Scared- Part 2- DD got another note - update Pg 5 link

[lillygator]

I have to agree with most posters. Karen - I don't think anyone is judging you at all. We are all scared and concerned for you, DD and the rest of your family. That said, I really think the school should be the last to be involved at this point. It sounds like this is no ordinary "criminal" you all are dealing with.

Big hugs to you, dd and the rest of your family and prayers that it will all be brought to the light very soon!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

{HUGS} to you...sounds like an adult at this point. It is very frightening. I hope this sucker gets caught.

 

[snowball22]

Hugs!!! Do you think it could be the janitor or a parent volunteer? Can the police run a background on the janitor? Do you know if there have been parent volunteers in the school on the days dd has gotten the note? Is there any sort of pattern developing on the days that she has received the notes like timing, day of the week or so forth?

 

[laura001]

Wow! I can't believe this is starting all over again....you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Let's pray they catch this moron quickly.

 

[eeyore kelly]

I am sure the phase "I'm watching you" might be used a lot but I also remeber it being used in a teenage stalking movie from the 80's. I don't remember much from the movie, but I do remember the victim receiving notes that said I'm watching you.

 

[Disney_1derland]

This is indeed very disturbing. Please keep us updated, you are in my thoughts.

 

[luv2nascar]

prayers and good wishes to your family. It is an aweful situation your daughter is in. I hope they are caught soon.

 

[MagicKingdom05]

It sounds like to me that you know what your going to do, so please make sure that if the principle doesn't have the answers you want or need that you go back to the police asap.

 

[Serena]

I'm so sorry. I was hoping this was all over. I hope they catch whoever is doing this.

 

[AnaheimGirl]

Oh no! I too, had hoped/assumed that this had stopped for good.

I hope that the police can find out who it is and that person can be dealt with appropriately.

 

[Southern4sure]

I to followed the last thread and thought it was all over. I can understand some of your actions at the time when a child was thought to be behind the notes. It is obvious and you mentioned it too that you believe it is an adult.
I cannot imagine a child of this age pulling off something like this.

I'm not judging you BUT what do you expect the school to accomplish between the hours of 8-12 on Monday? Miraculously find the perpetrator? Forget the school, forget how others will look at/judge you, forget everything but your daughters safety and take action through the police who are trained to get this solved. Enough time has passed and not to sound harsh but it does not matter that you are at the school all day. That doesn't solve anything either. There is not a chance in h*ll I would rely on any school to solve this. As a mother I just cannot fathom waiting and trusting the school over something of this nature. I know I would handle things differently if this was happening to one of my children. I strongly suggest going to the police now so they can be at the school first thing Monday morning and catch whoever is doing this off guard. The element of surprise may hold the key to this situation.

I wish you and your daughter well and pray for a quick and happy ending.

 

[jlaspoq]

I am so sorry to hear this is starting up again - I followed most of the first thread from almost your very first post. You and your family are in my prayers - especially your DD. I am glad the new principal is more responsive than the last one. You know this situation better than any of us and will continue to do what's right for you and your family. Hugs to you - being a mom can be hard sometimes for any of us, but this is way more than hard. Hang in there.

 

[mum4jenn]

I really wish they would set up a hidden camera and not even let the teacher know that it is in there. I really feel that the teacher mught be involved even though you said before she is very concerned. Teachers can put on a believable act too!! But at any rate if the adults do not know the camera is there it is bound to determine who is behind this.

 

[SillyMe]

This has to be terrifying for you, your family and your daughter. I'm in agreement with the suggestion of going to the police. It's been going on for too long now and if it's possible that it's an adult, the police need to find out who it is.

 

[HonestAbe]

This is a terrible thing you are going through. If a genuine virtual hug and show of support is all you need right now, you have mine and you should stop reading this post RIGHT HERE.

But hugs and feel goods aren't going to help you truly right now are they????

