Rude Behavior At Disney

[TheTXTaylors5]

nevermind

I feel like that on here sometimes too!

Jennifer

 

[toocherie]

I explained this in post #127.

rude is getting to post 256 and rehashing something that's already been explained 100 posts back.

Good grief. How hard is this? You say "excuse me, are you waiting?"

Well, maybe it's different at some resorts, but when we were waiting at SSR, when we saw the bus coming someone would announce which bus it was before it even got there--so we could identify who was getting on the bus and who wasn't. Of course, it wasn't that crowded when we were there (in Nov.) so maybe it depends on the season too.

 

[maxiesmom]

I explained this in post #127.

rude is getting to post 256 and rehashing something that's already been explained 100 posts back.

Good grief. How hard is this? You say "excuse me, are you waiting?"

As I explained in post #250 I don't consider people sitting on a bench to be in line for the busses. I consider it rude to sit on a bench and expect that that holds your place for the bus. We see things differently, no need to get snarky.

 

[HGD24]

On POTC I had an older man with a large touring group push me to the side with his closed umbrella and forearm so that he could get onto a boat with other members of his party. Mind you, there were still many members of his party who did not get on that boat and would be getting in the next boat, but apparently he needed to be on that boat. The CM looked at me horrified and then yelled to the man that he couldn't push people aside and that he needed to wait. The man pretended not to hear the CM and continued to board the boat without even looking in our direction.

 

[Tinkerbelle's Mom]

Clearly the people sitting on the benches at the bus stops are waiting but... I do not see them as having the "right" to the front of the line. In my opinion if you want to be at the front of the line - well that's where you line up. If you choose to sit on the bench then you clearly did not want to be in the front of the line.

While I enjoy sitting on the benches, if I want to be in the front of the line for the bus I stay standing where the line starts. I can see this being a big issue during busy times, not so much during slower times of the year.

 

[mom22bless]

Ok perople....time to give the bench thing a rest!!

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When we were there in Jan I really didn't see any rude people in families. (touring groups are another thing) Everyone seemed pretty cordial. On the buses, people were trying to make room for others, etc. One guy even offered to hold another guys double stroller since he was already in the back exit holding his. We were at AS Movies and there were roped off lines for all bus routes.

 

[livndisney]

I explained this in post #127.

rude is getting to post 256 and rehashing something that's already been explained 100 posts back.

Good grief. How hard is this? You say "excuse me, are you waiting?"

As I explained (back 100 posts ago). If you are sitting on bench at a "community" BUS STOP like Cont (that services several buses), it is not my job to ask every person sitting there which bus they are waiting for.

If you see your Bus pulling up, you stand up and move toward the bus. Simple.

 

[tink621]

I explained this in post #127.

rude is getting to post 256 and rehashing something that's already been explained 100 posts back.

Good grief. How hard is this? You say "excuse me, are you waiting?"

And this is post #257 didn't know we were keeping count.

 

[GoofyMomInOhio]

During our trip in August 08, I caught one of the little balls that pop out during Block Party Bash. I leaned over to hand it to my DH for my DS and this lady jumps out and grabs it from my DH's hand. Everyone around us mouths dropped. On the other hand, many other guests jumped in and offered us theirs (kids too). The CM appologized to me and had an extra in her pouch that she gave to my DS. The worst part is that the rude lady had about 5 more already. It is just a little ball - what is the big idea???

 

[CanadianGuy]

Ok perople....time to give the bench thing a rest!!

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When we were there in Jan I really didn't see any rude people in families. (touring groups are another thing) Everyone seemed pretty cordial. On the buses, people were trying to make room for others, etc. One guy even offered to hold another guys double stroller since he was already in the back exit holding his. We were at AS Movies and there were roped off lines for all bus routes.

As I explained (back 100 posts ago). If you are sitting on bench at a "community" BUS STOP like Cont (that services several buses), it is not my job to ask every person sitting there which bus they are waiting for.

If you see your Bus pulling up, you stand up and move toward the bus. Simple.

And this is post #257 didn't know we were keeping count.

M o v i n g
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f r o m
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PLEASE.

 

[M-I-C-K-E-Y]

Also one time when we were waiting at rope drop in Frontierland we started talking to this family and for some reason their father said there are a lot of foreign people here, which I think he meant in a negative way. Well later on my dad told me what if we said we were foreign since we are from Canada, because there was no way for him to tell that about us.

As an American of proud Canadian descent (my grandfather came down after WWI and I have hundreds of cousins north of the border), I can understand your reaction to this. However (there's always a however, eh?) many Americans don't consider Canadians "foreigners," but rather friendly "neighbors." I know that this brings up lots of debate, back and forth, but our countries have so much in common, while each retains what makes each unique in itself. Nevertheless, it was a sucky thing for him to say...

 

[Suellen]

How about this... loved this.

We brought pool toys with us from home for our LO's.

