Sharing hotel beds

[jenharring]

I grew up with 2 sis and 2 bro and yes did end up sharing beds with one of the boys on occasion, of course, this was before 'PC' and worries of this sort of thing and my parents would never consider getting a cot or bringing an airmattress - we were LUCKY to be on vacation! I guess there was the floor as an option, mom and dad would have let us do that - but the bed, even with bro in it - was a better option.

No way would I ASK my kids if they mind. I'm the parent - you sleep where I tell you. Now if one of my kids was doing something weird or tossed and turned all night long keeping the other up all night - THEN I might do something for them. But honestly - if anyone asks me - yes I would prefer a KING SIZED bed on vacation and for dh and I to get our own nice, very quiet, room and while I'm at it I would prefer not to be awakened before 8:00am, but no, I'm not going to get it. And likely they will not get their first choice of sleepign arrangements either. But if they would prefer not to go on vacation - that's an alternative too.

I would never have them sleep separate because I was afraid of incest or that type of thing. If I had even the slightest incling of that - there would be way more things to worry about and likely vacations would be put off for awhile. Now seriously - the people writing this type of comments - do you have a brother/sister the opposite gender from you? Honestly, with my sibs - sexuality is the LAST thing on your mind when your sibs are around.

Mine are very close in age and shared a bedroom until a few months ago (dd is 5 and ds is 6 now) - and I actually have encouraged them getting used to sleeping together on vacation so they're used to it and more accepting of it as they get older....

I so agree!!

 

[scottish mum]

seriously. i think the world has gone overboard with all this PC stuff.

unless your children have some problem with sleeping in the same bed, i see nothing wrong with it. they are siblings, you're on vacation in the same room together, and they are just sleeping.

You said it perfectly.

 

[mamagoose]

Thank you so much for your replies. I never gave this a second thought until someone suggested to me that it was inappropriate, then I had to see what others do. My kids don't think it's wierd--it's just what they've always done. They enjoy staying up whispering and laughing and this is sometimes why we've had to separate them--so DH and I can sleep! And I agree with the poster who said that my kids won't think it's wierd unless we draw attention to it. Of course, if my son (or daughter) ever mentioned that they would like a different sleeping arrangement, we would accomodate that. I appreciate all your feedback.

 

[WantToGoNow]

My ds7 and dd5 don't like to sleep together - never have. And dh and I don't fit very well on a double bed. Dh sleeps like a rock - nothing disturbs him ever, I sleep very lightly and cannot stand to be touched while I sleep, ds never moves from the time he goes to sleep until he wakes up, and dd flails around the bed like a fish out of water. Dh sleeps with dd and I sleep with ds. I realize this will change when they get older but for now it works for us.

As for the touching, etc. if it's going to happen, it's most likely going to happen at home, not on vacation when they know mom/dad are few feet away.

 

[sk!mom]

While it was probably fine when they were both little, I agree that I would not have them share a bed at their current ages and going forward.

We, also, have a DD and DS. Since DD's birth, if we are unable to get a suite or a room with a sleeper sofa, we have a girl's bed and a boy's bed. DD sleeps with me and DS with DH. DD has always loved it DH and DS- not so much. We prefer some arrangement of 3 beds- even if it's just a sofa.

 

[NotUrsula]

A few years ago we took my 17 yo niece with us to WDW; at the time DS was 7. I asked her if she had a problem sharing with him, and she didn't (they have been like siblings forever, and bicker just like they really were). DS of course never thought a thing of it at that age. They were absolutely fine, except on the days when she wanted to sleep in until noon and he thought she was nuts!

One of the keys to making this kind of thing "not a big deal" is modest sleepwear. Not just because of the sibling issue, but because they are sleeping in the same room as opposite-sex parents, who they probably no longer see undressed too often. If everyone makes it a point to stay fully covered-up outside of the bathroom (unless wearing a swimsuit), then opportunities for embarassment are less likely to occur.

Keep the room kind of cold so that the covers stay on, and even young teen boys should manage to preserve their sang-froid.