Sept. 2009 @ WDW! Be a Pop Tart 2009~come share your(Bounce Back or NOT)Dates !!!

[jmskinner]

jmskinner, please tell your husband that you MUST open the camera and use it right now so that you can take copious pictures of him in case he should keel over tomorrow. Your next husband might want to see them. What is the use of a camera if not to take pictures of the holiday season? He is wrong, tell him I said so, but please do not tell him where to find me.

I made the husband come read this. He is fighting a migraine right now, otherwise I am sure he would have had some comment. Still haven't opened the camera.

Sorry to hear you had to buy a new washer. Great news that you saved some money on it though. We were fortunate enough to get all new appliances with our new home. Of course, remind me when I am waiting on the Whirlpool guy on Wednesday because the ice maker in the fridge isn't despensing ice anymore.

Well, got a couple of Christmas presents knocked out. Found Jacob's Star Wars AT-TE at Wal-Mart so I grabbed one since I haven't seen one in the stores in a couple of weeks. Kohl's had it on sale last night, and I ordered that one, but won't take the other back to Wal-Mart until I have the Kohls one in my hands. Don't think it will come through though because I haven't received a confirmation email on it, which normally you get those right away. The website shows they are filling the order.

Hope everyone had a great weekend!
Melissa

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

jmskinner, no worries. My washer was somewhat over 20 years old and being the sort I am I have the cash to afford to buy a new one. I am very lucky and I know it. Many need things that they cannot afford to buy. It is just no fun spending money on anything except DW.

Maybe your poor hubby is just hurting too much to have much Christmas spirit and when he feels better he will reconsider his thoughts?

I am a Star Wars fan as well, a bit more Star Trek but then I am older than your DS, much, much older! Sounds as if you are going to have a wonderful Christmas. Hope your shopping gets all done early so that YOU can enjoy the season as well.

SG

 

[Mom2Evie]

I am so tired! When does my weekend become a do nothing relaxing 2 days like my husband's are? Yesterday, I did some grocery shopping, attended a holiday open house at my Mary Kay lady's house, took DD to ta birthday paty at Chuck E Cheese (torture), headed over to Books A Million to window shop, went to Target to buy gifts for the Angel Tree then headed over to a friends house for hors d'ourves & chit-chat. Today, I took my DD to CCD, came home & mowed the grass/bagged leaves, assembled 3 white lighted deer for the front yard, dropped DD off at chrous practice, had 2 hours of dance/parade rehearsal, cooked dinner, cleaned the house up enough for the housekeeper to come tomorrow and put up the Christmas tree.
Yesterday, hubby slept, showered, watched football. Today, he slept, showered, watched football, picked up DD from chorus practice and then watched more football.

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

M2E, it will never happen and it gets even worse when they retire.

If young women knew what us older ones do they would never marry.

It is not just that women live longer but it seems longer.

Slightly Goofy

 

[wic0721]

I am so tired! When does my weekend become a do nothing relaxing 2 days like my husband's are? Yesterday, I did some grocery shopping, attended a holiday open house at my Mary Kay lady's house, took DD to ta birthday paty at Chuck E Cheese (torture), headed over to Books A Million to window shop, went to Target to buy gifts for the Angel Tree then headed over to a friends house for hors d'ourves & chit-chat. Today, I took my DD to CCD, came home & mowed the grass/bagged leaves, assembled 3 white lighted deer for the front yard, dropped DD off at chrous practice, had 2 hours of dance/parade rehearsal, cooked dinner, cleaned the house up enough for the housekeeper to come tomorrow and put up the Christmas tree.
Yesterday, hubby slept, showered, watched football. Today, he slept, showered, watched football, picked up DD from chorus practice and then watched more football.

I definately feel your pain Rie!

My husband's days off are now Sunday,Monday, Tuesday and every other Wednesday.....on his days off, he sleeps late (because Kellie and I are gone)sometimes he does some work in his garage, but he watches TV, goes to lunch with our old neighbor....generally goofs off for 3-4 days a week. My 2 days off consists of cleaning the house, doing laundry, grocery shopping, cooking.....IT'S JUST NOT FAIR!!!

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

Wic and Rie, I am older than you and have come to realize that we have been had.

Recently my husband was showing off for some of his family and complaining about my going off on vacation alone last year and spending HIS money. I told him that I had saved that money up through the years from MY money. He replied that since I had never earned a paycheck it was ALL his money.

My reply was that there is a difference between a wife and a housekeeper and if I am a housekeeper I want my back pay, with interest, and was turning in my two weeks notice.

I may never have earned a paycheck but I babysat to put fuel oil in the tank for heat, ran an at home business for over 20 years that paid for the food, eating out, vacations and other things, as well as run the house, did the yardwork, washed the car, maintained the house and vehicles, raised the children, etc. etc.

Much of the problem might be that we like things neat and clean and they do not so we do it all.

I say we strike, shall we meet at DW?

SG

 

[jmskinner]

M2E, it will never happen and it gets even worse when they retire.

