Rude Rude Rude

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  1. resablue

    resablue Earning My Ears

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    It's not you. People are rude and it's getting worse all the time. I guess it's not just Americans either. The large groups of people/teens are super rude. Another poster wrote (and I agree) all you can really do at this point is positively reinforce good behavior when you see it. Praise the few individuals/children who act in a kind, well mannered way. I raised two kind sons, even when they were like 10 y/o they would get up out of their seat on the bus if an elderly person got on, or a mother with an infant. I didn't have to tell them. People have become lazy and have opted to be their kids best friends instead of doing the hard work of being a parent. Kids need rules. Kids actually are happier with rules and parents that give guidelines. The problem is, nowadays most parents were raised by parents who didn't expect good behavior. So the problem is becoming generational. I fear it will only get worse as time goes on.
     
  2. gypsy_at_heart

    gypsy_at_heart Mouseketeer

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    Honesty, at this point I just ignore the rudeness and make an effort to be extra polite in order to try and balance it out. If someone is berating a CM or another person, then I say something, but otherwise I don't because, well, I was raised to believe that's rude. I just give the the look of silent Canadian disapproval lol which I doubt they notice.

    When I see people being rude at Disney, I don't generally feel angry, I just feel a bit sad and can't help thinking... why? Why would they choose to act like that? Because it is a choice. The way I was raised, manners matter. The are very much part of who I am, and I was taught very young that it's expected of us. And if we travel to other countries and present ourselves as rude, we're making ourselves - and all Canadians - look bad. Oddly I feel the need to be extra polite when I'm in another country because I don't want to be the bad example for Canada. I don't know why anyone would want that.

    Do I think it will change? Well, I always hope that when some of those people get home they give their heads a shake and resolve never to act like that again. Maybe they do... but I think most probably don't. I think the best we can do is learn from their bad behaviour. When you see someone doing something you think is rude, think on it. Think, 'do I ever do that?', and a make point not to. Maybe those rude people can help us attempt be better. :thumbsup2
     
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  4. mefordis

    mefordis If you can dream it, you can do it.

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    Speaking of rude, something really weird happened to me at a concert for my daughter the other day. My husband was running late and I saved a seat for him. There were other seats around. However, about 5 mins from starting time a woman sat down in his seat and I politely told her that my husband was sitting there and he's on his way and she refused to get up! I even told her there are other seats and pointed to them and she said, "Why does he have to sit in this seat???" I saved the aisle for him so that he could easily slip in without anyone having to get up in case people were filming, etc behind us.

    Wow. I was speechless. It was a good teaching moment for my 9 year old who was with me. With my response (which was to let it go) I showed her never to forget her manners, even when someone is being incredibly rude and low class.
     
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  5. SorcererHeidi

    SorcererHeidi Sorcerer please cast forever love spell for me

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    Wow - sorry that happened to you, must have ruined a happy day/experience/memory for you, how sad! :( Nice that you were able to retain your composure, and turn it into a teachable moment. Bravo for you! I just wish that those of us who manage to be/do that wouldn't have to continually "rise above" - would be nice (and refreshing!) if others would learn to do that as well, don't take much!
     
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  6. patch508

    patch508 Earning My Ears

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    The rude visitors is the reason I like Disneyland much better - nicer people!
     
  7. JerseyJanice

    JerseyJanice A Disboards original...

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    What a ————! Next time, keep something like your purse or jacket on the empty chair.
     
  8. modelar7

    modelar7 Earning My Ears

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    As time has gone by I noticed that my mine set has drastically changed. I used to be in a bit of hurry but if i run into someone i say excuse me. I hold doors open and when someone shows me the same kindness i say thank you.
    Today I am alone my blood family is gone. I am left to walking and riding things by myself. I mostly stroll through the park and ride what i get an urge for so the people who are moving forward I give the way to. I am at a point where it doesn't bother me anymore. I am retired and a new transplant so I have my Disney dream.
    The only thing I regret is the way disney used to be. I think when Mr Disney was alive the parks had that certain feel to it but now I get the feeling of Disney the Corporation and not the man.
     
  9. AdamEfimoff

    AdamEfimoff DIS Veteran

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    I have noticed this everywhere in general. And no one standing for old people ***? And I am far from perfect. Need to kaizen my behaviour
     

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