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[LisaNJ25]

My son had a headache all day yesterday and didnt feel well. But he ate dinner and about a hour later went to bed. Then around 45 mins after he fell asleep I heard him trying to hurry off his bed and then he LOSTit everywhere and kept running and made it to the bathroom....
My vent is he is only 9 years old and my DH made him clean up his own vomit...
He told me to stay out and let him do it all his self "he is old enough to know when he is going to puke he said"
That pissed me off even as a adult I have had a vomit accdeint.

* needless to say I went in there and helped my poor little guy *

just want your veiw...
And thanks so much for listening to me vent!

I had the same thing happen to my son (13)thursday night. 1:30 am and he got sick all over the bathroom floor. To much info but he was on the toilet and the trash can was right infront of him. Did he use it? Nope. All over the floor and what a mess. My husband was yelling that he wasnt going to clean it and and that DS has to. DS was feeling so crappy all he wanted to do was take a bath. So while he was in the bath I took a few old towels cleaned everything up and in the garbage it went.

I had 3 out of the 4 kids vomiting last week. Was not a good week.

 

[dizagain]

Poor little guy! Hopefully your DH was able to apologize and you can all move on. My DH can be that way over some things (ok, never over sickness) and when he feels bad about something he did or said he ALWAYS apologizes. Kids respect that so much and need to hear it.

 

[NCRedding]

I would have done what you did OP. My DH get migraines, and I always clean up after him--he never helps me at all when I get sick. The worst time with my DH--I was pregnant, and he threw up in the sink, which is right next to (like 20 inches from) the toilet. He left it for me to clean up, but didn't tell me this until the next morning--I slept in another room and used another bathroom--now that was something pleasant to find the next day

 

[diznygirl]

I cleaned up after myself when I was a kid - I live far away from my parents now, see them hardly ever, call them often. We have a good relationship that way. No sense in giving them what they didn't give me growing up.

My father has apologized to me for not being the perfect father growing up, and I have a lot of respect for him for doing that.

 

[Stacerita]

Poor little guy. I would have done the same thing as the OP.

 

[aprilgail2]

That has to be one of the meanest things I have ever heard of making a kid do!! Poor kid was sick...did your husband NEVER not make it to the bathroom when he was vomiting growing up???

 

[Alice Sr.]

That's wrong on so many levels, I don't know where to start.

Exactly!

Your husband has issues.

 

[hentob]

Let's just hope that 40 years from now when the shoe is on the other foot your son doesn't feel the same way as his father does now.

Oh so very, very true.

I am sorry, but if my dh ever pulled a stunt like that, I would have a difficult time respecting him and his parenting decisions. I certainly would not leave my children alone with a person that makes such poor choices.

To your son for having a step-father who doesn't feel sympathy towards him It just seems like a normal reaction to have a parent feel badly for a sick child, not to be cruel enough to make him clean up while he is sick.

Is your husband mentally ill or take medication that would cause such callous behavior?

Good luck

 

[lbgraves]

Oh that is beyond rediculous!!! The poor guy didn't do anything that needed disciplining. ARG!!!!!! I hope that your DS is feeling better today. He was sleeping for pete's sake & manged to wake up & be able to get to the bathroom at all shows that he was trying to do the "right thing." A few months ago DD got sick after falling asleep in our bed one afternoon. I didn't even notice until I went back into the room because of the smell. She was so ill that she had just rolled over & gone right back to sleep. That wasn't fun but I certainly wouldn't have expected her to take care of the mess on her own.

 

[jekajekalynn]

That's sad on soooooo many levels...

If I'd had done that to my ds3, my dh wouldn't pi#$ on me if I was on fire the next day.

Your dh has a LOT of making up to do with your child!!!

 

[Jeanny]

the poor little guy is sick.... he doesn't puke on purpose!!! He probably didn't even know he had to throw up until he actually was! it comes on quick!!

 

[hentob]

I see that your son is from a previous marriage. Does your current husband treat him like this all of the time?

 

[C.Ann]

My son had a headache all day yesterday and didnt feel well. But he ate dinner and about a hour later went to bed. Then around 45 mins after he fell asleep I heard him trying to hurry off his bed and then he LOSTit everywhere and kept running and made it to the bathroom....
My vent is he is only 9 years old and my DH made him clean up his own vomit...
He told me to stay out and let him do it all his self "he is old enough to know when he is going to puke he said"
That pissed me off even as a adult I have had a vomit accdeint.