If young women knew what us older ones do they would never marry.

It is not just that women live longer but it seems longer.

Slightly Goofy

Totally agree. I realize now that I am a SAHM the only difference is I don't work out of the home. I use to work all day and then come home and try to clean house, help the kiddo with his homework, etc. I will say I cook a lot more now. And I am in a much better mood most of the time. Even when I am picking up DH's socks from the floor!

 

[jmskinner]

Wic and Rie, I am older than you and have come to realize that we have been had.

Recently my husband was showing off for some of his family and complaining about my going off on vacation alone last year and spending HIS money. I told him that I had saved that money up through the years from MY money. He replied that since I had never earned a paycheck it was ALL his money.

My reply was that there is a difference between a wife and a housekeeper and if I am a housekeeper I want my back pay, with interest, and was turning in my two weeks notice.

I may never have earned a paycheck but I babysat to put fuel oil in the tank for heat, ran an at home business for over 20 years that paid for the food, eating out, vacations and other things, as well as run the house, did the yardwork, washed the car, maintained the house and vehicles, raised the children, etc. etc.

Much of the problem might be that we like things neat and clean and they do not so we do it all.

I say we strike, shall we meet at DW?

SG

I'm there, just give me a date and time!

Oops, sorry for the double post, you just beat me SG.

Melissa

 

[wic0721]

Wic and Rie, I am older than you and have come to realize that we have been had.

Recently my husband was showing off for some of his family and complaining about my going off on vacation alone last year and spending HIS money. I told him that I had saved that money up through the years from MY money. He replied that since I had never earned a paycheck it was ALL his money.

My reply was that there is a difference between a wife and a housekeeper and if I am a housekeeper I want my back pay, with interest, and was turning in my two weeks notice.

I may never have earned a paycheck but I babysat to put fuel oil in the tank for heat, ran an at home business for over 20 years that paid for the food, eating out, vacations and other things, as well as run the house, did the yardwork, washed the car, maintained the house and vehicles, raised the children, etc. etc.

Much of the problem might be that we like things neat and clean and they do not so we do it all.

I say we strike, shall we meet at DW?

SG

What a great comeback SG! Did you're husband have anything to say after that?

I'm all for striking!

And it looks like we maybe going back to Disney in September/October next year....my husband is hooked!

 

[Poohbear67]

Hey all,

Hope everyone is doing well and that all your Christmas DREAMS come true!!!!

Miss EVERYONE and lots of hugs and Pixie Dust for all of you !

Way to busy here, looks as if I will be heading up the volunteer coordinator for the Greyhound adoption of OH along with my many other hats that I wear its going to get very interesting.

Back to the grind stone talk with you all later!!

MERRY CHRISTMAS~!

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

jmskinner, I have been where you are as I enjoyed raising my kids and keeping house but now I am without a pension plan, no SS of my own, and totally dependent upon someone else. Not a good position. If women were the ones in control it would not be one bit better. It is not good to have such an imbalance of power in any relationship. I forgot to mention the lack of respect that homemakers garner as well. When you read about those who watch the soap operas and eat bon bons midday it is because that is the only bit of the day that they have to sit down. Just count up how many hours of work you put in a day and how many days a week.

WIC, Tom had no thoughts. He likes the situation, knows I cannot change it and does not care as long as he is well taken care of. My bil understands and is helpful when he can be. He is the one who gave me the chance to have my first vacation in nearly 40 years. I am hoping he will offer again. A gal can dream. Thank God for big houses, might be more work but at least I can find a corner to hide in occasionally.

Pooh, congratulations on the new opportunity. I know that is where you heart is so you are perfect for it and it is perfect for you. You will do much good.

I have to go clean the area around where the new washing machine goes. I am grateful. My mom did not have such conveniences. Even if I were the one who had to work and stash the money away to afford such things I am still lucky. Could be soooo much worse. My husband is far too lazy to hit me. At this stage of my life I might hit back though.

The Internet is my soap opera. I can grab a minute here and there to see what the world is like out there. People, real people!! And I do not have to cook, clean or pick up after any of you. Love it!

SG

 

[jmskinner]

Pooh, thanks for the well wishes. Sounds like you have a lot going on, but I know helping the Greyhounds will be very rewarding. I'm a dog lover myself.

SG, actually I am just now a SAHM. I have worked since I was 16 (I'm now 39), so I will have a little Social Security (if there is any by the time I am old enough) and still have a 401K from when I worked at BCBS of SC about 9 years ago. Of course I haven't looked to see how bad it is after the whole stock market mess.

My DH can be a real pain at times, but I can always call his mother and she will take my side. I actually have her on video at my wedding saying "I'll always take her side!"

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

JM, lol on the mother in law. I always said that my mil would take my part and my mom would take Tom's part cause neither one of them wanted us to break up and move back home.

SG

PS, we have had an ice storm here this morning. I did not make it across the street. I am not a Weeble.

 

[cherylp3]

SG: We rented clone wars this weekend.