So for some reason all the kids thought it was their right to come take these toys from my kid. Note the girl in the picture with the watering can.. not my kid. That kid took the toy out of my baby's hands. Often they would take all three pieces and leave my infant crying.

The WORST part was not ONE parent said a stinking thing. I spent the entire week retrieving toys for the girls. I would normally make them share... but geez! And the worst of the worst was a Dad who watched his kid come take all three pieces from my baby, she cried hysterically and the child took the toys over and plopped down with dad and he played with them with his kid!!!! While mine sat there crying. Like it was their RIGHT!

One mom after I went and got them back said "That's fine! We'll just go buy our OWN toys from the gift shop!" Of course she came back empty handed.

Anyway... I thought it was rude of the kids and the parents!!!

 

[toocherie]

As an American of proud Canadian descent (my grandfather came down after WWI and I have hundreds of cousins north of the border), I can understand your reaction to this. However (there's always a however, eh?) many Americans don't consider Canadians "foreigners," but rather friendly "neighbors." I know that this brings up lots of debate, back and forth, but our countries have so much in common, while each retains what makes each unique in itself. Nevertheless, it was a sucky thing for him to say...

I also consider you "neighbors"

How about this... loved this.

We brought pool toys with us from home for our LO's.

So for some reason all the kids thought it was their right to come take these toys from my kid. Note the girl in the picture with the watering can.. not my kid. That kid took the toy out of my baby's hands. Often they would take all three pieces and leave my infant crying.

The WORST part was not ONE parent said a stinking thing. I spent the entire week retrieving toys for the girls. I would normally make them share... but geez! And the worst of the worst was a Dad who watched his kid come take all three pieces from my baby, she cried hysterically and the child took the toys over and plopped down with dad and he played with them with his kid!!!! While mine sat there crying. Like it was their RIGHT!

One mom after I went and got them back said "That's fine! We'll just go buy our OWN toys from the gift shop!" Of course she came back empty handed.

Anyway... I thought it was rude of the kids and the parents!!!

See--this is what scares me. Presumably the parents are in their 20-30's and they have an attitude that whatever they do is fine, and they are passing this same attitude on to their kids. I can't imagine the future of our country with attitudes like this--and it seems to be rampant!

 

[melancholywings]

I'm going to go with the unpopular side and say I agree with parts of the post about the burden thing. Such as with the bus seats. If someone is willing to give up their seat for another (which we usually do) - more power to them. But there are people who feel entitled to a seat - or that their need is greater, just because they have a kid, kids, huge stroller, or any other non-disabled reason. Having children is a personal choice, and it's not the responsibility of strangers to have to understand and meet the needs and requirements for that choice. If a family requires to sit when traveling to and from the parks, but doesn't want to rent a car, wait for the next bus or adjust their schedual so they are riding a bus during a slower period - why should the rest of the guests have to take on their burden that was created through their personal choices?

I think it shows compassion to give your seat to someone who appears more in need of it, but I don't think it's rude not to.

 

[mickeyluv'r]

Maybe I'm not understanding it right, but couldn't you just walk behind the picture taker? Thus elimintaing the need to wait at all? I'm thinking of larger places like in front of Cinderella's castle where there's plenty of sidewalk left over. Maybe your thinking of tighter spaces?
Sometimes, it's hard to get all the kids smiling at the same time and not everyone gets to go to Disney every year. JMHO.

Okay, my answer to this is:
A.) wait until the sidewalk is clear to take a picture
B.) pick another spot, or pick a quieter time of day

I've never blocked a main sidewalk to take a picture. I take my pics in out of the way locations. If ever I've tried to take a picture where anyone was walking through the area I wait for them to walk through before I hold my camera up. If they should see me setting up and try to stop, I wave them through. I feel very strongly that people walking from point A to point B have right of way. Picture takers do not, especially in this day and age of digital cameras where folks can take as many pics as they want and delete any that don't turn out for free (not like the old days were you had to pay to develop/print every pic on the roll of film) If you have trouble getting your family to pose: find a differnet location, or pick a quiter time to take the pic.

I have reached the point where I find picture taking path blockers rude.
Think about it, if everyone did this, then nobody would get to their destinations. I'm on vacation too. I feel that someone walking along the main pathway should have a reasonable expectation of being able to get to point B. I'm not saying I won't swerve to the right a little, but mostly these folks block the pathway and take forever. Also there are certain spots where phototakers sometimes cluster in WDW. (again, your example of Cindy's castle. Oftenthis area is so crowded that's it's not possible to walk around, especially if you've got a stroller, or ECV in your group.)So that if everyone has to stop the area becomes clogged very quickly. Kind of like when Divine comes out for a sidewalk blocking stroll. cute, but I'm trying to get to my ADR on time, and it's hard enough already.

