scared...

[eeyore.luver<3]

im really nervous about something really important to me, and i dont know who else to tell about it...


my dad and his gf have been going out for 10 years and i absolutely DESPISE her!!!!!! too many reasons to list


anyway, he wants me to go to this phillies game on friday with her work...i dont wanna go cuz i hate her and baseball and, frankly, the sight of them together makes me mad and depressed and, well, you get the picture..


plus, i had a huge sleepover planned tht night, so i told him this and he said
"well, cancel it! this is a veyr important night for me!" (he got really mad)

all this adds to the fact that i am very scared and worried, this is what im thinking:

wht if he asks her to marry him? idk y else he wud say it was so important...

wht shud i do? talk to him? ignore it? screw him and have my s.o anyway?


HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Tinky89]

That is really a tough situation you are in. The problem is that I see is he is your Dad and if it were me I would try and do anything to try and make him happy. I know it will be hard to except being there with his GF , but that is someone your Dad really likes for some reason or another. I have never had to go through anything like this, cuz both my parents are together so I am just giving you my honest opinion and that is all.

I just know if it was me I would set aside my plans for another day so I could make my dad happy. If he does ask her to marry him that is something that is very special to him even though you don't approve of it. I hope I am not stepping over my boundaries by saying this, but it is just how I feel.

 

[EeyoreFan1]

I'd run away, but I don't suggest doing that.

 

[Arielfn93]

Have you told him that you dont like this person?
My dad keeps asking my sisters and I if it is ok if he goes out with this one girl, and that if we dont like her he will give her up for us.

For me, I want my dad to be happy and to have a mom really. Hopefully you get used to her if he marries her.

I'm sorry

 

[eeyore.luver<3]

thnx for the responses so far...just a few quick updates:

1: nobody is overstepping any boundaries, i want completely honest opinions and advice
2: yes, ive told him i dont like her many times and in many ways (talking, letters, arguments, even POEMS! he always says he gets is...and yet.......)
3: i want him to be happy...i just feel likehe cud do so much better


thnx again!

 

[DisGirlAllie]

thnx for the responses so far...just a few quick updates:

1: nobody is overstepping any boundaries, i want completely honest opinions and advice
2: yes, ive told him i dont like her many times and in many ways (talking, letters, arguments, even POEMS! he always says he gets is...and yet.......)
3: i want him to be happy...i just feel likehe cud do so much better


thnx again!

I feel your pain. My dad's gf and her two kids live with us. I hate her! Too many reasons to list also.

You wanna know what I say?
I say cancel your sleepover. You want your dad to be happy right? Besides you will only be there for two three hours tops. If he does porpose (sp?) PM me.

 

[KingdomKeepers21]

My advice...
Just don't pull dumb stuff like the people in movies. Two things:
1. Are you at the point where you would push this girl over a cliff if you got the chance?
and
2. How long has your dad been seeing this woman?

I'm absoloutely serious

 

[eeyore.luver<3]

My advice...
Just don't pull dumb stuff like the people in movies. Two things:
1. Are you at the point where you would push this girl over a cliff if you got the chance?
and
2. How long has your dad been seeing this woman?

I'm absoloutely serious

1: im not really into violence...but i might b at the point where if he marries this woman i will never speak to him again...

2: 10 years and counting (aka: WAYYYYYY too long!!!!!)

i just wish he wud understand tht its not just hate because my parents will never get back together, its hate because i really HATE her...

 

[KingdomKeepers21]

I didn't mean literaly but yeah. K. Have you told him that it's not because he and your mom won't get back together. My best friend Has two dads and one mom, but he doesn't really mind. You could tell your dad that you won't speak to him. If he truly doesn't care then you know he's gonna propose, cause he's past the point of caring. This is truly terrible and I'm sorry if it does happen. If he does care, he'll listen to you. If it were me, I'd tell him that you want to talk to him about it, and not just a short talk. Tell him that you really want to have a Father to Child Chat. If he shrugs you off, tell him it is important. Make it impossible to forget. You want him to listen, so tell him everything. If he tries to make an excuse for leaving, do not let him go. Tell him what's going on now is more important. Maybe you two can come to terms, and he can possible ask his GF to change her ways, and she may become at least tolerable. To me it sounds like he already hit the point of no return. He may not propose to her yet, But it's likely he will at one time or another. I'm sorry. I hope my advice helps, even if only a little bit

 

[eeyore.luver<3]

I didn't mean literaly but yeah. K. Have you told him that it's not because he and your mom won't get back together. My best friend Has two dads and one mom, but he doesn't really mind. You could tell your dad that you won't speak to him. If he truly doesn't care then you know he's gonna propose, cause he's past the point of caring. This is truly terrible and I'm sorry if it does happen. If he does care, he'll listen to you. If it were me, I'd tell him that you want to talk to him about it, and not just a short talk. Tell him that you really want to have a Father to Child Chat. If he shrugs you off, tell him it is important. Make it impossible to forget. You want him to listen, so tell him everything. If he tries to make an excuse for leaving, do not let him go. Tell him what's going on now is more important. Maybe you two can come to terms, and he can possible ask his GF to change her ways, and she may become at least tolerable. To me it sounds like he already hit the point of no return. He may not propose to her yet, But it's likely he will at one time or another. I'm sorry. I hope my advice helps, even if only a little bit

it helps a lot...thanks

 

[KingdomKeepers21]

NP. Glad I could help! Good Luck!