 

[jmskinner]

SG, my DH is always asking my stepdad how much money it will take to take me back. My stepdad always gives my DH really great gifts also and my DH says it is a thank you for keeping me and not sending me back. MEN!!!

Ooooh, hate ice storms. Hope all is well and the electricity (did I spell that right, doesn't look right) stayed on.

Hey Cheryl, so did you like Clone Wars? My DS and DH watch the series every Friday night. Actually, they watched the movie Friday night before watching the new episode.

Ok, so I have DH Christmas present here, thinking of offering to give it to him if he will let me have my camera. I even told him he could give me the camera and wrap the other lens up, so then I would still have something under the tree. He didn't go for it. Again, shall I say it, MEN!!!!!

 

[Mom2Evie]

Totally agree. I realize now that I am a SAHM the only difference is I don't work out of the home.

I agree 100%. When a couple agrees that one of you will stay at home, it's a contract between the two that one brings in the paycheck and in return, the other does more around the house as their conribution. Both have value, but only one can be spent at the mall.

Recently my husband was showing off for some of his family and complaining about my going off on vacation alone last year and spending HIS money. I told him that I had saved that money up through the years from MY money. He replied that since I had never earned a paycheck it was ALL his money.


I say we strike, shall we meet at DW?

SG

if my husband had every seriously said something like that, the only strike would involve my hand on his face and his butt on the floor. I doubt I'd have even taken a full second to process the rudeness before my body reacted.

I definately feel your pain Rie!

My husband's days off are now Sunday,Monday, Tuesday and every other Wednesday.....on his days off, he sleeps late (because Kellie and I are gone)sometimes he does some work in his garage, but he watches TV, goes to lunch with our old neighbor....generally goofs off for 3-4 days a week. My 2 days off consists of cleaning the house, doing laundry, grocery shopping, cooking.....IT'S JUST NOT FAIR!!!

Even when I take a vacation day from work, I have to wake up when they do to get DD ready for school. I don't understand why the two of them can't make it without me for one solitary day! Never have I taken a day off work that didn't involve me accomplishing something either around the house or that one of them needed.

That strike is sounding better and better all the time.... I'm just not sure which one is sounding better: labor stoppage or physical violence.

Hey all,

Hope everyone is doing well and that all your Christmas DREAMS come true!!!!

Miss EVERYONE and lots of hugs and Pixie Dust for all of you !

MERRY CHRISTMAS~!

I miss chattin' with you, little lady. you need to come back around more often.

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

jmskinner, I would tell your husband and father that you could make it just fine on your own, thank you, and let them see how long before the laundry piled up and such as to whom would miss whom the most. Our electricity seldom goes out, cable is another matter but I have plenty of books to keep me entertained. It is all gone now. It is my nightmare that I would get caught out on the roads in an ice storm. I did not learn to drive until late in life. DH did not want me to learn so I snuck out to the school and took driver's training. Had to get the top grades, it would have been even more embarrassing if I had not.

Cheryl, did you like the movie? I used to be a huge science fiction fan. Asminov etc. They are major morality plays and take much from classic literature. Many give you something to think about also. Things written about often come true, many in my lifetime.

After I get my chores done I hope to have some time to work on some dvd's for some DIS friends this evening. Having to pore through all those delightful pictures and find some Disney music and check the videos of attractions to make sure they are good will be soooooo hard.

Keep warm gals and don't let them give you any guff. I promise you that you do not get treated any better or worse when you stop caring and it is sooo much less painful.

SG

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

Mom2Evie, you are a wise woman. I like the mall spending reference. What SAHM's do make it possible for everyone else to do what they do. We are the ones who enable our families to have more time to do their jobs without wearing themselves to a frazzle when they get home, help to raise children, ours or others and how many organizations would falter without those SAHM's and those who work outside the home who make the time to pitch in as much as they can. Granted there ARE some women who do not do a darned thing except shop and lunch but they are few and far between as are men who are total bums. I would knock my hubby on his butt but he does not have one nor the good sense to understand why I did so. Not worth the effort.

There is a classic play where the women went on strike. They just did not have DW to do so at in those days.

Hoping my bil is kind and offers me another vacation this year. I have plans. Slow and relaxing plans.

SG

 

[Kristineamb]

Wow, I've missed A LOT today...I was subbing for my DS third grade teacher (he was in her class 2 years ago.) Wonderful woman, wonderful class, great day!
I can't complain too much about DH...he's pretty great overall...he has his quirks but I have learned to deal with them over the years (we've been married for over 12 years ) In addition to being the bread winner (I taught high school English for 4 years before DS was born) he helps around the house (gets in my way most of the time or criticizes how I've done something...remember the stuffing on Thanksgiving ) but he doesn't object (he'll make a few snide remarks now and then) to my Diva lunches, shopping expeditions or travels...Life is Good

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

Diva K, you are a brave woman. I teach but on my terms. I have always refused to substitute teach. I have done so a couple of times, for free, in an emergency but that was for a very small class where I knew most of the students. How did it go for you?

Hooray for picking a good guy! Divas do!

SG