Rutgers - Co-Ed Dorm Rooms

[JoiseyMom]

http://www.nj.com/news/index.ssf/2011/02/rutgers_to_allow_co-ed_rooms_i.html


I have mixed feelings on this. Right now I am glad DD is only 14!

 

[golfgal]

It was weird enough for us to have co-ed FLOORS but ROOMS??? I wouldn't like it much and I don't know that our kids would either. DS18 is pretty private and he doesn't seem to have issues with co-ed floors, which surprised me.

 

[Mermaid02]

http://www.nj.com/news/index.ssf/2011/02/rutgers_to_allow_co-ed_rooms_i.html


I have mixed feelings on this. Right now I am glad DD is only 14!

I really have no problem with this- they will get to choose and won't be assigned.

 

[tlbwriter]

I really have no problem with this- they will get to choose and won't be assigned.

I agree. Many people choose to live with roommates of the opposite sex, so I think it's fine to allow that in the dorms. The problem is going to be if boyfriend/girlfriend choose to room together and then break up!

 

[minniebeth]

I have mixed feelings about it as well~ this is definitely a decision on the university's part that reflects the society we live in. I suppose that colleges need to listen to the requests of their "customers".

As long as this remains an option, and not something that will ever become assigned, college students are old enough to make their own decisions.

I went to Rutgers and I remember the headaches that student housing had in room change requests just because girls didn't get along, I can't imagine how they will have to deal with gf/bf breakups. Even though they are in college, I wouldn't be a happy camper if any of my kids wanted a co-ed room.

 

[njmom47]

I wonder how much this has to do with the Tyler Clemente incident.
I don't have any problems with this...there is enough stress to deal with
at college; if you can at least choose your roommate and not have to deal with "luck of the draw" (which I did, things did NOT work out well for me) that is one less thing to worry about.

 

[mdsoccermom]

I have no problems with this. It's not mandatory. If the kids get to choose their roommate in this case, then why not?

 

[java]

I'm ok with it. And I'm in NJ, with a high school junior that is looking at schools.
Surprisingly Rutgers went on the list today.

 

[j's m]

I asked DS16 about this a couple of days ago. He said he wouldn't mind, I was totally shocked. But the more I thought about, maybe he thought a girl wouldn't mind doing the cleaning, maybe the laundry

But not happening.

 

[JoiseyMom]

I wonder how much this has to do with the Tyler Clemente incident.
I don't have any problems with this...there is enough stress to deal with
at college; if you can at least choose your roommate and not have to deal with "luck of the draw" (which I did, things did NOT work out well for me) that is one less thing to worry about.

If you read the article it seems like it does.

 

[Jennasis]

As others have said...So what? College aged folk are old enough to vote, and they're living on their own, so why not let them live with who they want. I had a few gay friends who would've made delightful roomies!

 

[Robinrs]

My niece's dorms were coed when she went to Stanford, she said it was not a problem at all.

 

[OhioStateBuckeye]

It is a pretty ridiculous thing to be getting all up in arms about. It didn't say you'd have to live with someone of the opposite sex, just that you could if you wanted to.

I lived in a coed dorm, and on my floor we may as well have mixed up boys and girls. Everyone left their doors open all the time and people just wandered into and out of each others rooms. We were a pretty close floor, I don't see how it would have made all that much difference if I would have shared a bedroom with one of the guys rather than with one of the girls.

Its all about choice anyway, if you wouldn't want to live in a coed room, you don't have to. Personally, I always got along better with boys than with girls anyway, so there probably would have been less drama if I'd lived with a guy friend.

Unless they are forcing coed rooms, I don't think its a big deal at all.

 

[declansdad]

Doesn't matter what I think, I won't be living in the rooms. The only people that it concerns are those that select those rooms.

 

[disneyfans95]

They are adults at this point. As long as nothing is forced on them, anything should go.

 

[collegejunkie]

don't most college-aged kids want a single anyway? i don't really think this is a problem. dbf lives across the hall from me and we have 2 separate singles. we live together when we're not at school, but we're both too busy and operate on completely different schedules at school. i'd hate to live with him here. even next year when we move off campus, we are in a 3 bedroom apartment with one other friend so we can still have our own rooms and not disturb one another.

 

[Lassie Lynne]

I actually like the idea. Those who want to live in a gender-neutral place have the opportunity, those who prefer a same-sex roomate can stick to the regular dorms. I didn't even know Colleges offer this.

 

[bumbershoot]

My niece's dorms were coed when she went to Stanford, she said it was not a problem at all.

This is actual dorm *rooms*.

don't most college-aged kids want a single anyway?

At my university we all might have wanted one, but there was only ONE single room on each floor (apart from the RA's room), so not much chance in getting one! (surprisingly, however, I did, when I moved back to the dorm Senior year...it was very nice!)



I think that this is pretty cool. A couple of my friends had fellow female roommates that were gay, and it always seemed odd that the university would put them together, when they wouldn't put a straight male and female together. So this makes sense.

I probably wouldn't have gone for it, though. Weird enough sharing my space with a stranger female, let alone living with a boy! Having guys next door to me was just fine.



Interesting that the article mentioned the co-ed bathrooms since I was just thinking about them the other day. Friends of mine went to UC Berkeley and had coed bathrooms, and while it was weird when I first used them, by the end of the long weekend I was totally used to them.

 

[bicker]

Doesn't matter what I think, I won't be living in the rooms. The only people that it concerns are those that select those rooms.

Precisely - as long as people get to choose which arrangement they're placed into, this is the way things should be.

 

[libraryfreak]

My daughters college offers this option too.

And while she is technically an adult, I AM footing the bill and that goes a long way. If she chose to room with her boyfriend, and I had a problem with that, I could stop paying. I'm not in that situation, so I don't know what I'd do or say. I CAN say the older I get the more relaxed I get.