Remember when we were kis and...

[krcit]

we were actually afraid of misbehaving in front of adults, taechers and police officers? I don't know if it's my age(40) or just a sign of the times but I can't believe how disrespectful some kids can be and how afraid some adults are to reprimand kids other than their own. Yesterday while we were eating dinner, some kids were right outside my house using really foul language. I went out and said 'Hey, if you're going to use language like that-get away from my house and do it somewhere else." They moved and didn't say anything rude to me but when i told DH he was like 'they'll probably egg the house" I say the day I'm afraid of 11 year old boys is the day it's all over for me, lol. Anyway, it got me thinking about how some parents refuse to say anything to any kids other than their own and I just don't understand that. I don't go around randomly disciplining kids but in certain circumstances I will say something.When I was a kid, I wouldn't dream of being rude to a grown-up or talking back and now the way I see some of these kids talking to teachers, cops-blows my mind, but then again they way some of them talk to their own parents boggles my mind.

 

[Robinrs]

My kid still is respectful, it depends on how they're raised. I raised him OLD SCHOOL!
Otoh, he is AMAZED at the way he sees other children mouth off, he comes home daily telling me about how so and so said what to the teacher. I'm GLAD he's amazed!

 

[Dee & Greg]

My Mother's favorite threat was "I'll knock your teeth down your throat"..I really don't hear that from parents these days...

She didn't actually do it, and I have beautiful teeth

 

[krcit]

My Mother's favorite threat was "I'll knock your teeth down your throat"..I really don't hear that from parents these days...

She didn't actually do it, and I have beautiful teeth

LOL, My favorite line is 'I'll knock you into next week."...so far haven't had to do it

 

[freckles and boo]

I have no problem telling kids to stop acting like fools when they decide to have a wrestling match in my front yard on the way home from school or swear a blue streak in front of the younger kids. I am not all that intimidating but I do make sure they realize I am serious. Fortunately our schools have a great behavior system in place and the kids usually just say "Sorry, ma'am" or slink off. It isn't a big deal. I would call the cops in a heartbeat if they were being dangerous or vicious.

 

[scottishduffy]

Or the ever so classic "I brought you into this world.... and so help me God i can take you out."

I did childcare for years to work throught HS and college. Most of the kids were good, but the bad ones always amazed me. They *knew* that no one could touch them. As a camp counselor our biggest threat was a 5 minute time out. Anything beyond that we were told was abusive. Sure..... 5 minutes really frightens 9 yr olds. If the parents did not care there was really nothing to do.

We had kids try to kick out the knee caps of the director, threw counselors phone down and stomped on it, throw chairs and tables at people, attempt to strangle other kids. I saw kids curse at their parents and then those same parents jumping to attention to do whatever the kid told them to do (I would have been swallowing my own teeth).

My favorite kid was A, who stole another kids backpack and then wrecked his gameboy since child J had told A he 'wasn't allowed to share it'. A's mom came by that afternoon and said it was J's fault for not sharing and for keeping his backpack someplace that A could get to it. 95% of my kids were great, but the bad seeds knew we were not allowed to do anything to them.

 

[AprilShowers]

I totally agree with you, but let me tell you what happened to us when DH reprimanded some kids (16 year olds) for skateboarding on our church steps.

We live about five doors down from our church, so they figured out where we live. (we moved about 3 weeks ago).

These kids (it was one boy mostly) started knocking on our windows at night. Our family room windows. I was totally freaked out for weeks thinking someone was peeping at us. (we have teen girls). Police were called a couple of times, but nothing could be done.
THEN DH chased them and caught the ringleader. Police called, footprints in the mud matched, already on probation for something else......yada yada yada.

His mom begged us (via police officer) to not press charges he was in enough trouble already. She says couldn't he just do yard work for you?
Me - NO WAY I want this kid anywhere near my property or my girls!!

Things stopped for several months, but then he became more aggressive, knocking on the door and running, throwing things onto our porch. It was really unnerving. The police could do nothing because I didn't "see" him doing it. I did, however, witness him running down the street, but it was dark, etc. etc.
This kid aggravated us for two years! All because DH told him and his friends not to skateboard on the church steps. And there was literally nothing we could do about it unless DH physically caught him again.

