No, no, no. Leave the drill sargeants uniform behind.
Here is the deal - RideMax can be a help or hindrance depending on how you use it. There is a tension in desires for most groups at DLR on WDW. On the one hand there is a desire to be spontaneous and take things as they come. To relax. To have "fun" and go with the flow.
Opposing this is a desire to not wait in long lines and to get on as many rides as possible. If you have the luxury of visiting on slow days you can have both for the most part. Otherwise you have to make a tradeoff.
Yes, there are some people who may bristle if you try to get them on a schedule. But 90% of the time they are the same ones who will complain about all of the long lines later in the day.
So what to do? Well, every group needs to find their happy medium. Personally, I am not big on using RM all day long. So when we use RM we tend to use it for the mornings only. My family is now pretty spoiled as we rarely wait in line for very long. They know that if we follow these simple rules we will avoid long lines and get on more rides:
1. Get to the gates early and be one of the first into the park
2. Focus on rides for 2-3 hours
3. Collect FPs
Whether you use RM or not, doing the above is the secret. If you use RM it can help you get your first three hours under your belt. In truth, after that it does not matter very much how closely you follow RM as all lines are getting long on busier days.
So perhaps a compromise is just to ask the group if you can focus on RM and/or rides for the first few hours before transitioning to a more spontaneous schedule.