Seriously ... Is This Really That Bad re. Niece's Wedding? LONG

I am close to all my nieces and nephews and I can't say I would spend that type of money to attend their weddings. I really think individuals need to take that into account and be understanding. I think it is wonderful that you are going up to attend the actual ceremony...definitely don't feel bad about not staying longer.
 
I think that your sis may be being a tad ridiculous and regret it after the wedding. I myself think that what you are doing is the best plan!:thumbsup2
 
You can just mail a gift and send regrets.
 
OK - as I mentioned before, I have to attend niece's wedding on Long Island. My nephew (from different SIL) is getting married a week after niece's wedding. Both weddings are out-of-town.

Niece's wedding is an 8 hour trip. I looked at flights and can get an inexpensive flight to LI and rent a car for less than a two-night hotel stay. Hotel price of niece's wedding is $150/night plus tax. I would need 3 nights for niece's wedding (total $450 plus tax) b/c I would need to arrive the day before the wedding (so I'm fresh for the wedding), the night of the wedding and b/c I am not going to drive 8 hours home the day after the wedding, I'd need another night.

Nephew's wedding is 3 hours away and "hotel" price of nephew's wedding is $30/night per person and that includes tax and food b/c it's at a Catholic retreat!

Then, we have our Disney vaca. a few weeks after nephew's wedding.

So, I told SIL that I would be flying in and out for niece's wedding. When talking about nephew's wedding, I mentioned that we would stay overnight so we can party at wedding. Then SIL asked if we were still planning on going to Disney. SIL got really miffed b/c we are staying overnight for nephew's wedding and not niece's (her daughter's) wedding. I explained that if I drove out to LI, it would cost me a lot in gas plus I'd have to stay over three nights which is $450 plus in hotel alone. For nephew's wedding, the entire cost/distance is far less and more feasible. Of course, SIL said "Then cancel Disney". She was really hurt that we weren't going to stay for more than just the wedding. I'm thinking that she should be lucky we're going at all b/c it's become more expensive by the second.

DH has to work and cannot go to either wedding. I will take DS to nephew's wedding b/c it's far less costlier than niece's.

Am I so bad to do an in-and-out for niece but stay overnight for nephew? It would be one thing if both weddings were equal distance away and costs (hotel) were the same ... but that's not the case. DH says don't sweat it ... but I can't help but feel awful!

Don't feel bad at all.

Does everyone remember their wedding day? It is such a hectic (wonderful, but hectic) day, and the bride will have so many things going through her head and so many people to deal with that I'm sure she won't care one bit how long you are there before or after the ceremony. You'll be there for the ceremony and I'm sure that is what is most important to her.

Sounds like your SIL just got her panties in a bunch. She's probably stressed with all the wedding planning, and maybe wasn't thinking clearly. Or maybe she's one of those moms who just wants everything so perfect for her daughter on her big day, that she feels everyone else should drop what they are doing for them.
 

Why is it that weddings automatically cause necessary brain cells to leak out people's ears?! You are attending the wedding. More than that, you are flying there to attend it. That's an amazing thing to do for someone. It shows a lot of love. To take your generous gesture and complain it isn't enough some how is rude, tacky, an ungrateful. After all, you accepted an invitation to attend the wedding, nothing else. And that's what you're doing.

You're probably far to polite to tell her to shove it where the sun doesn't shine, but you'd be perfectly justified in doing so.
 
I am not qualified to answer this thread as my nephew's wedding caused World War III in our family - so I will just say

BEST OF LUCK!!!!!
 

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