DH did chase them again one time, but there were 6 of them! He stopped when he realized that they could be dangerous, and what would he do with 6 kids if he caught them?

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

We saw a couple with a boy in the World Showcase. The boy looked to be about 11 and was walking ahead of the couple. The stopped to sit at the Outback tables. When he turned and saw them, he shouted "What are you b*stards doing?! Get up and come on!" THEY DID.

I was horrified.

The weekend before last we were in Goofy's candy shop with our 5 year old relative. He was picking out candy from the bulk candy display. A group of about 6 boys appearing to be 10-12 in age came in, surrounded him and started taking candy. He of course reached into a bin to do just what they were doing. We stopped him and I said, "That is stealing. We don't steal. You choose the candy you want. Put it in your bag, and then we'll pay for it. Only nasty people steal."

One of the little charmers said, "Are you talking about us?" I told them I absolutely was talking about them and my wife piped up and said "It's pretty obvious guys."

Granted WDW isn't the sum total of society but young people today do not have the same values instilled in them as we like to think we had.

I'm not afraid to comment on someone's behavior (regardless of age) if their actions infringe upon my safety or rights. Had those boys been men, I'd have said the same thing.

Mostly I just move quietly through my life shaking my head. Makes me dizzy.

 

[Robinrs]

My Mother's favorite threat was "I'll knock your teeth down your throat"..I really don't hear that from parents these days...

She didn't actually do it, and I have beautiful teeth

LOL, My favorite line is 'I'll knock you into next week."...so far haven't had to do it

Or the ever so classic "I brought you into this world.... and so help me God i can take you out."

I didn't know MY MOM raised so many people!!!

We saw a couple with a boy in the World Showcase. The boy looked to be about 11 and was walking ahead of the couple. The stopped to sit at the Outback tables. When he turned and saw them, he shouted "What are you b*stards doing?! Get up and come on!" THEY DID.

I was horrified.

Needless to say I woud've NEVER said anything like that but if I did, I WOULD'VE BEEN KNOCKED INTO NEXT WEEK.....

 

[Inigo]

I'm sure I've offended lots of parents over the years, because I will correct a child if no one else will do so. I just use an authoritative voice. I did this even before I became a teacher or a probation officer.

I just figure someone needs to point out that it is never appropriate to act in certain ways.

 

[RN4Babies]

IMO, it's a sad reflection of our society as a whole. I think it's sad how little regard we seem to have for other people, very little to no respect, and that so many people think of themselves before others. I'm 48 years old, and I was raised to think of others before myself, to respect others, and to live by the golden rule. Kids live what's modeled for them.

 

[ckay87]

we were actually afraid of misbehaving in front of adults, taechers and police officers? I don't know if it's my age(40) or just a sign of the times but I can't believe how disrespectful some kids can be and how afraid some adults are to reprimand kids other than their own. Yesterday while we were eating dinner, some kids were right outside my house using really foul language. I went out and said 'Hey, if you're going to use language like that-get away from my house and do it somewhere else." They moved and didn't say anything rude to me but when i told DH he was like 'they'll probably egg the house" I say the day I'm afraid of 11 year old boys is the day it's all over for me, lol. Anyway, it got me thinking about how some parents refuse to say anything to any kids other than their own and I just don't understand that. I don't go around randomly disciplining kids but in certain circumstances I will say something.When I was a kid, I wouldn't dream of being rude to a grown-up or talking back and now the way I see some of these kids talking to teachers, cops-blows my mind, but then again they way some of them talk to their own parents boggles my mind.

I'm sorry, but if you asked them to move, and they did, what is the problem? DID they egg the house or was your DH just speculating that they would? Did they talk back to you? No, I see they did not. Sounds to me like all went well. This just isn't the best example to support your argument. I just get kind of tired of the "kids nowdays" threads because it is an age-old rant. Don't think our parents weren't saying the same things to their friends when we were kids.