Your right, it is a lot. Which is why I am just talking and researching at this stage. I have spent the past couple of days talking to different groups who train for Autism and they all have great selling points. But I want others not on the other side (possibly seeing $ as a motivation) but who can also think out of the box.
As for one dog and two ASD kids, the places I have spoken too have been fast to say while the dog would be trained for one child as a main they would and have been trained to also respond if it is something they know of to another child in the home. Evidently some of these places have placed SD in multi ASD homes.
My oldest is the danger to himself and others. But not in a violent way. He wanders, he will try to leave an area, melts etc. He is not a hitter or anything like that but oh my goodness is he ever LOUD! We have a furbaby (cat) now that was my other concern with an SD dog. Evidently I was silly to think that but it is his cat and last thing I need is a dog that will eat the cat. But he has a calm and a love for animals. He cried for weeks when the neighbor moved and left theirs outside to fend for itself. People, strangers and so on are an issue. He does not grasp what a car will do to him or a hot stove. Even at 8. Math and Science wise he is well above his age. It is almost like those common skills we take for granted, kwim?
I do not worry about him hurting a dog or even the youngest. If anything it would be the opposite. But it is an avenue I want to dive deep into before shelling out this money.
In talking to these places about dual kiddos they explained that the dog would be like ones they trained. For example, they said they would get the dog to respond to behaviors that he has. If the youngest has the same then the dog may very well nudge him along the way as well to get his attention.
In addition, my oldest does not bond or make friendships past someone in passing. His social skills are poor, he still plays parallel to peers if even near them depending on his mood. I am told this is a saving grace so to speak in that area.
I worry from the going out and safety. Mostly it is my own fault. I have lived in the Autism world well before he could walk. My focus was day to day and therapy after therapy and resources to gain. I was not going to fail him. But at the same time I only focused on that box and the current time frame and did not think of the future, and now there are two. Lucky ducky me
So this is where I was presented with the issue of a SD. While I do Homeschool I also refuse to just stay shut in all the time. I do not want Autism to define who they are but them to define it. I can be seen with Homeschoolers or Schoolers at the park and so on. I will once in a while attempt a grocery store run, only he is well too big for those silly carts. Watching him socially around others is heart breaking to know he does not know what it feels like to bond, have a friend, sleep over, clubs kids do or ride bikes in a pack and sing silly songs. But on the other hand, it is comforting to know he is not affected by the sting of the cruel ones we do encounter. Each agency touched on this and how a SD helps and how you place them into a low social skills life for this. I was quite stunned. But yet, I have not committed yet. Someone to grow with him that can see his issues and such evidently at this age is great, medically backed up thus far. One thing I was asked about a personal lifestyle change for DH and I and I said I would like to go just once a month out to eat. This they can do. Plus the sleeping with the child and so on. Paints a rainbow huh?
Of course I have my own reservations. Only because I am thinking of adding something unknown to the mix. I am one that puts a whole lot of soul into anything. Sort of like a car, I will research and test drive it like mad before I ever pay a dime. I just have to be confident.
It would be nice to go places like
Walmart, Target, even the local Wendys once in a while and not feel rushed and like I am unfocused because of all the tasks on hand. I watched videos yday how they train SD dogs to shop with Autistic kids and families. How silly is it to think I might actually get to take him into a Toys R Us before he is 18
Just the things most take for granted I would like to do but I also want to make sure it is not made harder. Homeschooling chose me for these boys, but I do not want to be a shut in either. However, leaving is not always nice.
Tonight when they crash I plan on researching more. One agency is suppose to call me this week and send me some info. I would also like to find people who have been with a SD for their ASD kiddos for a while and see how the child and dog does, is it recommended and so on.... do not know how this could happen but I will ask around for sure.
Just doing my research and talking to anyone who has experience and in sight. TY so much for responding!
Off to look at the link above, ty kindly for sharing.