really morbid, sad, terrible medical question UPDATE he's gone

[binny]

I dont even know how to say this.....

I posted about dhs Grandfather a couple of weeks ago. He had pulled out his hydrating IV 12 days ago. He has had no food or water since then. he wants to die. his kidneys are shutting down but his heart is still strong.
Im afraid he is suffering terribly. they have him on morphine and he is sedated but it cant be much longer can it? I guess thats my question. Im just so sad about it and I dont know what to do. DH cant get time of until he passes away. So I guess there isnt much I CAN do anyway. *sigh*
Thanks for listening.

 

[floridafam]

Hang in there.

There's no answer as to how long it can be.

My brother was dying of cancer and was on a morphine drip. Eventually they stopped all medication because they knew it would be soon. The Hospice nurses seemed to know by signs what was happening. His hear rate got so high.

I know it's hard. All you can do is try to be helpful and supportive. Just take a deep breath every now and then to keep yourself calm.

Hugs to you and your family.

 

[KristaTX]

I don't know what to say , except I am sorry you are having to go through this. I've said a prayer for you and your family .

 

[floridafam]

I just wanted to clarify. He chose to stop all of the medication. It just didn't work after a while.


You will be in our thoughts and prayers.

 

[Serena]

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

 

[binny]

yes he too chose to have all IVs and tubes removed with the exception of the morphine drip.
he is 93 and his wife died several years ago and he wants to be with her.

 

[Hillbeans]

Unfortunately it sounds like he's got a very strong heart and he's starving himself to death. What a horrid story. I'm sorry you're going through this.

It's a shame some people suffer terribly before passing. We lost a dear friend who was 29 a few years back. He just dropped dead one day. It was awfully sad, yet I often think he didn't even know what hit him and he never suffered.

 

[4nana]

I truly feel your pain.
It is so sad to watch a loved one suffer and who can blame them for wanting it to be over when there is no hope. My dear SIL lasted a month after Hospice's estimated date.....just on ice chips. I will say a prayer that your DHGF is not in pain and for God to grant your family faith and strength. Sad, but sometimes you need to remind them how much you love them, but it is ok if they are ready to go.

God Bless ^i^
Sandie

 

[TLinden16]

Hang in there, Sock girl. I hope that the morphine is making him comfortable. Thoughts and prayers are with your hubby, his grandfather, you and your family.

Karen

 

[Pooh67_68]

 

[figment95]

At the risk of sounding morbid..... My dad passed away in March. He had cancer but ultimately his kidneys failed. The nurses and doctors at the hospital told us that kidney failure is not painful or uncomfortable. I hope that can be somewhat of a comfort. I know how horrible it is to watch someone you love fade away before your eyes. My prayers are with you and your family.

 

[grinningghost]

 

[EsmeraldaX]

 

[tinaluis]

I will say a prayer for you and your family. My Grandmother was 84 when she was dx with advanced stage breast cancer. She chose not to take any medicine or receive any treatment for the cancer and instead received hospice care at home. She died about 2 months later. It was hard to watch her suffer but I respected her decision not to receive treatment/medicine. She was a very brave woman who just wanted to go to heaven to be with her DH who had passed away 22 years before. She had one last day where she was feeling energized, coherent and spent the day laughing and telling us stories. Two days later she was gone. I remember talking to my DH and feeling guilty when I said that I just wanted her to be at peace already, to die, but it was such a relief when it happened. I hope your husbands Grandfather doesn't suffer much longer. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[binny]

thank you all.

figment that is a reassurance. thank you.

he is in Canada and we are in the US so Im not there to know whats going on. Dh is upset but I think he's handling it ok. Ive never been really close to my inlaws but this is bringing back memories of my own my own fathers death and I know how he suffered. I just dont want to see anyone else go through that

 

[binny]

Grandfather passed away today at 3 pm.
Thank you all for your prayers and good wishes.
he will be missed.

 

[floridafam]

So sorry.

You will continue to be in our prayers.

 

[janette]

So sorry, prayers for you and your family

 

[Disneymomma]

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.