Sad wake-up call for DH

[Darsa]

The day before yesterday I got a message on Facebook, from one of the wives of DH's best friends from high school (they're all now 37-38 years old). She was making sure everyone knew that one of their best friends, one of "the circle", passed away from a massive heart attack that morning.

Until then, the boys (okay, men) had not really "had time" to actually see one another; they all have families, busy lives, etc. The three remaining had a long conversation yesterday, and all three of them have decided that this is the wake-up call they needed, to stay in touch with friends because you never know what's going to happen. Bob had some serious health issues, but his heart wasn't one of them (that we knew of), so this was a major surprise to us. He was also married a few years ago, and had step-children that he adored; we will be meeting them for the first time at the funeral on Sunday. He sang at our wedding; I'm thinking I might try to track down our wedding video and bring it along, in case they'd like to play it.

I'm thinking that after all of this is over, I might see if I can't look up some of my own high school friends, and hopefully be able to see how they're doing. The last time I talked to any of them, I hadn't yet gotten pregnant with DD14.

It's sad, to me, that something like this is what it takes to get old friends back together. Hopefully they can all stay in touch, even if it's through Facebook or something similar.

Rest In Peace, Bob.

 

[DawnM]

I am sorry for your loss.

I am so fortunate to have a very close knit group of us from high school who still stay in touch and I talk to my 3 best friends from high school at least a few times a month. We are just a tight group.

Anyway, best wishes in reconnecting and sorry this happened.

Dawn

 

[MushyMushy]

That's what happened with my circle of friends last year. One of our best friends died, and we've all come together in ways I'd never imagined.

I think it's so easy to get wrapped up in our day-to-day activities and our kids' social lives that we forget how important our own social lives can be to us.

 

[mom2travel]

sorry for your/DH's loss and prayers for Bob's family and friends through this difficult time. sometimes it takes a bad thing to make you see and/or appreciate the good

 

[sbell111]

While I agree with the premise of being there for your friends, it is only fair to mention that those people that you haven't even spoke to in years and years are not really 'friends'.

It's kind of like those boxes that never get unpacked after you move. That junk need not be kept.

Imagine that you have a backpack and you put all of your relationships inside...

 

[Sonya]

Our class is burying one of our own who died from cancer tomorrow. We have had deaths before, but this is the first one since we have all reconnected. Facebook is wonderful. It let us all connect and find out where everyone is and who had passed, etc.
The PP is kind of right, alot of these people are not friends, just people I went to school with and like. But still, you feel sorry every time someone dies. And yours sounds like at one time Bob was a very close friend. I'm sorry.

 

[mlittig]

I am so sorry for your loss and especially for Bob's family

 

[cheermom1]

So sorry for your loss

we had something like that happen to us but it was 13 years ago when we were still very young early 20's..we lost one of best friends in a car crash. we now have stayed in touch ever since then..we have a lot of us...

hugs to you and their families

 

[bumbershoot]

I'm sorry for your hubby's loss....


Friends I had in high school started dying while IN high school. Then after (heart attack at about 22). Early!

While I agree with the premise of being there for your friends, it is only fair to mention that those people that you haven't even spoke to in years and years are not really 'friends'.

Yeah, I really disagree. I have friendships that can endure years of almost no contact. Then we see each other and it's like we never left each other's side. Love those friendships; they are actually my favorites. Better than the friends that have to talk to you every week in order to feel that you're their friend!

 

[Evil Genius]

OP I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. My you and your husband find comfort in the fond memories you have.

How sympathetic of you Sbell

While I agree with the premise of being there for your friends, it is only fair to mention that those people that you haven't even spoke to in years and years are not really 'friends'.

It's kind of like those boxes that never get unpacked after you move. That junk need not be kept.

Imagine that you have a backpack and you put all of your relationships inside...

 

[Sandy V.]

While I agree with the premise of being there for your friends, it is only fair to mention that those people that you haven't even spoke to in years and years are not really 'friends'.

It's kind of like those boxes that never get unpacked after you move. That junk need not be kept.

Imagine that you have a backpack and you put all of your relationships inside...

And just WHY did you need to mention it? Guess I'm not seeing much purpose myself. The family is grieving, and you felt the need to snark? More I would say, but better that I don't . . .

OP, my condolences to you and your family.

 

[cheermom1]

While I agree with the premise of being there for your friends, it is only fair to mention that those people that you haven't even spoke to in years and years are not really 'friends'.

It's kind of like those boxes that never get unpacked after you move. That junk need not be kept.

Imagine that you have a backpack and you put all of your relationships inside...

I so disagree with you, I have friends that I have stayed in contact with for YEARS and we all live in different states now...sometimes we have lost contact and when we get it back it is like we never lost it...

also the box with junk that you never unpack..I have later unpacked those boxes and remember why i still that those items..

 

[sbell111]

OP I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. My you and your husband find comfort in the fond memories you have.

How sympathetic of you Sbell

And just WHY did you need to mention it? Guess I'm not seeing much purpose myself. The family is grieving, and you felt the need to snark? More I would say, but better that I don't . . .

OP, my condolences to you and your family.

???

The OP and her husband were not the ones who stated that they went decades without contact with their friends.

 

[N.Bailey]

While I agree with the premise of being there for your friends, it is only fair to mention that those people that you haven't even spoke to in years and years are not really 'friends'.

It's kind of like those boxes that never get unpacked after you move. That junk need not be kept.

Imagine that you have a backpack and you put all of your relationships inside...

I've read a lot of your posts and I must say, I'm sure you bring lots of sunshine to those who are a part of your life on a regular basis.

 

[minniebeth]

Yeah, I really disagree. I have friendships that can endure years of almost no contact. Then we see each other and it's like we never left each other's side. Love those friendships; they are actually my favorites. Better than the friends that have to talk to you every week in order to feel that you're their friend!

I'm with you, Bumbershoot...

Darsa, I'm so sorry for your loss

 

[TheZue]

I'm so sorry That is shockingly young.

 

[Amy8888]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I have been going through this more and more lately, and I'm 34. A few weeks ago I learned that an acquaintance from college died from cancer. She was 36 and left two young children. Since she was more of an acquaintance than a friend I didn't hear anything about it until she was spending her final days in the hospital. It made me so sad, just thinking about the loss of someone so young, how her family was going to handle it. I don't think it matters how well you knew someone, sometimes it just hits you so hard.