I also find this a situation of finding the most efficient solution to the situation. Usually, that is for me, and everyone behind me, to keep walking while the cameraman gets everyone ready, until there is a gap in the crowd.

 

[Tracyplus5]

Okay, my answer to this is:
A.) wait until the sidewalk is clear to take a picture
B.) pick another spot, or pick a quieter time of day

I've never blocked a main sidewalk to take a picture. I take my pics in out of the way locations. If ever I've tried to take a picture where anyone was walking through the area I wait for them to walk through before I hold my camera up. If they should see me setting up and try to stop, I wave them through. I feel very strongly that people walking from point A to point B have right of way. Picture takers do not, especially in this day and age of digital cameras where folks can take as many pics as they want and delete any that don't turn out for free (not like the old days were you had to pay to develop/print every pic on the roll of film) If you have trouble getting your family to pose: find a differnet location, or pick a quiter time to take the pic.

I have reached the point where I find picture taking path blockers rude.
Think about it, if everyone did this, then nobody would get to their destinations. I'm on vacation too. I feel that someone walking along the main pathway should have a reasonable expectation of being able to get to point B. I'm not saying I won't swerve to the right a little, but mostly these folks block the pathway and take forever. Also there are certain spots where phototakers sometimes cluster in WDW. (again, your example of Cindy's castle. Oftenthis area is so crowded that's it's not possible to walk around, especially if you've got a stroller, or ECV in your group.)So that if everyone has to stop the area becomes clogged very quickly. Kind of like when Divine comes out for a sidewalk blocking stroll. cute, but I'm trying to get to my ADR on time, and it's hard enough already.

I also find this a situation of finding the most efficient solution to the situation. Usually, that is for me, and everyone behind me, to keep walking while the cameraman gets everyone ready, until there is a gap in the crowd.

Just wanted to clarify that the "swerve to the right a little" was all I was suggesting. I personally wouldn't take a pic in front of Cinderella's castle on a very crowded day/time. I was talking about non-crowded times where I've tried to take pics at various places where there was plenty of space *behind me* (AKA the picture taker) and people can't seem to move a little right or left while we spend 30 seconds taking a picture. I wouldn't block a sidewalk.

For me, this post can be good because it gives me pause to think of how other people view my behavior and vice-versa so that maybe when I do go I'll be able to see both sides and be more understanding. All I wanted to do re: the picture situation was give another viewpoint. Some behaviors that I would consider rude are sometimes coming from a completely different place that I hadn't considered and some things that I see no issues with someone else may. For me, reading these posts has "broadened my horizons" a bit. I only hope that when I'm there I can mantain the "let it all slide" mentality so that I'm part of the solution and not part of the problem.

 

[CR Resort Fan 4 Life]

As an American of proud Canadian descent (my grandfather came down after WWI and I have hundreds of cousins north of the border), I can understand your reaction to this. However (there's always a however, eh?) many Americans don't consider Canadians "foreigners," but rather friendly "neighbors." I know that this brings up lots of debate, back and forth, but our countries have so much in common, while each retains what makes each unique in itself. Nevertheless, it was a sucky thing for him to say...

Well I wasn't angry or anything. It was more of a what would his reaction be if he found out we were from Canada because it's still a different country, even though it's in North America.

 

[maxiesmom]

I'm going to go with the unpopular side and say I agree with parts of the post about the burden thing. Such as with the bus seats. If someone is willing to give up their seat for another (which we usually do) - more power to them. But there are people who feel entitled to a seat - or that their need is greater, just because they have a kid, kids, huge stroller, or any other non-disabled reason. Having children is a personal choice, and it's not the responsibility of strangers to have to understand and meet the needs and requirements for that choice. If a family requires to sit when traveling to and from the parks, but doesn't want to rent a car, wait for the next bus or adjust their schedual so they are riding a bus during a slower period - why should the rest of the guests have to take on their burden that was created through their personal choices?

I think it shows compassion to give your seat to someone who appears more in need of it, but I don't think it's rude not to.

I couldn't agree with you more! What some people see as rude behavior is really only their own entitlement attitude showing thru.

I just know that if I have a family member along who I don't want standing on the buses, then we don't take the buses. I wouldn't think to make someone else give up a seat for one of my own family, when we couldn't take the time to see to it that they wouldn't have to stand.

 

[TheTXTaylors5]

With everyone commenting on "rude" behavior ... pay it forward (kind behavior). Just like the insurance commercial. If one person sees someone doing something kind, like giving up a seat to a Mom holding a sleeping child to letting an ECV pass in front of you, it would be such a better "civilized" world. Being a parent, I don't expect or feel entitled to anything, but being kind and selfless are very rewarding character traits.

Pay it forward ...

Jennifer

 

[christa112]

It kinda seems like this thread is heading in the wrong direction.

This was suppose to be people sharing stories of rudeness and now it is had turned into a battle ground.

Geez, lets keep it to the stories and not critize and degrade each other.