Although I agree with the observations that you need to not wait any longer and call the police and call local media if your escalation doesn't get you results (okay I threw that last part in...) I would also offer that I used to teach as did my wife and there is NOTHING they teach you to deal with this situation. The principal and administration are not going to help you the way you need. If it's really that serious the note should have been treated like a crime scene and the police contacted immediately. Yeah - this is hard to hear but I really think you need to face the reality that waiting for something to happen is certainly not the best course of action and only empowers the person intimidating you, your daughter and your DH. You are afraid, any person on this board will treat you with respect you deserve but you have to take action other then hanging out in the school. I can tell you too that if this is a prank by some group of young boys you're being there isnt scaring them. They are laughing at you and your daughter and this is only encouraging them. However, if you hire a body guard for a day or week (off duty copy?) and THEY are big and intimidating (even a mean looking Dad will suffice) and they sit in the class that will make them think again. Please take this advice seriously. Mom's really arent a threat to a young boy or group of young boys because they arent smart or wise enough to realize how far Mom will truly go. But once they get a little older they learn not to mess with Mom. But IMHO you are only encouraging them.

But God help the person doing this if it is not a prank. Because if you have friends like Honest Abe in your circle of friends where you live, he and his pals would have something to say to this person in the ol' woodshed behind the house.

 

[RUDisney]

I really wish they would set up a hidden camera and not even let the teacher know that it is in there. I really feel that the teacher mught be involved even though you said before she is very concerned. Teachers can put on a believable act too!! But at any rate if the adults do not know the camera is there it is bound to determine who is behind this.

I agree with this. My office has a bunch of servers in it with which someone was coming in after hours and monkeying. We got a web cam and can now view everything that goes on at night. The thing is, the person whom I thought was doing it left and nothing has happened since. Coincidence? Maybe. Do I keep the hidden camera in place? Absolutely! It was a very good $80 investment IMO.

I'm praying for your family. I hope this ends quickly!

 

[belle_of_the_ball]

scary for your DD any you.

It sounds like an adult..with free time and a sick mind.

Call the police, they need to work with the school to figure this out, its not just the one side, they have to work as a team. I dont know if they did last time, but you and your DH, the school, and the police need to work to find the person.

but hugs.. and I will be behind you if you find the person.

If they think its funny its really not to anybody but them.

 

[aprilgail2]

Please forget about letting the school do anything and go right to the police...after the second time it happened I would have had the police down at the school and been bugging them until they got moving on it. I really think you are wasting time by letting the school monkey around with the whle thing......I hope its all over soon!

 

[lilostitch]

Wow,

I saw this thread, then after reading a few posts, went back to the orginal thread, read every post, and then finished reading this thread.

Karen, I have nothing but support and empathy for your situation.

I am an elementary counselor in the states, and some of you posters would be SHOCKED to know some of the things kids have written. I wouldn't rule out a student, a student with help, OR an adult. I once had a 3rd grader who was receiving some VERY sexually explicit letters and threats. She was this cute little pixie of a girl, so sweet. It turned out SHE WROTE THE NOTES TO HERSELF! I AM in NO WAY implying that is what is happening here, I'm just making the point that it is quite possible that a student did do this. EVERYONE is a suspect at this point.

I know you have some higher ups beyond your DD's school helping. Don't forget that their lawyers advise them to keep the school districts' best interests, not your DDs. I work in a middle-upper class elementary school in the suburbs, and we had a HORRIBLE and SHOCKING incident happen at school that virtually no one in my school knows about. Quite honestly, I wouldn't know about it if the mother of the child involved didn't contact us (the counselors) first. Yes, the matter was handled in the courts and within the school district (not to MY satisfaction), but those within our school who knew (probably less than 5 people, the teacher of the students involved still doesn't know) were threatened with our jobs and lawsuits if we talked about it again. I'm not saying the higher ups don't care about your DD, their interests are just above hers, even if the people within her school want your DDs interests to be #1, they are bound to do what the higher ups decide.

I hope you have some outside assistance. Even though you probably have NO INTENTION of suing the schools (it doesn't seem like it based on your previous posts), it wouldn't hurt to bring in a lawyer when you talk to them. Not as a threat, just someone who can give you sound advice and who has YOUR best interests at heart. Just a thought.

I liked the nanny cam suggestion. I googled nanny cam and there are quite a few out there, very little ones that you could put on your daughter's backpack that are disguised as other things (a pin or something). I wouldn't even tell the school I was doing this (one reason being because it could be a staff member doing this).

GOOD LUCK to you and your family. More hugs and prayers for you all

 

[ItsonlyExperiment626]

I also followed your other post and am sorry it hasn't ended. I personally think it has gone far too long to wait another day to call the police. I don't see what else more the school can do for you other than transfer your dd to another school. At least if police were called, they could try and get fingerprints off the note. They may even post an officer at the school.