"Selfish Sister" Update

[buckeyebill1995]

PROUD OF YOU! I too have been thinking about you and are glad to hear they turned out for the best, even if it is disappointing your sister couldn't see the hypocricy in her words and actions. Enjoy your trip guilt free!!!

 

[Belle4mygrl]

your sister sounds a bit immature....but when your husband did the thing with the carpet bill, I think it was stooping to her level.

as my husband always says, friends are really the most important people in our lives because we choose them. Our family, we have no choice.

I am kindly disagreeing. IMHO, making her responsible for damage her animal caused is . Although, you may never see the $$ at least she will know she is being held accountable and must act like an adult.

Have a magical time.

 

[bellebud]

you totally did the right thing. your sis may or may not ever realize how self centered she is - but it's not your problem. your adult relationship with her will now be what an adult relationship *should* be, both parties being independent of each other. she was dependent on you way too much, and cutting the cord may be hard (for you, her and possibly your family - I can imagine you might get some comments from your mom), but it's the right thing to do. I do feel sorry for your niece, not for the disney thing, but because of her mother's behavior. but what can you do? You obviously love her and include her when you can, but your first and most important responsibility is to your own kids.

And don't think twice about taking all your kids disney - like you said, you live day to day with all of them, you know exactly how your family works. you're used to it - disney will be wonderful!! i hope you have a great time!

 

[mickeyluvr004]

Good for you, my jaw dropped when I read that she deserved to go to the beach, what about you???? you took her in when she needed a place to stay, that is soooo rude, maybe she should have offered to watch your kids so that you could go to the beach alone I got a good laugh at what your husband did good for him Go and have a good time. when are you going?? have a great time and don't ever think that you were ever wrong in your decision.

 

[Nie0214]

You did awesome for standing up for your family! Hopefully she comes to realize in time that you weren't being out of line in the slightest.

She responded with UMMMM excuse me but I think I deserve to have some fun and it's none of your business what I do with my money. To which I responded and it's none of yours what I do with mine and we really haven't spoken much since.

Don't you just love when someone puts their foot in their mouth and can't admit it works both ways?

 

[jamieT]

Any backlash from mom yet?

 

[Goobergal99]

your sister sounds a bit immature....but when your husband did the thing with the carpet bill, I think it was stooping to her level.

as my husband always says, friends are really the most important people in our lives because we choose them. Our family, we have no choice.

I must have gotten really lucky because my family are great! and over the years my friends have become sort of disposable... we just grew apart and I talk to very few of them

 

[tina_la]

Yea good you! I have read both your threads and it sounds like you won in all accounts in the end. She now has to be more responsible and you don't have the additional stress ( or extra work) of her in your house. She used this situation as a excuse to move in with BF and wouldn't be surprised if she moves back in with you again. Hopefully for your family that doesn't happen though.

I know that it's nice when you can be backed up in bad situations and I hope you felt that way with everyone's responces. You sound like a great sister, mom, and wife and seemed to really try to show everyone's side. You also TRIED to work it out with your sister but she is still to much on her high horse right now. She should at least respect what you have done for her and show some gratitude even if she was right (which she wasn't)!

As a fellow Mom who takes her kids everywhere Have a GREAT TRIP! Congrats on #5.

Give DH a big hug for all the cr@p he has had to put up with from sis.

 

[TotalSnowWhite]

Good for you!! I'm involved in a similar (about three years running now) situation. Immaturity and alcoholism in our case. I, however, did end up taking my niece to WDW in May, and she had an incredible time. Sad that her mom wasn't able to see her child's face light up during "a special birthday breakfast in the castle in her honor," or any of the other unrecreatable memories and moments of a first trip to Disney, but some people just don't realize...
Hope your sister comes around, though. Maybe the time apart will give her time to reevaluate.
Again, way to go!!

 

[PEANUT1]

I must have gotten really lucky because my family are great! and over the years my friends have become sort of disposable... we just grew apart and I talk to very few of them

I am really close to my family too, I'm just saying that if we had the choice to choose our family, our family might look a llittle different.
The OP probably wouldn't even be friends with someone like her sister, but since she is her sister she loves her (even though she is an ungrateful you know what).

 

[Goobergal99]

I am really close to my family too, I'm just saying that if we had the choice to choose our family, our family might look a llittle different.
The OP probably wouldn't even be friends with someone like her sister, but since she is her sister she loves her (even though she is an ungrateful you know what).

Yea... I think my DH would agree strongly with this

 

[labdogs42]

Have a blast on that trip! glad the sister moved out. She sounds like a nutcase.

 

[badblackpug]

I wonder who your sister will sponge off when the boyfriend gets sick of her and puts her out?

 

[missj1975]

Glad to hear your sister moved out. Don't let her pressure you. You did the right thing, have fun on your trip.

 

[vcgirl925]

You did the right thing. She is the one being selfish. I'm sorry that you and your sister aren't on speaking terms now. But hopefully with time things will smooth over.

 

[RMulieri]

Good for you....

 

[crisi]

your sister sounds a bit immature....but when your husband did the thing with the carpet bill, I think it was stooping to her level.

as my husband always says, friends are really the most important people in our lives because we choose them. Our family, we have no choice.

Nah, a page from her book would have been to insist on keeping the cat, because his kids had gotten attached to it, then present her with the carpet bill, plus the vet bills for the next three years (its really your cat).