only a few thing that will really make a difference in her life: cell phone, friends and Facebook. If she needs punished, those are the things that we use. I am very curious how you would punish a 16 y/o?

 

[tinkamom]

Anyone could have sat on it. She shouldn't have been snooping, but I think that is also human nature. The broken laptop is, unfortunately, your fault.

When I sit down on my DD's bed, I'm not thinking about I could be sitting on a toy or something else hidden on the mattress. That's not a reasonable thought process. It could have happened even if she wasn't snooping- it could happen while putting up laundry, etc.

OK. Just to clear things up a little:

1) DD was searching for the laptop that was taken away, not snooping.

2) The laptop was placed in a spot not reachable under normal use. No one could have accidently sat on it!

DD and I have come to terms with this. I think we are both partially at fault. Like I said earlier in the thread hindsight is 20/20 vision, I understand now that mattresses are for hiding dirty magazines not electronics!

 

[tinkamom]

Just curious how you would punish a 16 y/o? Just because they are "almost" grown up doesn't mean they don't screw up and need to face the music. My 15 y/o still needs punished. When she does, there are only a few thing that will really make a difference in her life: cell phone, friends and Facebook. If she needs punished, those are the things that we use. I am very curious how you would punish a 16 y/o?

I'm curious about this too! How do YOU redirect teens?

 

[Tikitoi]

Wrong for her to go looking for it. But your fault for putting it where anyone could have sat. Lesson learned on what not to do.

 

[Mandychelle79]

She shouldn't have been snooping in your room..

She needs to start saving for a new one.. Notice I said "she" - not "you"..

But then if she buys it herself, I would think Mom couldnt take it as punishment.

 

[Jennasis]

If I had gone looking for something my parents confiscated, my mother would have broken it in front of me as an extra punishment for my insolence.

The kid's fault.

Your mom would have even broken an expensive electronic device? Wow, she was one tough cookie! I couldn't bring myself to do that. I would keep it for myself instead.

Ask me about my Nintendo.

 

[Luvchefmic]

Ask me about my Nintendo.

ask me about my original Elvis records