Sad news this weekend....

[Kitty 34]

I'm so sorry!! SIDs is such a scary thing.

 

[Steve H.]

 

[JohnTBap]

You sound like a very caring friend. I am sure that you will find some comforting actions. Listen to your heart. {{{HUGS}}}

 

[Regina]

How tragic.

I hope that your friend finds comfort in knowing that you're there to support her.

 

[Colleen A.]

My thoughts and prayers are with your friend. My son didn't die of SIDS, but was stillborn. I remember vividly some of the things people said to me that really stung. They were only trying to help, but their words only offered me pain. Some things NOT to say are:

1. I'm sure God has his reasons.
2. The pain will ease in time.
3. You'll have other children.
4. Be grateful for the children you have. (You didn't mention if this was her first, but I remember these words well.)
5. You'll see the baby again.

All good intentioned thoughts but right now, they won't help.
One thing a priest said to me at my son's funeral that offered me comfort (although I don't think I would say it right now...later, when she is remembering her child fondly and without pain) "All of us have guardian angels. Not all of us know who our angel is".

 

[dbond]

I will keep you and your friend in my prayers. I had a neice pass away 3 years ago, she was 7 mos old. She had an undiagnosed heart defect and she died suddenly of cardiac arrest. It was the most tragic thing I have ever endured personally, I can only imagine what my bil & sil went through and are still going through. They have had another child and are expecting again, but the pain of losing that little girl still lingers. Your friend will need someone to talk to and will probably want to talk about her child for a long time as if she were still here. My sil gets so hurt when people ignore mentioning her daughter as if she never existed. Don't be afraid to talk about the child to your friend, she will feel comforted that you remember her. When people ask my sil how many children she has, she always says 1 with her Father in heaven and 2 with me on Earth. Sometimes people get so uncomfortable with that but my sil is so grateful for the ones that ask and are interested in her child that is no longer with her. Right now, your friend needs lots of hugs, someone to cry with, someone to talk to that will listen for hours, someone that will assure her is wasn't her fault (she will feel guilt), someone to pray with her. Bless you and your friend and that beautiful baby girl.

 

[zurgswife]

Very very sad...

 

[Blondie]

 

[phins_jazy]

I'm so sorry. Please go to your friend. I'm sure she could use a shoulder to cry on.

 

[newmousecateer]

I am so sorry to hear that. Prayers for your friend, her husband and family.

 

[Mickey's sunshine]

That is so sad Kinlaw.

 

[Pin Wizard]

(((((((((((((((((((Hugs!)))))))))))))))))) That is so sad! I have a friend whose brother died at 9 months from SIDS. How awful. Prayers and PD for your friend and her family.