Remenber that hotel Bday party for 13/14 yr old?

[FINFAN]

Hi, I had stuck to my guns and did not allow DD to sleep over, and she said she woud rather not go at all than have me pick her up...anyway, one girl broke her arm as the girls were running in the stairwell, she was accidentally pushed and fell. there was a conflict of 1/2 the girls finishing swimming earlier than the others because they were cold, and since there was only 1 parent there for 12....she could not be at the room and pool at the same time so this is when the others snuck out and the accident happened. There was also another party going on at the same time so the pool was jammed and too much roughhousing, arguements over who got to sleep in a bed, who was stuck w/the gross hotel floor....I am glad I said no. I feel terrible for the girl who was hurt, and that happened in the first 2 hours of the party.
Thanks again for all the helpful posts you guys gave when I was strugggling with this decision!
Pam

 

[stinkerbelle]

omg...that's insane! (never saw your original thread on this...sorry)

although...I kinda remember going to a bday party when I was younger at a hotel (so swimming) but it wasn't an over-nighter. (were there boys at this party too? or girls only?)

wow...glad you stuck to your guns though...see...moms DO know best!

 

[FINFAN]

It was a girls only party, but the other party gong on was boys, and that is where the roughhousing came in, grabbing and tossing girls etc. Some thought it was "so cool" others did not like having guys they did not know grab them. All in all, sounds like a REALLY stressful ordeal to me.

 

[Hillbeans]

My mom used to do that also to me...she'd "pick me up" at sleepovers, and i'd be mortified.

Now that i'm a mom, I see why she did it. I'm sure most of the time things end up fine, but I just think that many kids with one or two adults is just asking for trouble. The same goes for the other thread about leaving kids at Chucke Cheeses...

At some age I agree you have to "cut the cord" so to speak, but i'd rather do it in other ways than leaving my teenager alone with one parent supervising a group.

 

[minniecarousel]

One adult for 12 girls?!?!?!?!

You certainly made the right decision!

 

[eeyoreforever]

I think you made the right decision too. Good for you for sticking to your guns. Everyone tells me I am overprotective, but I think that is better than not being protective enough. So, was your daughter glad that she didn't go?

 

[disykat]

You did the right thing. It sounds like even your daughter knows it. I'm surprised that the other parents went along with it. I guess it's not so surprising that the other adult she said would go wasn't there.

 

[FINFAN]

eeyoreforever...yep, DD said right away after hearing the news that she was glad she skipped it. I could tell she was in a tough spot as the BDAY girl is one of her better friends and lives 2 doors away. When DD went over to give her gift the 2 of them were chatting away, so it was no big deal to skip it in the long run. I guess the fact that the poor girl broke her arm took a bit of the happy out of happy birthday...
Oh well, just one of many tough decisions we make as parents.
Pam