Scared- Part 2- DD got another note - update Pg 5 link

[laurie31]

Wow, I was so hoping this was over for you. I have no advice or thoughts; just continuing to keep you and your daughter in our thoughts.

My sentiments as well.

Laurie

 

[Tigger&Belle]

As I've said before I'm also in the "adult" camp. Seems that a child would have talked to someone or slipped up in another way.

I hope you go to the police and that this is solved soon.

 

[Tantor]

I followed the other thread and was hoping this was over. One thing I do not understand, and I mean no disrespect...but, WHY on earth are you waiting for the school to give you answers? What answers can they come up with if they do not know who is doing this?

At this point, I would assume this is a serious threat (by an adult) and go directly to the police. I see zero reason to play around with this an expect action from the school, this is a POLICE issue.

I am not trying to be harsh, I just do not think at this point you should leave this to people who are not used to dealing with criminals. (always better safe than sorry)

We are giving them a chance . She will not be in ANY danger as I am in the school. If we talk to the police the will put it on the report and not do anything till Monday anyways. This new principal is very good and We are giving them till MONDAY at noon. We want to see what they will do. I think that is reasonable.

 

[Steamboat Marti]

I am so sorry for you, your family and especially your daughter. I was so hopeful that it had worked itself out. Have you let your daughter talk to somebody in a professional sense? I think it may be helpful for her to voice her emotions... just a thought.

Meanwhile, I wish I could help more - but here's a hug. I really wish I could help more.

 

[poohandwendy]

We are giving them a chance . She will not be in ANY danger as I am in the school. If we talk to the police the will put it on the report and not do anything till Monday anyways. This new principal is very good and We are giving them till MONDAY at noon. We want to see what they will do. I think that is reasonable.

I guess I just do not understand what you mean by giving them a chance? Why do they need a chance? (I mean, is it some sort of insult to go to the police, or something?) I would think they would welcome the police resources. And what can they do that they already haven't been doing? (especially by monday)

With the history of the other notes and then it stopping, I think it is foolish to treat this as a school issue. The notes are threatening, that is a crime...young or old.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I agree with this last post!

 

[tiggersmom2]

I guess I just do not understand what you mean by giving them a chance? Why do they need a chance? (I mean, is it some sort of insult to go to the police, or something?) I would think they would welcome the police resources. And what can they do that they already haven't been doing? (especially by monday)

With the history of the other notes and then it stopping, I think it is foolish to treat this as a school issue. The notes are threatening, that is a crime...young or old.

ITA I wouldn't expect my children's school to have the knowledge or resources that are needed to investigate a crime - JMO.

 

[ksjayhawks]

Just a thought---do you suppose that if the person doing this is an adult, that maybe they aren't after your dd, but are doing this to get to you and/or your husband? Have you considered this angle?

 

[palmtreegirl]

The school removed the principal over this but they didn't call the cops?

 

[Tantor]

There is a police report already from before. We are waiting till Monday noon and then it's off to the police and higher ups. Believe me we will get this dealt with.
Nothing will be dealt with over the weekend. The Superinteent will have the info by Monday morning. Again I AM IN THE SCHOOL.
Please I need hugs not judging.

 

[poohandwendy]

I am not judging, I am not understanding what you mean when you talk about giving the school a chance.

 

[dis ms.]

There is a police report already from before. We are waiting till Monday noon and then it's off to the police and higher ups. Believe me we will get this dealt with.
Nothing will be dealt with over the weekend. The Superinteent will have the info by Monday morning. Again I AM IN THE SCHOOL.
Please I need hugs not judging.

I don't think people are trying to judge you, it's just that this situation--as you have described it--is criminal. The police should be involved now.

As a parent, I have a hard time understanding why the school is getting another chance to deal with this. I mean, I doubt this person is some highly skilled criminal, yet the school hasn't been able to identify the lunatic? It's not as if this person is leaving notes all over the place. The school knows who the target is (your DD) and where notes have been left in the past. How hard can it be to catch someone doing the same thing repeatedly in broad daylight?

