Self Defense Classes?

[Head_in_the_clouds]

Hi everyone, just wondered if any of you have ever went to a self defense class, especially the ladies and if you think it is worth going. I'm feeling a bit vulnerable as I seem to attract creepy guys like a magnet and I really am getting bl**dy sick of it. I've been told alot "oh you're like a little doll" as I'm only 5"2 and a real girly girl and I do feel that I should learn to protect and defend myself, it just seems sensible and I think I'd be a lot more confident if I had some training. Is anyone a regular at a class? Do you think I would have to go for something like karate or are there special classes for women? I really don't know where to start! Also, I'm scared that I would get to the class and they would beat me up or something because I'm honestly SUCH a girl ! I think I'd feel a bit daft going in, but honestly part of me feels it has to be done, I really don't want to feel vulnerable anymore .

 

[natalielongstaff]

Ive never tried one but i would think your local leisure centre would be a good place to ask about classes

 

[mumloveseeyore]

sounds a bit daft but your local police station/crime prevention officer may be able to recommend a class.

 

[Head_in_the_clouds]

Thank you both . I will try and find out like you've recommended. I'm wondering if some of my friends would like to go too, I think it would be a fun thing to do with the girls!

 

[wifey]

I think contacting your local leisure centre is a good place to start or ask your community police officer (if you have one ) about them.

This time of year seems to bring out all the creeps.. we have a casual at work who last Friday insisted on going down on all fours in the canteen and demanded to sniff the women's feet how creepy is that Keep your fetishes to your self man. Then he went on to sneak up behind people and shout stupid questions right in people's ears YUCK Such a freak!! Then to just to be even odder he's been sticking his nose in other work areas he has no business being in looking for things (allegedly) but I think he's seeing which women work where and when.
He really rings the alarm bells in my head, the last time I knew someone that creepy he was definitely a case for the psychiatric ward and ended up moving away after some serious talks about his behaviour. I wonder how long it will take the bosses to do anything serious about him they keep shuffling him from work area to work area but he creeps out everyone.. even the men. Personally if I was a boss I would be asking Manpower what they thought they were doing sending such a creep who is so inappropriate and unpleasant.
Thank goodness he's not a permanent member of staff and doesn't know anything about me (I refuse to talk to him about my personal life in any way) or I would be extremely worried about him.

Get those lessons booked OR find a Karate class or something similar at least you'll have some skills to defend yourself with

 

[Head_in_the_clouds]

Totally know what you mean Wifey, he sounds like a right weirdo, why did they hire him? It is this time of year, you are right. I have posted before about a guy who was always making me feel uncomfortable and in the past I did have a stalker but the past two nights really got me down, at my christmas party on wednesday I found out the son of a man I work with who is creepy had told everyone (including his girlfriend ) that he wanted to get me as drunk as possible so he could take advantage of me, luckily I don't drink and he gives me the creeps so there is no way I would trust him but to make matters worse he is 20 years older than me and a soldier so how the heck would I have been able to defend myself, he did try to kiss me when he was drunk but I managed to back away luckily, then last night I was singing at my church carol service and this other guy (again at least 20 years older than me) started following me asking me strange questions (like what time do I usually go to church etc, as if he was trying to figure out my routine) and making me feel very uncomfortable just standing there staring, luckily my mum was there and she also found him very creepy and she made sure he didn't get too close as he reminded both of us of the guy who stalked me when I was younger and she feels guilty about that because she let it get out of hand before she told him to leave me alone (I was still at school when it first started). It makes me feel crap though. Like there is something wrong with me. I can honestly say, I don't do anything to encourage these men at all and I'm not tarty or anything. It does put me off men in a way and then at the same time I wish I had a lovely strong boyfriend to protect me from these weirdos! So, I have come to the conclusion I must be throwing off a vulnerable vibe and so I want to learn to protect myself because honestly, at the moment, I wouldn't have a clue what to do. Bring on deadly assassin Natalie thats what I say, I want to be like Uma Thurman in Kill Bill !

 

[wifey]

Keep your schedule private, get some pepper spray and a personal attack alarm and sort out some lessons you'll feel much better. Make it clear that you will not tolerate any inappropriate behaviour or comments at work and if you can tell your manager about it. We have a policy if Dignity and Respect At Work, no-one should have to tolerate awful comments from other work colleagues whether that's at work or at the office Christmas Party you are all there to work as equals not as a sex objects. Do you have a union or a rep? If you do mention it to them they may be able to give you more help too.Take control and be firm you'll feel better and get more respect too. Don't give personal information to any people you don't trust. Change your body language to reflect your professional standing and you'll be able to see other peoples attitudes change towards you too. Hopefully this will all help you gain more confidence to deal with these wallies. Hope you get sorted out and best wishes for 2010