Registering for gifts question

[Rootskate]

This is not a Disney related question (although we are Honeymooning there in May!!), but I wanted to get some opinions on this from everyone....Do you think it is tacky to register for gifts for your bridal shower/wedding? I know that it is common practice here (Connecticut), but I still feel kind of wierd about making up a list of things for people to buy for us. What do you think?

 

[FutureAshleyDukes]

I don't think it's tacky at all. It's pretty much become a tradition in today's society that brides register for gifts. I think it's a great way for people to find out what you actually need and want instead of bombarding the bride with questions during such a busy time. Besides there isn't a rule that states that everyone HAS to get you something from your registry. I've bought good friends of mind honeymoon photo albums and other stuff that I knew they would enjoy, but wasn't at the stores that they registered at. I do think it's very tacky to list where your registered at in your wedding invitation, the last wedding I was invited to had a small piece of paper slipped into the RSVP envelope telling me where the bride and groom was registered. I was totally caught off guard by this, and thought that it was a really cheap way to let people know where your registered at. I was planning on asking her maid of honor where she was registered at.

 

[gradtchr]

I don't think it is at all tacky. I know that for weddings I went to I wanted to get the couple something I knew they needed and having a choice was perfect. Since the registry has different priced items I was able to get them something within my budget that I knew they would appreciate. I also think it is very helpful to prevent a couple from getting 10 toasters.

I am having a hard time figuring out what to register for right now because it's hard to take stock of what my fiance and I have in our households already that we don't need duplicates of, and those that we do need duplicates of like new pots and pans.

One of my friends was peeved with me because I had not registered before Christmas for our July wedding because she wanted to get me a Christmas gift off my registry.

 

[jamie0201]

I personally dont think it is tacky at all. My fiance and I registered at Bed Bath and Beyond and Crate and Barrell. My Maid of Honor who is throwing my Bridal Shower, let people know where I was registered for the Shower.

I agree with futureashleydukes when it comes to putting where you are registered in your wedding invitations. We are not doing that.

Good Luck
Jamie

 

[Rootskate]

Its funny you mentioned that about not putting where you are registered at in the invitation! When my Maid of Honor (sister) was encouraging me to register I said to her "If i do it PLEASE dont make mention of it on the invitations!!" I said this because I have received invitations with a note slipped inside as to where the person was registered and thought it seemed tacky. Having said that, whenever I do get invited to an event I am always happy to find out that the person is registered because it makes it so much easir to get them a gift! Thank you all for your replys. I feel better about it now.

 

[TrickyFish]

How would you let people know where you were registered if it wasn't in the invitation? Every wedding I've been involved in or invited to included a little buisness type card that listed where the b/g were registered, so it doesn't seem odd or tacky to me.

If I were to have a wedding with something like 250 guests (which I wouldn't if it was at WDW) I'd hate for my MOH to be bombarded with people calling/e-mailing her asking where we were registered.

 

[FutureAshleyDukes]

How would you let people know where you were registered if it wasn't in the invitation? Every wedding I've been involved in or invited to included a little buisness type card that listed where the b/g were registered, so it doesn't seem odd or tacky to me.

If I were to have a wedding with something like 250 guests (which I wouldn't if it was at WDW) I'd hate for my MOH to be bombarded with people calling/e-mailing her asking where we were registered.

Etiquette wise it's inappropriate to put the business cards in the wedding invitations, it is okay to put them in shower invitations. Really you can pick up any bridal magazine and they'll tell you the same. The business cards are from the companies that you register at, and all they pretty much care about is getting the business not about proper ettiquette.

 

[TrickyFish]

Etiquette wise it's inappropriate to put the business cards in the wedding invitations, it is okay to put them in shower invitations. Really you can pick up any bridal magazine and they'll tell you the same. The business cards are from the companies that you register at, and all they pretty much care about is getting the business not about proper ettiquette.

Ahh, that makes sense!! Maybe I'm just getting confused about which invite it was in...