Yeah, it's time for the police to take over.

 

[LvsTnk]

There is a police report already from before. We are waiting till Monday noon and then it's off to the police and higher ups. Believe me we will get this dealt with.
Nothing will be dealt with over the weekend. The Superinteent will have the info by Monday morning. Again I AM IN THE SCHOOL.
Please I need hugs not judging.

I don't want to scare or judge you either, but if it is an adult YOU need to be careful as well. What if as another poster suggested it is to get at you not your DD. Please be safe and get the police involved ASAP and of course lots of "s

 

[mudnuri]

I havent read all the replies, and I hope this doesnt come across the wrong way....but...

to hell with the school. You have already given them the chance to fix this, or stop this or find out who it was. This is a job for the police. There is NO way I would give them any more time to solve this....

I'd be contacting the police myself, even if DH didnt want me too...

***disclaimer** so I dont get flamed...this is only my opinion, the opinion of myself, and noone else. I understand this is not the only solution, I'm only offering this as an opinion...and again...MY opinion

Brandy

 

[Sparx]

Just a thought---do you suppose that if the person doing this is an adult, that maybe they aren't after your dd, but are doing this to get to you and/or your husband? Have you considered this angle?

I was thinking about this. I thought it might be an adult from the last thread too.

I am so sorry that you all are going through this again. keep your dd safe.

 

[JESW]

SO sorry that your family is going through this.

Have the other teachers seen the notes so they can check for handwriting? If it is one of the children maybe that childs teacher would recognize the handwriting?

But I am also thinking it is an adult since a child would most likely have messed up or bragged to someone who would have told by now.

Hugs to your family and hopes that it is all over soon!

Jill

 

[Shutterbug]

My first thought was an adult also. Could it be a janitor? A teacher from a nearby room? Teacher's aide?

My thoughts exactly. Right now I would place no one above suspicion.


Hugs to you!

 

[Huggles]

I was so happy for you and your family that this seemed to have been resolved. You are doing everything you consider appropriate and, as you are the people concerned, you know best.
Here's hoping that you have a swift and satisfactory outcome to this and that your DD can get back to a trouble free education without having to look over her shoulder all the time.

 

[RitaZ.]

Tantor, I don't think people are judging you, I think they are very concerned for your DD and you. Often times when one is in the middle of a problem, we tend to lose objectivity. The way I see it, the school and administration have done all they can at this point. Schools and administrators aren't "equipped" to handle this type of thing, let the authorities do their job. It's time to contact the police and let them take charge of the situation.

Since 9/11, all public schools in our county have a police officer on campus, a real police officer from our city. If this had happened here, the police would have already stepped in, whether the parents called them or not.

The person writing the notes may have no intention of hurting your DD or you, but may just be getting a kick out of knowing how much this must be frightening your DD and you. Whatever it may be, just call the police today. You'll have some peace of mind knowing that you've done everything within your power to get to the bottom of this.

Again, I hope there is an end to this mess very soon.

 

[barkley]

i just think the police are better suited to profile this type of person-it may never occur to the school to investigate someone obscure connection with them that provides them some ability to go largly unnoticed on campus.

in northern california there was a case wherein a number of young girls received (separate and apart several girls over a period of years) via u.s. mail odd, somewhat sexual personal notes and birthday cards from an unknown source. schools looked into and could'nt find a source, schools in the district worked together and were at a loss. when the police were finaly called in and gathered all of the information they made a determination rather quickly. all were traced to an employee of the social security administration-he happened to screen the area applications for death benefits to be issued to a minor child. the sicko would look for young girls in his "preferred age range" and geographical location figuring with no dad in the picture and a mom in mourning he might get some type of relationship going with the girls.

the school officials conceded they should have contacted police authorities much sooner.

no one's judging-just concerned.