* needless to say I went in there and helped my poor little guy *

just want your veiw...
And thanks so much for listening to me vent!

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You CAN'T be serious????? If that were my DH he would be suffering from a MAJOR headache himself!!!

Headaches and then vomiting are not a good sign in children.. If I were you I would have him seen by a doctor as soon as possible (even if that means taking him BEFORE you can smack your DH over the head with a cast iron frying pain!!)

That is simply INSANE!!

 

[tiggersmom2]

I see that your son is from a previous marriage. Does your current husband treat him like this all of the time?

I thought the same thing..... Hugs to the little guy and let's hope the Dad has learned a lesson.

 

[C.Ann]

Remember that he is the kid's father and that position demands a certain respect even when he doesn't behave worthily of it.

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Sorry, but I have to strongly disagree with that.. There is no "position" in the world that demands respect.. Respect has to be earned.. Would you say a man that beats his children or a mother who starves her children demands a "certain respect" just because of their "position"????

The man was dead wrong and owes his son AND his wife a SINCERE apology..

 

[hentob]

Remember that he is the kid's father and that position demands a certain respect even when he doesn't behave worthily of it.

He is NOT the father of this child.

And, even if he was, I DO NOT agree with your above statement.

 

[TinkerBess_SnowTori]

That happened to me - probably around the same age as your son, I was in the 4th grade and watching TV with my family. I felt the need to vomit and started running to the bathroom, didn't make it and vomited on the kitchen floor. I felt so bad.

My mom yelled and told me that I was old enough to know when I was going to puke and that I was going to clean it up myself. And I did.

I am crying even now as l write this, I felt so sick, I felt so bad I hadn't made it to the bathroom, I felt awful that she yelled at me, and felt even more nauseous as I cleaned up my vomit.

I am 36 years old and this is one of my clearest memories of my mom - who I do love with all my heart. She was a good mother who made very few mistakes with us - but this was one of them.

A simple "I'm sorry - I shouldn't have done that" would have gone a long way to soften this memory.

Please don't get the idea she was a bad mother, she wasn't, she isn't, she is a wonderful person. Just had a lapse in judgment.

and BTW - As long as they are in my house - my girls will never clean up their own puke.

 

[Belle0101]

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Sorry, but I have to strongly disagree with that.. There is no "position" in the world that demands respect.. Respect has to be earned.. Would you say a man that beats his children or a mother who starves her children demands a "certain respect" just because of their "position"????

The man was dead wrong and owes his son AND his wife a SINCERE apology..

Every now and then I run across something that triggers a memory from childhood, this reply was one of those "somethings".

IMO, just because you are physically capable of reproducing doesn't mean that you should and people that physically can't reproduce doesn't mean they aren't worthy of being parents.

Obviously my parents were capable of reproducing because here I am. That in no way means they deserve my respect, especially my mother. The abuse I suffered as a child made sure of that. I don't even know where my mother is today. I haven't seen or heard from her in 16 years. My dad, he's my dad and I honor that but I don't trust him.

As to the OP, your DH was just wrong on all levels. And I guess I'm curious too as to whether he is always like this, especially now that it's been pointed out that he is the step-dad. My sister and her husband each have 2 children from their previous marriages and honestly, I don't like to be around them too often. Each one is just downright mean to their respective step-children. My sister willingly admits that she said to her step-daughters (at Dairy Queen) that they didn't deserve dinner because of something they either did or didn't do earlier in the day.

And your DH should apologize to your son. I've apologized to my boys when I've been out of line. Basically I said "hey remember when I (whatever I did), well I was wrong and I'm sorry I acted that way". They'll say "okay", hugs, kisses and it's forgiven and forgotten.

I hope your DS is feeling better and keep an eye on those headaches. If they're very frequent I'd get an appointment for him.

 

[diskids2]

I'd say that sofa is calling his name for quite some time

 

[crazee4mickey]

Wow, I'd be furious if DH made our child clean up their own vomit ---but let me just say my DH would never do that in the first place...that is just so wrong and so sad for your DS